Comments on: July is Child-Centered Divorce Month http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/july-is-child-centered-divorce-month A resource for parents handling divorce or separation. Sound advice, workable solutions and a compassionate ear from caring professionals and a Mom who wrote the book on How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? Sat, 17 Jul 2010 20:58:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Rosalind Sedacca http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/july-is-child-centered-divorce-month/comment-page-1#comment-1395 Rosalind Sedacca Wed, 02 Sep 2009 15:21:57 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/tba#comment-1395 First, you need to get sound legal advice regarding child-support payments. If you're in phone contact with him, find out if he still cares about maintaining his relationship with the children? Explain to him their perspective about not seeing their Dad. Use emotional language to convey their hurt, disappointment and insecurity when Dad is no longer consistently in their lives. Encourage him to use email communication and phone calls with the children on a frequent basis. You may need coaching services or a support group to help you through this once you understand what his intentions are and the motivation behind his behavior. Never give up. Keep your communication always focused on the children. Don't put him on the defensive. Just remind him of how much he means to the kids. Happy to provide telephone coaching if you desire. Best wishes to you. Rosalind First, you need to get sound legal advice regarding child-support payments.

If you’re in phone contact with him, find out if he still cares about maintaining his relationship with the children? Explain to him their perspective about not seeing their Dad. Use emotional language to convey their hurt, disappointment and insecurity when Dad is no longer consistently in their lives. Encourage him to use email communication and phone calls with the children on a frequent basis.

You may need coaching services or a support group to help you through this once you understand what his intentions are and the motivation behind his behavior.

Never give up. Keep your communication always focused on the children. Don’t put him on the defensive. Just remind him of how much he means to the kids. Happy to provide telephone coaching if you desire.

Best wishes to you.

Rosalind

]]> By: Kristen Cirone http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/july-is-child-centered-divorce-month/comment-page-1#comment-1393 Kristen Cirone Wed, 02 Sep 2009 11:13:14 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/tba#comment-1393 I'm going thru a divorce and have 4 children. Three of them are from my ex-husband. He was seeing them every other weekend and now he only sees them when he wants to. But now that he does not have a driver's liscense he can't drive to pick them up and he won't give me his address to drop them off. He hasn't paid child support in a year since he left. What should I do? I’m going thru a divorce and have 4 children. Three of them are from my ex-husband. He was seeing them every other weekend and now he only sees them when he wants to. But now that he does not have a driver’s liscense he can’t drive to pick them up and he won’t give me his address to drop them off. He hasn’t paid child support in a year since he left. What should I do?

]]> By: Rosalind Sedacca http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/july-is-child-centered-divorce-month/comment-page-1#comment-3 Rosalind Sedacca Sat, 14 Jul 2007 15:26:58 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/tba#comment-3 Thank you, Rosalind, for your amazing insight into this very difficult subject. After buying your book and convincing my wife to read it with me, we realized that our children needed to be placed at the head of the line. We followed your roadmap, filled in the blanks in your story book with our story and presented it to our kids, aged 9 and 12. Despite the fact that our family is breaking up after 16 years of marriage, our children understand theat they are loved by both parents, that they will always be our children and have a much better understanding of human dynamics and the hows and whys of a broken marriage. We all feel better, we're all getting along and the process is moving along smoothly. Thank you so much for your good work and much success with your book. TW, South Florida Thank you, Rosalind, for your amazing insight into this very difficult subject. After buying your book and convincing my wife to read it with me, we realized that our children needed to be placed at the head of the line. We followed your roadmap, filled in the blanks in your story book with our story and presented it to our kids, aged 9 and 12. Despite the fact that our family is breaking up after 16 years of marriage, our children understand theat they are loved by both parents, that they will always be our children and have a much better understanding of human dynamics and the hows and whys of a broken marriage. We all feel better, we’re all getting along and the process is moving along smoothly.

Thank you so much for your good work and much success with your book.

TW, South Florida

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