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Child Centered Divorce

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  - Divorce and Co-Parenting
  - Parenting Children of Divorce
  - Dating as a Divorced Parent

Created by Rosalind Sedacca, CDC

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4 Key Points For Transforming Your Life ...

4 Key Points For Transforming Your Life After Divorce & Despite Covid-19
Divorce catches kids in the middle By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC During these difficult times life is even more challenging for parents dealing with divorce or co-parenting after divorce. Circumstances beyond our control are impacting decisions we make to protect ourselves and our children. New governmental restrictions are impacting and complicating routines and structure. Parents are faced with a new normal that changes from week to week. Be patient with yourself and your former partner. Try to be there for one another. This is new territory for every one of us. Despite divorce, think like a team on behalf of your family and make decisions that support your physical, mental and emotional needs. Be more tolerant, forgiving and flexible. Your sanity and the wellbeing of your children is at stake! How Best to Survive And Thrive! Divorce is always a life-altering experience. But it doesn’t have to

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Why We Love 2houses.com For Divorced or ...

Why We Love 2houses.com For Divorced or Separated Families
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC When divorce or separation impacts a family, everyone in that family is affected. The consequences can be overwhelming on a physical, emotional and psychological level never experienced before. In the aftermath of divorce, the parents and children are facing a new reality that requires adjustments, acceptance, cooperation and support. Having experienced his own divorce with children, Gill Ruidant understood these challenges on a deeply personal basis. Using his background in mobile technology, Gill created a unique app designed to help separated families communicate and become organized for the wellbeing of their children. In 2012 2houses.com was launched. Today more than 170,000 families in 170 countries use 2houses to reduce conflict and create a more neutral environment between co-parents. It’s a tool with a simple, intuitive interface making it very easy to access and use. Thoughtful features for smoother post-divorce parenting As a divorced parent myself, what

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8 Steps To Lasting Co-Parenting Success ...

8 Steps To Lasting Co-Parenting Success After Divorce
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Effective co-parenting after divorce takes awareness, commitment and skills. Here are 8 Steps to getting it right for the children you love. Parenting before and after divorce can be complex, frustrating and confusing. However, every day parents around the world are coping with the challenges of raising happy, well-adjusted children. There are many factors that influence your effectiveness as a parent. In this article we’ll review some of the major components of the pre- and post-divorce parenting success formula. Step 1: ATTITUDE Attitude plays a big part in the success of any divorce with children. If you approach your divorce with a commitment to making it as positive an experience as possible for the children you love, you are on your way to succeeding. What attitude are you conveying about your divorce? Are you filled with negativity? Are your days consumed with a “poor me” state

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Co-Parenting Is Not A Competition. Don’t

Co-Parenting Is Not A Competition. Don’t Play To Win!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Co-parenting your children after divorce should never be a competition between parents. It’s not a game and there should be no winners, except for the kids! Nor should there be any losers, because that’s a loss for the kids, as well. Co-parenting is all about mind-set. How you approach it. What your goals are … and how you play day by day. Competition creates toxic parenting Competing co-parents put their children in an awkward situation. Kids are cajoled, manipulated or even bullied into feeling they have to choose sides. It’s hurtful, damaging and insensitive to subject them to that emotional turmoil, even when subtle. Steer clear of the “good parent/bad parent” mentality. You’re both in this together – for your lifetime! Think CO-PARENTS in the most positive possible way. Co-parent to fit your unique family Co-parenting can be enormously challenging. There are no rules for how

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Secrets Of Co-Parenting Effectively Desp...

Secrets Of Co-Parenting Effectively Despite Post-Divorce Challenges
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC As a Divorce & Parenting Coach I’m often asked “What are the secrets to successful co-parenting after divorce?” That’s the million-dollar question. And while there is no simple answer, I believe most professionals will agree the smartest strategy is learning how to co-parent respectfully. That means remove anger, hostility or vindictiveness from your interactions with your former spouse and learn how to share co-parenting as loving parents to your kids. Of course, that’s not always easy to do. But it is doable. Learning to master effective  communication skills, showing empathy and finding areas of agreement whenever possible go a long way towards diffusing tensions and cooperating as parents. The benefits you derive can be substantial. They will more than make up for the ego gratification you get when holding on to those damaging emotions. Remember, your goal is not to re-establish your adult relationship. It’s to

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3 Lessons From MARRIAGE STORY Movie Of V...

3 Lessons From MARRIAGE STORY Movie Of Value  For Every Divorcing Parent!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Because divorce is such a complex life experience it’s rare to find it realistically portrayed in film, TV or theater. Too often we see over the top drama, unrealistic circumstances or vindictive escalations more motivated by viewer ratings than thoughtful, meaningful dialogue. Surprisingly, the Netflix original movie, Marriage Story, is an excellently portrayed divorce story. It stands apart for addressing parental divorce with jarring authenticity. The beautifully written, emotionally compelling script focuses on a believable family. Both parents are facing universal challenges that escalate in understandable, organic ways. The stellar celebrity cast play their characters with nuanced sensitivity. We recognize their confusion. We relate to their pain. We resonate with their decisions and all the known and unseen consequences that emerge every step of the way. The film begins with both partners putting together a list of what they liked and appreciated most about their spouse.

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Divorced Parents: Alone For the Holidays...

Divorced Parents: Alone For the Holidays Is Especially Tough!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Are you facing alone time without the kids this holiday season? Often that’s one of the saddest consequences of divorce when you’re a parent. What do you do when your children are visiting their other parent? While short-term periods when the kids are away can be a welcome break for an overscheduled single parent, for others the intervals between seeing the children can be long and lonely. It can be particularly challenging when your friends and neighbors are busy with their own family gatherings. Don’t sink into despair. It’s really important at this time to get creative and absorbed in activities that you find personally fulfilling. This can become an ideal time to reflect on meeting your own needs and finding new people, activities and events that bring joy into your life. Avoid the pity party! Among the greatest challenges for divorced parents is avoiding self-pity.

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5 Ways To Keep Divorce From Scarring You...

5 Ways To Keep Divorce From Scarring Your Kids!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce need not wound and scar your children if you put their emotional and psychological needs first when making crucial decisions. Some parents don’t understand that every decision they make regarding their divorce will affect the wellbeing of their children in countless ways. The emotional scars are not only harder to see, they’re also much harder to erase. Here are five keys to helping your children move through and thrive after divorce. Remind them this is not their fault.  Children tend to blame themselves for divorce, no matter how bad their parents’   relationship has been. The younger the child, the more likely this is so. But even teens feel guilt related to the divorce. Sit down together and talk to your children, emphasizing that they are in no way at fault. You can say something like: “As your parents we’re having problems getting along and agreeing

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6 Key Questions When Children of Divorce...

6 Key Questions When Children of Divorce  Resist Their Other Parent
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Parenting after divorce is always challenging, especially when your children act out. One big issue is handling children if they resist spending time with their other parent. Many factors come into play. Here are 6 crucial questions to ask yourself which can help you determine the source of the problem and understand the reasons why your children are resisting contact with their other parent. Are they feeling guilty or disloyal about leaving your presence? This can easily influence how they react to visits or time away living with their other parent. Have they been privy to information, slurs or other comments that make them dislike their other parent? Do they hear you complain about that parent to family or friends? Are they being raised in an environment hostile towards that parent? Has their other parent been mistreating them or disciplining them in a different way than

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5 Ways To Handle A Negative Co-Parent

5 Ways To Handle A Negative Co-Parent
Anger-Conflict Programs for Co-Parenting & Other Life Challenges By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Are you trying to cope with a negative, confrontational co-parent after your divorce or breakup? It can be enormously challenging at best. Most people acknowledge that staying positive and “taking the high road” is the best way to handle difficult people. But that’s much easier said than done. It’s tough to stay positive when your co-parent exudes negativity toward you with every encounter. Repeated contact with the same stressful outcome will inevitably bring you down. It also drains your energy, bombarding your consciousness with self-doubt and insecurity. A negative, argumentative or disrespectful co-parent can be especially challenging when you are trying to be a positive role model for your children. It’s important to remember: we can’t change other people, much as we would like to. This is particularly true for difficult people who are

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