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Don’t Divorce Your Children’s Grandparen

Grandparents - grandchildren - affected by divorce By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC When parents divorce, each member of the family is affected in unique and personal ways. This is influenced by the age of the child, their gender and their relationship with their siblings. Equally important is how close they were to each parent. Many other factors impact the physical, mental and emotional repercussions in the months and years ahead. One that's too often overlooked are the grandparents. Their lives can be forever changed and scarred by the complexities of divorce. Custody issues are hard enough for parents to battle out. Few take into account the consequences for grandparents. Their unconditional love for the grandchildren can play such a healthy and rewarding part of normal family life. It can be a refuge your kids will depend on post-divorce as well! Don't make innocent grandparents pay the price!

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Talk “To” – Not “At” – Your Child … Through Divorce and Beyond!

Communication with your child is essential. By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Most parents don't know how to talk to their children. It's one of the underlying reasons for parent-child communication, respect and trust issues within the family parent-child communication dynamic. You wouldn't think one would need to be reminded to talk to your children. Unfortunately, many parents need just such a reminder. Especially in today's mega-paced culture where just sitting down to a family dinner together seems to be a major accomplishment. Too often busy parents find themselves talking "at" their children, but not "to" them. And most especially, not "with" them. This, of course, is problematic in any family trying to raise socially, emotionally and spiritually healthy children. However, it is especially dangerous if that family is facing the challenges of divorce or separation. Think about your parent-child communication skills and rapport. If they're not optimal

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Protecting Your Pets As Well As Children During & After Divorce

Pets help children cope with divorce By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Abandoned pets are one of the many sad outcomes of divorce. Marital problems, conflict and ultimately divorce is behind a significant number of pet turn-ins for animal shelters every year. Often one spouse doesn’t want to take the dog or cat while the other can’t keep them due to downsizing or reduced income. Many rental apartments won’t take pets over twenty pounds or allow more than one animal per unit. Sometimes couples will fight dramatically over family pets. They bring the conflict into mediation or attorney negotiations with as much emotion as their battles over child custody. In most states pets are still considered property, much like a car or antique furniture. The emotional connection to the family is not a factor in determining pet custody or relevance. Heartbreaking outcomes for children Frequently the divorcing couple

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Author Sarah Armstrong’s Book Guides Moms to a Good Divorce

The Mom’s Guide to a Good Divorce is a practical guide for any woman going through a divorce, filled with everything she needs to think through in order to always do what is best for her children. The guide is written by Sarah Armstrong in a conversational tone from one mom to another. Served up in bite-sized pieces, the goal is to help women with children navigate the entire divorce process and post-divorce phase in a manner that will ultimately put it in the category of a “good divorce.” According to Armstrong, after reflecting on the benefits noted in her book, there may be more willingness among couples to consider a collaborative-type divorce arrangement, mediation or an amicable traditional divorce rather than the usual contentiousness that is all too familiar. Coping with the stress compassionately One strategy Armstrong employed was to create a strong network of close girlfriends and “energy

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eNew Beginnings: the Nation’s Leading Online Program for Divorced and Separating Parents!

Being a single parent after a divorce or separation can be challenging. That's why Family Transitions developed the eNew Beginnings course. It’s recognized as the most well-researched and effective online parenting classes available today. Equally important, It’s also designed to support moms and dads in being the kind of parent they want to be during this stressful time. eNew Beginnings focuses on the building blocks of effective parenting after divorce or separation. Through separate classes for moms and dads, the programs offer the best evidence of positive outcomes for children. Both parents benefit from learning: Practical Tools to Protect Children from Conflict How to Reduce Interparental Conflict Ways to Decrease Children’s Mental Health Problems Listening Tools to Get Children to Share More Skills to Improve Parent’s Relationship with Children Effective Tools to Decrease Children’s Misbehaviors Positive Activities to Enjoy with Their Children Long-term payoffs: Proven Positive Outcomes: The eNew Beginnings

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In recognition of International Child-Centered Divorce Month in January, divorce experts around the world are joining together with a goal. They provide complimentary educational resources for parents. Included are e-books, e-courses, coaching services, video programs and other valuable material. Parents who are contemplating divorce, divorcing or transitioning after divorce can access this information for free at a special website available only in January ... https://www.divorcedparentsupport.com January is the time for new beginnings. There's a dramatic spike in divorce filings because parents facing divorce frequently wait until after the holidays to tell their children. There are also tax considerations that motivate many to initiate a divorce at this time. Safeguarding Children From Regrettable Divorce Decisions International Child-Centered Divorce Month is focused on educating parents about how divorce can affect innocent children. The participating divorce attorneys, mediators, coaches, therapists and parenting experts are there to help. They guide parents in making wiser,

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Divorce or Stay – a Tough Challenge For Parents Either Way!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Get divorced? Or stay in an unhappy marriage? This is a complex and controversial subject. There are no right or wrong answers, nor are there any simplistic black and white solutions. I am sharing my own perspective, based on my own life experiences. I welcome you to contribute your own thoughts. That's as long as you are respectful of the rights of others to see the world in a different light. I am a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach. I'm also the Founder of the internationally-acclaimed Child-Centered Divorce Network. In addition, I grew up in a family that stayed together for the sake of the kids, so I have a good perspective on both sides of this topic. Obviously neither option is one any family would choose - they both create pain and hurt. However, I am opting in on the side of divorce when home life

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Domestic Abuse Includes Using the Kids to Punish Your Ex

Domestic Violence & Abuse impacts Children & Co-Parents Daily By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC October is Domestic Violence & Domestic Abuse Awareness Month. It is a time for all divorced parents to reflect on their relationship with their former spouse. Is that relationship subtly or overtly affecting the emotional and psychological wellbeing of your children? One of the most hurtful aspects of divorce and domestic Abuse -- which is often overlooked – is Parental Alienation. That’s when one parent tries to keep the other from contact with the children – usually as punishment. Threatening To Keep Your Ex From the Kids Divorced parents can quickly learn ways to abuse their power over the other parent by using the children as a lever. Among the most harmful of these types of manipulations is making demands and threatening to eliminate or restrict contact with the kids if your ex

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Divorce Is Tough – And Even Tougher On Teens!

Learn how to Support Teens Through Divorce & Co-Parenting Challenges By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC We all know divorce is tough on families. Everyone is affected, especially the children. In most cases, the older the children, the more complex the reaction and more difficult the adaptation. There are many reasons why. Older children have a longer history in the former family unit, regardless of how healthy or toxic it has been. Perhaps they remember better times when both parents interacted with them and each other with more joy and harmony. Even if there were no good times to look back upon, teenagers were accustomed to the existing family dynamic, knew their place in the structure, and felt a sense of comfort in “what is.” Resisting change is a natural part of being human. For teenagers that resistance is compounded by a tendency to test boundaries and rock the status quo. Divorce or

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC We all know co-parenting can be challenging. And when communication breaks down, it can lead to conflict which negatively impacts the entire family. That’s why, as founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network, I was so impressed when I learned about the new Co-Parent Hub. It’s a solution designed to eliminate many of the interactions that cause strain in co-parenting relationships. The creator of Co-Parent Hub, Alex Pelli, sums it up by saying, “We stop the fighting before it even starts.” How? By making communication MUCH easier! When you sign up, you get a Co-Phone and a Co-Email that you put on file with the school, pediatrician, dentist, sport coaches -- even parents of your kids’ friends. When they need to get in touch, they use that info and Co-Parent Hub will route the call/text/email to BOTH co-parents at the same time! This means no missed messages and no

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