Divorce is a difficult time for everyone involved, but kids especially feel the brunt of the fallout. They don’t understand what’s happening and, more often than not, are powerless to do anything about it. While it is understandable that this is an extremely emotional time in your life, it is up to you to look after your children’s emotional wellbeing. As parents, if both of you can put aside your differences, it will help make it easier for your children to manage the divorce. These 25 blogs contain the best tips for helping them cope, allowing everyone to move on in the most positive way possible.

Breaking the News

The first thing you need to address is how to break the news to the kids. In a lot of cases, kids pick up that there is something wrong without either parent saying a thing. Still, that doesn’t mean that you should rush into telling them. First, take the time to think about what you are going to say. You know your kids better than anyone, but these five blogs will provide you with ideas on how to broach the subject.

Tell The Kids About Divorce: Do’s and Don’t’s
Helping your children through divorce
Put The Kids First: 6 Ways To Tell Them You’re Divorcing
6 Must-Tell Messages to Prepare Kids for Your Divorce
Children and Divorce

Addressing Questions

Once you have told your kids that you are getting divorced, they are naturally going to have a lot of questions. They may not ask the questions straight away, so make sure you’re prepared to sit down with them whenever they are ready. Take your time and consider your answers carefully, as anything you say will affect them.

Children and Divorce – Their Top 3 Questions
How to answer your kid’s questions about your divorce
• How do I answer my kids’ questions about my divorce?
• Questions every divorcing parent should be able to answer
Why Did You and Daddy Get Divorced?

Kids, Divorce and Emotions

Part of the healing process for kids is learning to deal with their emotions after the divorce. They may become erratic in their behaviors, which is something that can seem to manifest out of nowhere or build up gradually. Anger, depression or becoming reclusive are typical signs that your kids are not coping well, so keep a close eye on them even when they seem fine. To help you identify and address the emotional issues that your kids will face, read these five blogs.

Helping Children with Divorce or Separation
Children and Divorce – 6 Important Ways to Help Your Kids Heal
• Coping With Change After Divorce
Rule Number One
Divorce and Children: Helping Kids Deal With the Effects

Being the Adult

This part is all about you and your ex-spouse. Obviously there are reasons behind why you decided to divorce. Whether the divorce was amicable or unpleasant, you have to be careful about how you act towards your ex in front of the kids. If you are overly friendly, it can send out mixed signals. However, if you are at each other’s throats, it can cause the children to become more distressed about the situation. Some children may also take advantage of one or both parents by playing you off each other to get what they want. For more information on how to remain the adult after a divorce, read these five blogs.

The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children
• What to Do for Your Children During Divorce
When Your Parents Divorce After You’re All Grown Up
• Will My Children Be Alright?
“But Dad Said I Could!” Parenting Tips for Divorced Parents

Dating after Divorce

Dating after divorce is a tricky subject. For starters, there is the matter of deciding when it’s no longer too soon. You also have to decide who and who not to introduce to your kids. Your kids may not like anyone that you meet, so unless you are happy staying single for the rest of your life, it’s a subject you will need to address. If you are a divorced parent who is unsure how to approach dating, these five blogs will help you take your life back, without hurting your children.

Dating after Divorce: The Basics
• Everyone’s Happiness Counts: The Single Parent’s Guide to Dating
Dating After Divorce With Children: Advice
Getting Kids Ready for When Divorced Parents Begin Dating
• When divorced parents start dating again

Keep in mind that you’ll find additional information, advice, tip, coaching services and valuable resources on all facets of divorce and parenting at the Child-Centered Divorce Network: www.childcentereddivorce.com.  We welcome your feedback, questions and suggestions!

 

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