Comments on: A Happy Ending After One of Life’s Greatest Challenges! http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/a-happy-ending-after-one-of-lifes-greatest-challenges A resource for parents handling divorce or separation. Sound advice, workable solutions and a compassionate ear from caring professionals and a Mom who wrote the book on How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? Fri, 20 Aug 2010 14:26:33 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Rosalind Sedacca http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/a-happy-ending-after-one-of-lifes-greatest-challenges/comment-page-1#comment-108 Rosalind Sedacca Sat, 13 Sep 2008 16:47:09 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/?p=35#comment-108 Thank you, Chris, for your comments. My heart goes out to you at this time. And I appreciate your candor. Yes, you are right. There are no guarantees about happy endings at any point in our lives. And, sad to say, too many of us repeat patterns in our parent's histories, creating more pain generation after generation. The only way for this to stop is through self-AWARENESS -- the ability to look at our patterns and history and make a conscious determination not to follow blindly in that path. Your husband did not make the choice of awareness and is creating more of the pain his family lived through when he was young. I pray your children will be wiser when they grow up. It is difficult not to be vindictive and want to hurt your husband at this time by bringing the children into the picture. Please don't let them pay the price as pawns. Let your children be as minimally scarred by this as possible by putting their best interest first in all your subsequent decisions. They will thank you when they are grown. I know this is a very difficult period in your life and I wish you the very best possible outcome. There are no easy solutions or pat answers. Just try to be the role model your children need at this time. Again thank you for sharing your challenges. I wish you a "happy ending" for everyone in your family. Sincerely, Rosalind Thank you, Chris, for your comments. My heart goes out to you at this time. And I appreciate your candor.

Yes, you are right. There are no guarantees about happy endings at any point in our lives. And, sad to say, too many of us repeat patterns in our parent’s histories, creating more pain generation after generation.

The only way for this to stop is through self-AWARENESS — the ability to look at our patterns and history and make a conscious determination not to follow blindly in that path. Your husband did not make the choice of awareness and is creating more of the pain his family lived through when he was young. I pray your children will be wiser when they grow up.

It is difficult not to be vindictive and want to hurt your husband at this time by bringing the children into the picture. Please don’t let them pay the price as pawns. Let your children be as minimally scarred by this as possible by putting their best interest first in all your subsequent decisions. They will thank you when they are grown.

I know this is a very difficult period in your life and I wish you the very best possible outcome. There are no easy solutions or pat answers. Just try to be the role model your children need at this time.

Again thank you for sharing your challenges. I wish you a “happy ending” for everyone in your family.

Sincerely,
Rosalind

]]> By: Chris http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/a-happy-ending-after-one-of-lifes-greatest-challenges/comment-page-1#comment-107 Chris Sat, 13 Sep 2008 10:51:49 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/?p=35#comment-107 My husband and are both the product of parents who had affairs. Mine stayed in it and kept the marriage alive...his split. Our wedding was an equally joyous occasion with his mothers comments sounding just like yours. Two nights ago he told me he began an affair a year after we were married and it has been going on for 6 years. We have two children. Don't be so sure this wedding is a "happy ending"...for us it was the beginning of devastation. My husband and are both the product of parents who had affairs. Mine stayed in it and kept the marriage alive…his split. Our wedding was an equally joyous occasion with his mothers comments sounding just like yours. Two nights ago he told me he began an affair a year after we were married and it has been going on for 6 years. We have two children. Don’t be so sure this wedding is a “happy ending”…for us it was the beginning of devastation.

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