Divorce can be a major stumbling block to our happiness and personal growth. When you can’t let go of hurt and anger, it builds into a resentment or grudge. That feeling can take hold of you growing to envelope your whole life and all of your thoughts. Learn some of the signs that you are still holding grudges.
By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Frequently, I am asked “What is the key to successful co-parenting after divorce?” While there is no simple answer to that, I believe most professionals will agree the smartest strategy is learning how to remove anger, hostility or vindictiveness from your interactions with your former spouse. We all know that’s not always easy to do. However, the benefits you derive will more than make up for the sense of satisfaction or ego gratification you get when you hold on to those damaging emotions. If you’re intent on creating a child-centered divorce that strives for harmony between you and your ex, you need to initiate the conversation and model win-win solutions. If your ex doesn't want to cooperate, that’s when your patience will certainly be tested. Look for opportunities to clarify why working together as co-parents as often as possible will create far better outcomes for your
Read More
The holiday season can bring up painful memories of happier times, especially if you are divorced and have children. But keep in mind that with the pain comes a choice. You can choose to acknowledge the past for what it was. You can value the good times you might have had together. Then you can choose to move on and let go. If you don’t, you will likely get stuck tormenting yourself with the "shoulds." We should still be a family today. He should be ashamed of what he's doing to us. She shouldn’t be able to have the kids on Christmas Day. I should be over this by now. It should be easier for me to move on – but it isn't. You get the idea. Here's some advice for using this holiday season as a marker for starting a new mindset for yourself. You are creating a future
Read More
Divorce has many effects on children. No two children will react in exactly the same way. That’s why parents need to be diligent about watching for signs and indications that your child may be having problems coping with their new reality. Depression is one of the more common reactions we see in children of divorce. Unfortunately, many parents entirely miss or misinterpret the signs of depression. It can take many forms including behavior that is distancing, lethargic and withdrawn. This is often accompanied by a drop in school grades. But depression can also show in other ways, such as agitation, frustration and aggression. When depression takes that form, parents are likely to think of it in terms of discipline problems and respond with punishment. It takes maturity and a broader perspective to stand back and realize that your child’s misbehavior may actually be a way of communicating how they are
Read More
By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Divorce need not wound and scar your children if you put their emotional and psychological needs first when making crucial decisions. Some parents don’t understand that every decision they make regarding their divorce will affect the well-being of their children in countless ways. The emotional scars are not only harder to see, they’re also much harder to erase. Here are five keys to helping your children move through and thrive after divorce. 1) Remind them this is not their fault. Children tend to blame themselves for divorce, no matter how bad Mom and Dad’s relationship has been. The younger the child, the more likely this is so. Sit down together and talk to your children, emphasizing that they are in no way at fault. You can say something like: “Mom and Dad don’t agree about certain key issues and that has created conflict. Even when some
Read More
You're not alone!You'll find the helpful support you need at theChild-Centered Divorce Network Schedule a complimentary session with me here
Video Transcript
Divorce can be brutal on kids physically, emotionally and psychologically. If you're a parent who's divorcing or divorced. It's crucial that you protect your innocent children so they don't pay the price. Hi, I'm Rosalind Sedacca. A divorce and co-parenting coach who helps parents make the best decisions about their kids before, during and, yes, long after divorce. So you don't rob your children of their childhood and instead set the stage for giving them a promising and happy future. With my experience, compassion and strategies, I help you make things right. Schedule a free Zoom session with me to discuss meaningful options for addressing your needs. There's no charge or obligation, and I'll also send you my free book on successful
Read More
There are many ways to contact Rosalind Sedacca and connect with her via her website, email, social media and numerous ebooks, e-courses and programs. Rosalind appreciates your feedback and looks forward to hearing from and working with you. Rosalind Sedacca, CDC The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach
[email protected] [email protected] Founder, Child-Centered Divorce Network https://www.childcentereddivorce.com Author: How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? Creator: Mastering Child-Centered Divorce 10-hr Audio Coaching Program Divorce, Dating & Empowered Living Radio Show/Podcast: https://bit.ly/2QThQW2 Dating In Mid-Life Mentor Author: 99 Things Women Wish They Knew Before Dating After 40, 50 & Yes, 60! www.womendatingafter40.com www.womendatingrescue.com www.mensdatingformula.com No. 1 Blog: Best Resources for Divorced Parents and Separated Families List National 1st Place Winner: Victorious Woman Award! Follow me on Facebook: facebook.com/ChildCenteredDivorce Follow me on Twitter: @RosalindSedacca Follow me on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/rosalindsedacca/ Join LinkedIn Group: Child-Centered Divorce Follow me on Pinterest: Child-Centered Divorce
Read More
HELPFUL TOOLS for PARENTS & CHILDREN from ROSALIND SEDACCA, FOUNDER CHILD-CENTERED DIVORCE NETWORK SUPPORT SYSTEM: Personal One-on-One Coaching Sessions: Divorce/Single Parenting/Co-Parenting – Virtual/phone: Individually or both Parents Need help or support with any issues related to divorce and parenting? I don’t offer legal advice, but can guide you to better communication skills, more effective problem-solving, greater self-confidence and successful post-divorce co-parenting or single parenting. To see if I’m a good fit for you, simply send me an email with a brief summary of your challenges. I’ll get back to you with more details about how we can work successfully together! “My experience with Rosalind has been phenomenal! There are no words to express the support, warmth, and compassion I continue to receive from her as a coach. I would highly recommend her coaching modalities if you’re facing divorce, and wish to go about the separation in a child-centered approach. Thank you
Read More
Below is a list of helpful articles that can be used as support before, during and long after divorce. To receive weekly advice and insights about Child-Centered Divorce, be sure to download Rosalind Sedacca's free ebook on Post-Divorce Parenting on the Home page of this website: www.childcentereddivorce.com. Then click on Rosalind's BLOG for even more articles of value to you. Articles by Rosalind Sedacca, CDC 5 Tips to Help Children Cope With Divorce! 6 Mistakes Parents Must Avoid When Talking Divorce With Your Kids Coping with Co-Parenting Challenges After Divorce: Keep the Kids in Mind Emotional Effects of Anger on Children of Divorce 5 Things You Need To Know To Survive & Thrive After Divorce Helping Children Cope With Divorce: Avoiding the 10 Biggest Mistakes Divorced Parents Make! Crucial Steps To Rebuilding Your Self-Esteem Don't Make Your Pet Another Casualty Of Divorce! Why Staying In A Bad Relationship Is
Read More
HELPFUL RESOURCES FOR PARENTS These resources provide useful services, assistance, advice or other help in moving through and beyond divorce more successfully. Check them out! Highly endorsed by the Child-Centered Divorce Network Proud supporter of the Child-Centered Divorce Network
