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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce is tough enough. When children try to protect their parents from its consequences, the parenting is moving backwards and the results are devastating. Always be careful of what you share with your children regarding your own emotional state during and after your divorce. It can create enormous confusion for your children, along with guilt, frustration and despair. Children who experience their parents divorce are helpless to change the circumstances. But they often try. They want to do something to "fix" the situation, but they haven't a clue how. Sometimes they create solutions that make sense in their young minds, but actually cause greater complications. That's why it's so important for parents to take the emotional burden off of the shoulders of their children. Reassure them that Mom and Dad are still their parents and will continue to be there for them with compassion and love.

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Money Matters When Divorcing with Children: How to Navigate Finances For a Secure Future

Donna Cates, CDFA Divorcing when you have children adds a layer of complexity to an already challenging process. Beyond emotional considerations, financial decisions made during and after divorce can have long-lasting impacts on your children’s well-being and your financial future. At Money Matters Wealth Solutions, Donna Cates focuses on helping parents like you make informed, strategic decisions that support your goals and protect your family. Key Financial Considerations for Divorcing Parents 1. Child Support and Expenses Understanding how child support is calculated and what it covers is critical. But don’t stop there—consider extracurricular activities, medical expenses, and future education costs. These often-overlooked items can significantly impact your post-divorce budget. 2. Housing Decisions Deciding whether to keep the marital home can be an emotional choice, but it must also be a financially sound one. I help parents evaluate whether staying in the home aligns with their long-term financial

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The Advantage of Personalized Divorce Coaching Services

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce is one of life’s most overwhelming transitions. For high-achieving individuals, the emotional toll and financial uncertainty can feel particularly heavy. Mardi Winder-Adams, a seasoned divorce coach with over 30 years of experience, specializes in guiding individuals through this challenging process with clarity, confidence, and empowerment. Her mission is simple: to help her clients reduce the emotional and financial costs of divorce and emerge stronger on their own terms. A Unique Approach to Divorce Coaching. Mardi understands that navigating divorce requires more than legal advice. Her personalized, one-on-one, confidential coaching focuses on the whole person—addressing emotional overwhelm, communication struggles, and decision- making challenges. If you’re feeling paralyzed by the endless “what-ifs” or intimidated by difficult conversations, Mardi’s coaching will prepare you to:  Speak your needs clearly and confidently without fear of confrontation.  Prepare for and participate in negotiations, mediation, and court proceedings with a

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ROSALIND SEDACCA & DIVORCE EXPERTS AROUND THE WORLD HAVE FREE GIFTS FOR YOU DURING INTERNATIONAL CHILD-CENTERED DIVORCE MONTH IN JANUARY January is International Child-Centered Divorce Month – a time when Divorce filings are highest: after the holidays at the start of the New Year. In recognition of ICCD Month, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach, author and podcast host, Rosalind Sedacca, CDC, has gathered family-focused divorce professionals throughout the world. They are all giving away free ebooks, courses, videos, coaching services and other valuable resources to help parents: Make the best decisions regarding their children before, during and long after divorce. Avoid serious mistakes that negatively impact their children. Learn how divorce affects children at different ages and stages. Understand divorce options to choose the best course of action for both parents and children. Transition after divorce in a healthy, fulfilling way. Attract a rewarding and lasting love relationship in the

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6 Crucial Messages to Prepare Kids for Your Divorce

Communication with your child is essential. By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC One of the most difficult conversations any parent will ever have is telling their children about their pending divorce. I know first-hand because many years ago I went through the experience. I fought and faced the overwhelming emotions. The deep gut-wrenching fear. The continuous anxiety. The incredible guilt. And the oppressive weight of shame. My son, after all, was innocent. A sweet, gentle soul who loved his father and mother dearly. He certainly did not deserve this. I struggled with the anxiety for weeks in advance. When should I tell him? How should I tell him? Should we tell him together? And most frightening of all, WHAT SHOULD WE SAY? How do you explain to a child that the life he has known, the comfort he has felt in his family setting, is about to be

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Navigating High-Conflict Co-Parenting When Alcohol is a Concern

Co-parenting can feel impossible when one parent consistently misuses alcohol. It’s essential to create an environment that prioritizes the child’s well-being while reducing stress and miscommunication between parents. When done correctly, co-parenting can provide children with a sense of stability and safety, even in the most challenging circumstances. Establishing Boundaries and Expectations One of the most effective strategies in high-conflict co-parenting situations is establishing clear boundaries and expectations. Set specific rules regarding alcohol use around the child, as well as guidelines for how time with each parent will be managed. Consider drafting a comprehensive parenting plan that details when the parent who struggles with alcohol abuse will have contact with the child, and how both parents will communicate about issues that arise. In high-conflict situations, communication is often strained, and small misunderstandings can lead to significant arguments. Therefore, keeping all communication child-focused and fact-based is vital. Utilizing structured communication methods

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Why Parents Reject Or Abandon Their Children After Divorce

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Following divorce, most parents are eager to see their children as frequently as possible. Often this desire results in heated battles in or out of court focused on custody issues. In many cases, co-parenting is the ideal option. A parenting plan is set into place and the children are moved between two homes giving them continued access to both parents. In many cases, parents may not want to "share" the children. However, they often realize this is in their child's best interest, and therefore come up with an arrangement they can live with. In families that don't co-parent, usually one parent has primary custody of the children with the other parent taking the reins on a scheduled basis. This regular visitation may be over weekends, specific days per month, or periodic visits during the year if distance is a factor. In some cases, however, one parent

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Why Men Are Often More Challenged By Divorce!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Most everyone is emotionally impacted by divorce. The psychological toll can be even more dramatic when children are involved. There’s little doubt that a relationship breakup ramps up stress for both partners. However, several factors seem to indicate that divorce may be even more challenging for men than for women. Here are four reasons why divorce stress can take a greater toll on men: He’s more likely to be blindsided by the divorce In general, women are the first to initiate or file for a divorce. This seemingly sudden announcement often comes after she spends years feeling unhappy or frustrated in an unfulfilling marriage. Frequently her husband is not aware of her feelings, or he shrugs off her complaints as needless whining or nagging. Sometimes these unhappy women reach out first to family and friends for support. Others seek out professional counselors or coaches. When, despite

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Divorce Mistakes: It’s Never Too Late To Make Amends – For Your Children!

Cooperative co-parenting supports children By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Whether you got divorced several weeks ago or it's been several years, most of us can acknowledge that we've made some mistakes. Perhaps we lost our tempers at an inappropriate time and watched our children painfully internalize the experience. Maybe we referred to our ex in a rather unflattering way, making our child very upset and storming away in anger. Chances are, in the heat of the divorce drama, we settled for a decision or two that we later regretted and still feel guilty. Or we made a child-related agreement that, in hindsight, was not in our child's best interest - but we don't know quite how to remedy the situation. While some legal matters will involve only legal resolution, there are many post-divorce relationship decisions involving our children that we can remedy. Thankfully, it's never too late

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