MeetRosalind Sedacca, CCT Rosalind Sedacca is an author, an award-winning professional speaker, and Certified Corporate Trainer specializing in both communication and relationship issues. She has facilitated workshops and seminars throughout North America on creating 'conscious' relationships for both singles and couples. Based on her own personal experience, she wrote How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children - with Love! This internationally acclaimed ebook provides an innovative new approach to breaking the divorce news to your children and setting the stage for positive parenting ahead. At Rosalind's Child-Centered Divorce Network parents will find resources and tools to help them create successful outcomes for the entire family in the months, years and decades to come.
"Rosalind's book is unique in that it offers parents an innovative approach to having that difficult and usually dreaded initial conversation with their children and making it as positive and supportive as possible. A parent contemplating a divorce would be well served by reading this valuable book."
Raoul Felder,Celebrity Divorce Attorney
"Rosalind's brilliant book's non-judgmental, compassionate and no-nonsense approach will resonate with all divorcing parents – even those with the most challenging relationships. It is a critical piece of the divorce puzzle, and a must read!"
Cynthia Tiano, Esq."I highly recommend this as more than a book, but a tool to assist children to more successfully navigate the disorientation and maze that comes as part of divorce."
C. Paul Wanio, Ph.D., LMFT, LMHC"This hands-on interactive storybook is a must for all parents going through a divorce. It is a step-by-step guide for appropriately including children in the process. No parent should leave their home without it!"
Sally Goldberg, PhDCenter for Successful Children
"Rosalind Sedacca has invaluable information to share with divorcing parents. There is no other book a couple needs to help them with the most difficult conversation a parent can have with a child, that their parents are getting divorced. You are VERY lucky to have found my partner in the peaceful divorce movement."
Belinda Rachman, Esq"Rosalind Sedacca has just improved the lives of countless children. I have practiced divorce law for 44 years and will attest to the importance of how children are introduced to their parents' divorce. How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? gives us something simple and sound to rely upon. There is absolutely no downside to Rosalind's storybook concept. It's all good and it beats anything else that I've come across. In fact, it's great and it is definitely something that the world has needed. The book is a winner and it is also a lifesaver."
J. Richard Kulerski, Esq"Rosalind Sedacca has made a monumental contribution to self-help resources in an area that affects the lives of millions of men, women and children. After 32 years of counseling people in various stages of uncoupling, I can testify to the urgent need of a "how to" guide for people contemplating divorce. This book offers them a "life preserver." I have already referred my patients to this material and have received great feedback. I cannot recommend this book highly enough."
Beverly Gibel, LCSW, ACSW, BCD"Rosalind Sedacca's 'How Do I Tell the Kids about the DIVORCE?' is a much needed breakthrough in the emotional minefield that parents traverse when they prepare their children for an impending divorce. The template, storybook strategy sends sensitive, kind, loving and safe messages which every child needs as they prepare for the scary unknown. I recommend her book for everyone who has children and is contemplating divorce."
Jack Singer, Ph.D.Licensed Clinical & Forensic Psychologist, LCSW, ACSW, BCD
A Warning for Divorced Parents with Teens: Keep Dads Actively Parenting
>online casino I have several divorced friends and colleagues with teenagers who are displaying disturbing behavior problems. These teens, especially the boys, are acting out in all the ways parents pray they never have to experience: drugs, hanging with the wrong crowd, school problems, disrespectful and inconsiderate behavior — you get the idea.
While each of these teens have parents who are divorced, there’s more to it than just that. Their biological fathers are not playing a strong role in their lives. And their mothers do not have
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This is one of the things I fear. My son is ten, and his mom and I have been divorced since he was three.
I try to call him every night, but he is entering that stage where he doesn’t want to talk that much to his parents. When he is with me, I try to do a lot with him, and I am encouraged that during his last visit, we went to a wing place, and he said he’d like to make that a regular thing he and I did.
Thanks for sharing your concerns about this topic, Tim. Sounds like you’re right on target with keeping connected to your son. Creating special routines is an excellent way to bond and maintain your connection as your son moves into the teen years. It’s natural for him to grow more independent and spend more time with his friends as he ages. That doesn’t mean his bond with you will lessen on a deep emotional basis. He may not need to spend as much time with you, but he will continue to know you are there for him. Chat with him while driving or watching TV about current events relevant to pre-teens: drugs, sex, respect for girls, school grades, responsible behavior, etc. as the topics come up in normal conversation. He will know he can talk to you about important issues in his life. Then trust that your relationship will remain strong despite the challenges that come with the teen years. It will!
Thanks again for responding. We all appreciate your candor and concern.
Sincerely,
Rosalind Sedacca
The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce
I too think it is so important that father’s stay very active in both their son’s and daughter’s lives. Tim must be such a wonderful father. I have a friend who has just gone trough a nasty divorce. She has two little boys and does everything she can to ensure that her boys don’t get to spend time with their father. I can see how difficult it is for her to turn her sons over to him (he cheated on her and is now living with the lady he cheated on her with). I bought her a great book titled, “STOP fighting Over the Kids” by Mike Mastracci, and hope that this book can make a difference in her thinking. I read it recently because my husband and I have been going through a lot of challenges. I bought it because I wanted to learn how to not involve my children in our quarrels. It has helped me out immensely. I found the book easy to read and jam-packed with insights, information and guidance, the likes of which I have yet to see anywhere else.
I have b/g 15yr old twins. Have been divorced for 5 years and I have full custody as of this last year since joint wasn’t working out. Their father has never taken an active role in thier life except at his convienience.He doesn’t go to any school functions, activities or anything with the kids.He has visitation but doesn’t show up and when he does he usually just wants their younger sister and brother.I work fulltime and still try to attend every sport and school activity they have and lately they have been very disrespectful and always picking arguments and fights with everyone.They use horrible language and when I try to ground them or anything they get worse and finally they yell I want to go to dads then.Problem there, their dad won’t come for visits or anything else.Any help would be great because I am out of ideas.
Hi Kay: Thanks for sharing your challenges. Sounds like you’re in a tough position as the full-time parent who gets the brunt of the flack from kids who are feeling frustrations, insecurities and other disturbing emotions due to Dad not being meaningfully in their lives.
A counselor would be helpful for all to talk to. This is a tough time for teens without the weight of the divorce adding to their emotional burdens. They need to understand that their Dad’s rejection is not their fault; they are are wonderful children never-the-less. At the same time they need to hear that you are not their enemy and don’t deserve their abuse. But it’s not easy for them to “get” these messages.
Perhaps a Group therapy program for teens coping with divorce issues will allow them to vent in the company of others who understand what they are experiencing.
Don’t do nothing. Things will not get better unless you take proactive action in a therapeutic direction. Remind your children of your love, that you are family, and that Dad is always invited to participate with them. Don’t give up. There are resources available to help you.
Best wishes,
Rosalind