Comments on: Parental Alienation – a Divorce Disaster Sure to Alienate Your Children http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children A resource for parents handling divorce or separation. Sound advice, workable solutions and a compassionate ear from caring professionals and a Mom who wrote the book on How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? Thu, 20 Nov 2008 06:25:41 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Rosalind Sedacca http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-133 Rosalind Sedacca Thu, 30 Oct 2008 15:10:24 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-133 Hi Dad: Thanks for your kind words. Let me suggest this in response to your question. I believe your wife might be afraid to rock the boat and hurt your children -- and I know you both are very concerned about this. I understand the need to protect your children and, at the same time, you want them to understand the power of honesty. When they grow older they will resent their parents living a lie through them. I sincerely suggest that you purchase my ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children -- with Love? Read it first and absorb the messages from the six psychotherapists who contribute their expertise. Then email it to your wife to read. One or both of you can put together the personal family "storybook" to share with your twins. Reading the book will give your wife a lot to think about. She will see that your twins needn't be scarred by the divorce if you both commit to continuing the loving parenting you are doing. By creating a "child-centered" divorce, you will give your children the best possible outcome while giving you and your wife a new start in life, as well. The honesty will free you both and your twins will one day thank you for being honest and role modeling positive post-divorce parenting. You can find my book at www.howdoitellthekids.com. You'll also see the many endorsements I've received by therapists, mediators, attorneys, educators and clergy through out the U.S. and beyond. Best wishes to your entire family. Best wishes, Rosalind Sedacca, CCT The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce P.S. One of the bonuses that comes with my ebook is a complimentary 20-minute telephone coaching call with Amy Sherman, LMHC, one of the contributors to my book. In addition, I also offer private telephone coaching if you are interested. Hi Dad:

Thanks for your kind words. Let me suggest this in response to your question.

I believe your wife might be afraid to rock the boat and hurt your children — and I know you both are very concerned about this.

I understand the need to protect your children and, at the same time, you want them to understand the power of honesty. When they grow older they will resent their parents living a lie through them.

I sincerely suggest that you purchase my ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children — with Love? Read it first and absorb the messages from the six psychotherapists who contribute their expertise. Then email it to your wife to read.

One or both of you can put together the personal family “storybook” to share with your twins. Reading the book will give your wife a lot to think about. She will see that your twins needn’t be scarred by the divorce if you both commit to continuing the loving parenting you are doing. By creating a “child-centered” divorce, you will give your children the best possible outcome while giving you and your wife a new start in life, as well.

The honesty will free you both and your twins will one day thank you for being honest and role modeling positive post-divorce parenting.

You can find my book at http://www.howdoitellthekids.com. You’ll also see the many endorsements I’ve received by therapists, mediators, attorneys, educators and clergy through out the U.S. and beyond.

Best wishes to your entire family.

Best wishes,
Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce

P.S. One of the bonuses that comes with my ebook is a complimentary 20-minute telephone coaching call with Amy Sherman, LMHC, one of the contributors to my book. In addition, I also offer private telephone coaching if you are interested.

]]> By: Dad http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-131 Dad Thu, 30 Oct 2008 01:20:04 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-131 I just found your site tonight and notice that you have an interesting perspective on a familiar situation. So far it looks very helpful! However, I need a little advice…I have been to a parenting counselor to discuss my intuitions and he thinks that I’m on the right track. This has been burning at me for sometime! Please tell me what you think. Thanks We’ve been separated for 4 years and our twin daughters are now 6. The girls think everything is normal and that the reason Daddy doesn’t stay or live here is because I work far away (which is true). I see them on most weekends, pretty much have an open door policy and our relationship (Mom & Dad) is OK! Yes, we still do some things as a family. But, if we got divorced then everything would change from her stand point. I think as parents setting the example for their future, we are failing for not being honest to them. I don’t want them to think this normal! We (as parents) have not explained your reasoning for this situation and in her opinion mums the word! Your site will help me down the road but she doesn’t what to say anything to rock the boat. I think we should. I have talked to her about a family pow-wow with good intentions but get nowhere. My question is I know we need to tell them (before it’s too late), but how can I convince her it’s the right thing to do? Or is she right? Thanks for your time I just found your site tonight and notice that you have an interesting perspective on a familiar situation. So far it looks very helpful!

However, I need a little advice…I have been to a parenting counselor to discuss my intuitions and he thinks that I’m on the right track. This has been burning at me for sometime! Please tell me what you think. Thanks

We’ve been separated for 4 years and our twin daughters are now 6. The girls think everything is normal and that the reason Daddy doesn’t stay or live here is because I work far away (which is true). I see them on most weekends, pretty much have an open door policy and our relationship (Mom & Dad) is OK! Yes, we still do some things as a family. But, if we got divorced then everything would change from her stand point.

I think as parents setting the example for their future, we are failing for not being honest to them. I don’t want them to think this normal! We (as parents) have not explained your reasoning for this situation and in her opinion mums the word!

Your site will help me down the road but she doesn’t what to say anything to rock the boat. I think we should. I have talked to her about a family pow-wow with good intentions but get nowhere.

My question is I know we need to tell them (before it’s too late), but how can I convince her it’s the right thing to do? Or is she right?

Thanks for your time

]]> By: Rosalind Sedacca http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-87 Rosalind Sedacca Tue, 24 Jun 2008 23:17:45 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-87 Thank you for your comments, Dr. Sommer. I appreciate your support and agree with you that parental alienation must be uncovered and understood for all its negative repercussions. July is National Child-Centered Divorce Month and I hope you will join me and others across the nation in spreading the word about successful divorce strategies that every parent can implement for a brighter future. Best regards, Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Thank you for your comments, Dr. Sommer. I appreciate your support and agree with you that parental alienation must be uncovered and understood for all its negative repercussions.

July is National Child-Centered Divorce Month and I hope you will join me and others across the nation in spreading the word about successful divorce strategies that every parent can implement for a brighter future.

Best regards,
Rosalind Sedacca, CCT

]]> By: Dr. Reena Sommer http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-86 Dr. Reena Sommer Tue, 24 Jun 2008 19:47:23 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-86 The more articles about parental alienation posted on the net the better. Education is an important component in bringing about change. Thank you for your well written article. The more articles about parental alienation posted on the net the better. Education is an important component in bringing about change.

Thank you for your well written article.

]]> By: Rosalind Sedacca http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-85 Rosalind Sedacca Fri, 20 Jun 2008 17:16:34 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-85 Many thanks, Mark, for your comments. I appreciate your support and kind words. It is never too late to undo errors we've made regarding parenting and divorce if we share with our children sincere words of apology -- or new directions we want to take -- even if our children are adults. There are no easy answers, especially to nasty divorces from the past, but by being as authentic as we can in owning our own actions we can open the door to healing within our children -- young or grown. Best wishes to you -- and I encourage everyone to keep up the dialog. Rosalind Sedacca, CCT The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce www.childcentereddivorce.com Many thanks, Mark, for your comments. I appreciate your support and kind words. It is never too late to undo errors we’ve made regarding parenting and divorce if we share with our children sincere words of apology — or new directions we want to take — even if our children are adults.

There are no easy answers, especially to nasty divorces from the past, but by being as authentic as we can in owning our own actions we can open the door to healing within our children — young or grown.

Best wishes to you — and I encourage everyone to keep up the dialog.

Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce
http://www.childcentereddivorce.com

]]> By: Mark Nelson http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-84 Mark Nelson Fri, 20 Jun 2008 12:12:03 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-84 I watched my sister go through a nasty divorce. Their oldest daughter has been affected the most. She is very successful financially but struggles with her identity. Keep up the good work helping families through this trying time. I watched my sister go through a nasty divorce. Their oldest daughter has been affected the most. She is very successful financially but struggles with her identity. Keep up the good work helping families through this trying time.

]]> By: Rosalind Sedacca http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-66 Rosalind Sedacca Mon, 19 May 2008 00:09:56 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-66 Thank you, Renae, for your comments. I appreciate your support and am very enthusiastic about recommending your new book. We share a strong focus on bringing to light the injustices that too many children must endure as the result of parental decisions not based on their children's best emotional and psychological needs. If parents could put themselves in their children's mindset and try to experience the pain of being torn between two parents out to hurt one another, they would better understand the burden they place on their innocent children's shoulders. Thank you for making such a positive difference in so many lives through your teachings and counseling. I welcome your commentary at any time on this website and blog. Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Thank you, Renae, for your comments. I appreciate your support and am very enthusiastic about recommending your new book. We share a strong focus on bringing to light the injustices that too many children must endure as the result of parental decisions not based on their children’s best emotional and psychological needs.

If parents could put themselves in their children’s mindset and try to experience the pain of being torn between two parents out to hurt one another, they would better understand the burden they place on their innocent children’s shoulders.

Thank you for making such a positive difference in so many lives through your teachings and counseling.

I welcome your commentary at any time on this website and blog.

Rosalind Sedacca, CCT

]]> By: Dr. Renae Lapin, LMFT http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-65 Dr. Renae Lapin, LMFT Sun, 18 May 2008 22:46:39 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-65 Your website and blog are both excellent resoures for joint custody families where children are being raised by co-parents. I would like to introduce your readers to my new book: "School Days and the Divorce Maze: A Complete Guide for Joint Custody Parents in Managing Your Child's Successful School Career" by Dr. Renae Lapin, LMFT. Any parent, child or professional who wishes to explore Parent Alienation Syndrome can read 64 compelling true stories directly taken from the experiences of traumatized children receiving therapy. As one therapist/mediator commented: "If those stories brought tears to my eyes, they will certainly influence parents who unwittingly are inflicting trauma on their precious children" In addition to the 64 short stories from the child's perspective, 32 school issues are presented with simple, direct, no-nonsense advice on how to increase the protective factors and decrease the risk factors for promoting happiness and success in children being raised by joint custody parents. For ordering and more information about this invaluable resource, visit my website: www.mytherapysite.com/jointcustody Check out the book review in June's South Florida Parenting Magazine! Your website and blog are both excellent resoures for joint custody families where children are being raised by co-parents. I would like to introduce your readers to my new book: “School Days and the Divorce Maze: A Complete Guide for Joint Custody Parents in Managing Your Child’s Successful School Career” by Dr. Renae Lapin, LMFT.
Any parent, child or professional who wishes to explore Parent Alienation Syndrome can read 64 compelling true stories directly taken from the experiences of traumatized children receiving therapy. As one therapist/mediator commented: “If those stories brought tears to my eyes, they will certainly influence parents who unwittingly are inflicting trauma on their precious children”
In addition to the 64 short stories from the child’s perspective, 32 school issues are presented with simple, direct, no-nonsense advice on how to increase the protective factors and decrease the risk factors for promoting happiness and success in children being raised by joint custody parents.
For ordering and more information about this invaluable resource, visit my website: http://www.mytherapysite.com/jointcustody
Check out the book review in June’s South Florida Parenting Magazine!

]]> By: Faydra Rector-Sargent http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-43 Faydra Rector-Sargent Fri, 21 Mar 2008 03:42:37 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-43 Sorry folks, please see the change in address http://faydraandcompany.blogspot.com/ Sorry folks, please see the change in address
http://faydraandcompany.blogspot.com/

]]> By: Faydra Rector-Sargent http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-42 Faydra Rector-Sargent Fri, 21 Mar 2008 03:39:01 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-42 This is such a fabulous site devoted to all things children and divorce. As a divorce coach, I try to help families create the best possible post divorce relationships. When a step-parent relationship begins in your family, you as a natural parent have to learn how best to navigate this new dynamic. I wish I could say that all grown-ups act in their families best interest, but we all know that isn't always the case. If you are the natural mother and your husband has introduced a new wife into the mix, it can be difficult at best. The main thing for you to remember is that there is no way for you to manage this new person. Any deficit they bring, you will not be able to force them to change. Remember force negates. The best advice I received from my mentor was that the children will be able to recognize the deceit in another and label it so as they grow. If you live in a state that recognizes mediation, then a court mediator or private mediator can help negotiate behaviors that are not a positie mix in your family. The best advice I can give is the golden rule. learned first hand that if you choose the high road, over time you will see the results. If you do not react the the negativity from the new spouse, your ex, over time will step in and stop the situation. It is when you react and perpetuate the negativity that the drama continues. In addition, as children get older, they begin to call the adults on their behavior and it can be curbed that way too. This is such a fabulous site devoted to all things children and divorce. As a divorce coach, I try to help families create the best possible post divorce relationships. When a step-parent relationship begins in your family, you as a natural parent have to learn how best to navigate this new dynamic. I wish I could say that all grown-ups act in their families best interest, but we all know that isn’t always the case. If you are the natural mother and your husband has introduced a new wife into the mix, it can be difficult at best. The main thing for you to remember is that there is no way for you to manage this new person. Any deficit they bring, you will not be able to force them to change. Remember force negates. The best advice I received from my mentor was that the children will be able to recognize the deceit in another and label it so as they grow. If you live in a state that recognizes mediation, then a court mediator or private mediator can help negotiate behaviors that are not a positie mix in your family. The best advice I can give is the golden rule. learned first hand that if you choose the high road, over time you will see the results. If you do not react the the negativity from the new spouse, your ex, over time will step in and stop the situation. It is when you react and perpetuate the negativity that the drama continues. In addition, as children get older, they begin to call the adults on their behavior and it can be curbed that way too.

]]> By: Rosalind Sedacca http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-27 Rosalind Sedacca Sat, 09 Feb 2008 17:18:37 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-27 Thank you, Lorna, for your passionate plea to parents experiencing divorce. It is vital that parents think about the consequences of their actions before making any decisions regarding parenting and divorce. The effects on children are life-long. Keep up the good work with the children in your program. I appreciate your support of my child-centered divorce communications and invite you to add your commentary on a regular basis. Best wishes, Rosalind Sedacca, CCT rosalind@childcentereddivorce.com Thank you, Lorna, for your passionate plea to parents experiencing divorce. It is vital that parents think about the consequences of their actions before making any decisions regarding parenting and divorce. The effects on children are life-long. Keep up the good work with the children in your program. I appreciate your support of my child-centered divorce communications and invite you to add your commentary on a regular basis.

Best wishes,
Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
rosalind@childcentereddivorce.com

]]> By: Lorna Solito http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-26 Lorna Solito Sat, 09 Feb 2008 06:52:12 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-26 My name is Lorna Solito, Founder of Jeremiah's House of Hope Bay Area. We are an affiliation of National House of Hope, Orlando. Many of the children who come and live at these homes are children who are suffering from the affects of their parents divorce. As Rosalind states, "no one wins when parental alienation runs its course during and after a divorce. But it’s the children in particular who lose in a big way. Many of them are affected for life." I watched my son suffer at the demise of our family, and it is my desire to help others not make the same mistakes we did. I urge all parents facing divorce to think through the steps before taking action, and use the resources and tools made available to you to assure your child gets what they need during this turbulent time - making sure they're free to love and be loved by both of their parents. You can contact Lorna at: lornasolito@sbcglobal.net or for information regarding House of Hope visit us at www.jeremiahshouseofhopebayarea.org My name is Lorna Solito, Founder of Jeremiah’s House of Hope Bay Area. We are an affiliation of National House of Hope, Orlando. Many of the children who come and live at these homes are children who are suffering from the affects of their parents divorce. As Rosalind states, “no one wins when parental alienation runs its course during and after a divorce. But it’s the children in particular who lose in a big way. Many of them are affected for life.”
I watched my son suffer at the demise of our family, and it is my desire to help others not make the same mistakes we did. I urge all parents facing divorce to think through the steps before taking action, and use the resources and tools made available to you to assure your child gets what they need during this turbulent time - making sure they’re free to love and be loved by both of their parents.

You can contact Lorna at: lornasolito@sbcglobal.net or for information regarding House of Hope visit us at http://www.jeremiahshouseofhopebayarea.org

]]> By: Joe Goldberg http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-22 Joe Goldberg Mon, 21 Jan 2008 12:50:42 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-22 My name is Joe Goldberg. I am a Medical Legal Consultant and the name of my firm is Goldberg & Associates. We specialize in cases that involve psychological problems defined in Medical literature as Parental Alienation or in a more extreme condition Parental Alienation Syndrome. You might not know that Parental Alienation Syndrome (P.A.S.) is both a medical disorder & a recognized form of Child Abuse. This problem, happens to be rooted in high conflict divorce. To better understand what we do please visit our website at : www.ParentalAlienaton.ca . Goldberg & Associates--the Parental Alienation Specialists If you're the target of Parental Alienation, the Parental Alienation specialists at Goldberg & Associates can help. They operate throughout the U.S. and Canada and assist family law attorneys and targeted parents needing medical-legal consulting services related to Parental Alienation. Call them at 905.481.0367 or visit their website www.parentalalienation.ca Once again, thank you for your support in the prevention of child abuse. Respectfully Yours, Joe Goldberg Goldberg & Associates Tel 905-481-0367 www.ParentalAlienation. My name is Joe Goldberg. I am a Medical Legal Consultant
and the name of my firm is Goldberg & Associates.

We specialize in cases that involve psychological problems
defined in Medical literature as Parental Alienation or in a
more extreme condition Parental Alienation Syndrome.

You might not know that Parental Alienation Syndrome (P.A.S.)
is both a medical disorder & a recognized form of Child Abuse.

This problem, happens to be rooted in high conflict divorce.
To better understand what we do please visit our website at :
http://www.ParentalAlienaton.ca

.
Goldberg & Associates–the Parental Alienation Specialists
If you’re the target of Parental Alienation, the Parental Alienation
specialists at Goldberg & Associates can help. They operate throughout
the U.S. and Canada and assist family law attorneys and targeted
parents needing medical-legal consulting services related to Parental
Alienation. Call them at 905.481.0367 or visit their website
http://www.parentalalienation.ca

Once again, thank you for your support in the prevention of child abuse.

Respectfully Yours,
Joe Goldberg
Goldberg & Associates
Tel 905-481-0367
http://www.ParentalAlienation.

]]> By: Carnival of Family Life #3 | the so called me http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-18 Carnival of Family Life #3 | the so called me Mon, 10 Dec 2007 04:02:53 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-18 [...] Sedacca presents Parental Alienation - a Divorce Disaster Sure to Alienate Your Children posted at ChildCenteredDivorce.com - Rosalind Sedacca, [...] [...] Sedacca presents Parental Alienation - a Divorce Disaster Sure to Alienate Your Children posted at ChildCenteredDivorce.com - Rosalind Sedacca, [...]

]]> By: JHS http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-17 JHS Sat, 08 Dec 2007 19:28:03 +0000 http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/parental-alienation-%e2%80%93-a-divorce-disaster-sure-to-alienate-your-children#comment-17 Thanks for contributing this article to this week's Carnival of Family Life, hosted at <a href="http://www.thesocalledme.net">the so-called me</a> on Monday, December 10, 2007! We have many other wonderful entries, so stop by and read a few! Interested in hosting the Carnival? The schedule is posted at <a href="http://www.jhsiess.com/carnival-family-life/">Colloquium<a>. Thanks for contributing this article to this week’s Carnival of Family Life, hosted at the so-called me on Monday, December 10, 2007! We have many other wonderful entries, so stop by and read a few!

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