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Meet Rosalind Sedacca, CCT
Rosalind Sedacca is recognized as The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce. She is a Divorce & Parenting Coach and Founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents. Rosalind is also the author of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children - with Love! This internationally acclaimed ebook provides an innovative new approach to breaking the divorce news to your children and setting the stage for positive parenting ahead. Rosalind also provides Personal Coaching services, via phone or Skype, on all facets of divorce and parenting issues. Her Mastering Child-Centered Divorce 10-hr Audio Coaching Program with Workbook provides valuable insights, tips and advice on co-parenting successfully on behalf of the children you love! Rosalind’s helpful resources throughout this website will help you create the best possible outcome for your family in the months, years and decades to come.
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"Rosalind's book is unique in that it offers parents an innovative approach to having that difficult and usually dreaded initial conversation with their children and making it as positive and supportive as possible. A parent contemplating a divorce would be well served by reading this valuable book."

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"Rosalind's brilliant book's non-judgmental, compassionate and no-nonsense approach will resonate with all divorcing parents – even those with the most challenging relationships. It is a critical piece of the divorce puzzle, and a must read!"

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"I highly recommend this as more than a book, but a tool to assist children to more successfully navigate the disorientation and maze that comes as part of divorce."

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Center for Successful Children

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"Rosalind Sedacca has made a monumental contribution to self-help resources in an area that affects the lives of millions of men, women and children. After 32 years of counseling people in various stages of uncoupling, I can testify to the urgent need of a "how to" guide for people contemplating divorce. This book offers them a "life preserver." I have already referred my patients to this material and have received great feedback. I cannot recommend this book highly enough."

Beverly Gibel, LCSW, ACSW, BCD

"Rosalind Sedacca's 'How Do I Tell the Kids about the DIVORCE?' is a much needed breakthrough in the emotional minefield that parents traverse when they prepare their children for an impending divorce. The template, storybook strategy sends sensitive, kind, loving and safe messages which every child needs as they prepare for the scary unknown. I recommend her book for everyone who has children and is contemplating divorce."

Jack Singer, Ph.D.
Licensed Clinical & Forensic Psychologist, LCSW, ACSW, BCD

postheadericon Tips for Re-bonding with Children for Parents Alienated After Divorce

By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT

Children can easily and subtly be influenced by both parents during and after divorce. Sometimes the influence is intentional. Other times parents may not be aware of how they are manipulating their children’s affection and allegiance toward themselves and away from their other parent.

Either way, the damage for children can be significant, especially in regards to maintaining a loving connection with both parents when the divorce is over.

Here’s some sound advice for parents who feel targeted for alienation and want to re-establish or keep a healthy parent-child relationship:

• Keep in contact with your children in every possible way. Use video, texts, email and other technology to stay in touch, even on the most basic level.

• Maintain your personal power regarding scheduling activities and contact with the children. Don’t passively enable your kids or your ex to dictate terms and conditions.

• Create fun times worth repeating. Don’t waste time trying to explain your side, convince the kids you’ve been abused or changing their minds about circumstances. Let their positive experiences with you speak for itself.

• Never dismiss or discount your children’s feelings, even if they are expressing anger or fear of you. There’s complex programming behind this that won’t disappear through conflict. Instead, listen, be understanding and start to create new levels of trust and communication on which to build your relationship.

• Be assertive about visits. Waiting until the kids feel like seeing you can be counter-productive. Make specific agreements, arrangements and plans. Keep them – and expect the same from them – or the right time will never take place.

• Regardless of how frustrated you are with your ex and/or your child, don’t express it by losing your temper or acting out with aggression, criticism or punishment. That just feeds and justifies the alienation.

• Resist any form of retaliation. Never get back at your children through rejection. Implying you won’t see them if they don’t want to see you is immature and self-destructive.

• Tempting as it may be, don’t accuse your children of favoring, being intimidated by or protecting their other parent. Most children will deny this, feel misunderstood and even attacked by these accusations.

• Don’t make your children your messengers. Asking them to share your opinion about issues with their other parent weighs them down with pressure, stress and guilt. It’s not their place to speak on your behalf.

• Never say anything that’s disrespectful of your child’s other parent. Bad-mouthing your ex adds fuel to the alienation flames and will back-fire for you faster than you ever imagined.

The process of reclaiming a relationship with your children or strengthen the parent-child bond following a divorce is a slow one. Don’t be impatient or have unrealistic expectations. On the other hand, persistence and consistency are vital to your success. Being a warm, welcoming, loving parent every time you see your children, keeping your tone upbeat and making your time together a positive experience will go a long way toward re-building a trusting bond.

If your alienation circumstances are severe, be sure to seek out professional assistance. If you’re dealing with some of the more subtle levels of confusion in your children, be the role model you know they need and build on every interaction and connection with sincere love.

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Rosalind Sedacca is a Divorce & Parenting Coach, Founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network and author of How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children – with Love! To learn more about the ebook, visit http://www.howdoitellthekids.com. For her free ebook on Post-Divorce Parenting, free ezine, coaching services and other valuable resources for parents, visit: www.childcentereddivorce.com.

 

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