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  - Divorce and Co-Parenting
  - Parenting Children of Divorce
  - Dating as a Divorced Parent

Created by Rosalind Sedacca, CDC

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6 Tips For Talking To Your Kids After Di...

6 Tips For Talking To Your Kids After Divorce!
Divorced parent communication with your child is essential. By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC When you’re a divorced parent, effective communication with your children is more important than ever. Which means honing your communication skills so you’re connecting with love, respect and compassion. Candid divorced parent communication opens the doors to a healthier, more positive relationship with your kids. It makes you more sensitive to issues of concern early on so you can nip them in the bud. It encourages your children to talk about what they are feeling. It addresses their questions and situations that are creating conflict for them. How to open the conversation so you’re not shut down! Don’t sit down and say, let’s talk. Find comfortable times and places where conversation can flow naturally and easily. Then bring up related subjects in a casual way. Watching TV or movies at home can often be

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9 Ways Divorcing Parents Can Support The...

9 Ways Divorcing Parents Can Support Their Kids With Love
Cooperative coparenting supports children By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC As a divorcing parent are you worried about your kids? Most parents share a deep love for their children – along with the desire to protect them from emotional or physical harm. However, when the sanctity of the marriage is disrupted by divorce, things can dramatically change. Divorcing parents don’t always know how to give kids the support they need. Caught up in their own anger and hurt, it’s tempting to lash out, get back at their former partner, and take revenge. Too often, the children are caught in a parental power struggle. Collateral damage when parents vent their frustration or rage. The outcome is painful for everyone in the family! Children crave and need their parent’s support So how can you support your children and parent them effectively throughout this challenging time? And how can you co-parent

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5 Crucial Steps Helping Divorced Parents...

5 Crucial Steps Helping Divorced Parents Move On
  By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  1.  DECIDE TO LET GO If you truly want to move on from your divorce you must learn to let go of negative emotions that hold you hostage. That includes anger, resentment, blame, jealousy, hatred and anxiety. Of course, there is a time and place for experiencing those emotions. Allow yourself to feel them – to mourn the dream that turned sour. Then make a decision to let them go. Do this for your benefit – not on behalf of your former spouse. Negative emotions can hold you in limbo and suck the life out of you. You get stuck in a place that’s painful to experience and it makes you unpleasant to be around. For the sake of your children – if not for yourself – decide to let it all go. Determine to move on. Yes, it’s not always easy to do, but

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Grandparents Can Help Grandchildren Bett...

Grandparents Can Help Grandchildren Better Adjust To Divorce Challenges!
Grandparents - grandchildren - affected by divorce By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Grandparents are often caught in the tensions between parents during and long after a   divorce. While they’re eager to help, many grandparents are confused about overstepping boundaries. They want to play a part in easing the pain, confusion and other emotional issues that may be affecting their innocent grandkids. Since every divorce is unique, there are no cookie-cutter solutions that do the trick. But here are some guidelines to keep in mind, especially in regards to being there for your grandchildren. If you haven’t been close to the kids beforehand, post-divorce is a difficult time to develop a relationship. But if you already have that bond established, it’s important to keep the on-going connection at this time when the children are facing so many unknowns. Be a supportive, compassionate ear for the grandkids! When communication

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Children Of Divorce Are Affected By Conf...

Children Of Divorce Are Affected By Conflicting Parental Lifestyles
Child Caught Between Divorced Parents By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC As a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach I often are sent questions from concerned parents. One recent question focused on an issue that many divorced parents face with mounting frustration. It had to do with one parent treating the children to lavish gifts and trips while the other parent is struggling financially. Mom was aware that she shouldn’t say anything negative to her children about their Dad. But she was finding it difficult in the face of her circumstances. The question, of course, was what can she do about this? Consider all the possibilities! It’s impossible to provide a specific answer when the so many of the circumstances are unknown to me. How often is Dad seeing the children? What kind of relationship does he have with them when he is not there? Is he angry about not

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How Separated Parents Can Use Scheduling...

How Separated Parents Can Use Scheduling Tools To  Better Protect Their Kids
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC When parents divorce or separate there are a multitude of daily details that need to be addressed and shared. Organization and communication become top priorities. That’s why I highly recommend both parents use a co-parenting app designed especially for that purpose. Some of the most important features should include: 24/7 shared calendar. A good online shared scheduling calendar offers many editing, adding, and sync features. Consequently, organization and simplicity are not mutually exclusive, they just mix together. Never miss a change in child-care schedules, appointments or other activities relevant to your family. Simple and easy expense management. For so many divorced parents, the financial topic can most often be a conflict topic. An advanced online co-parenting tool can manage all expenses from each parent, while keeping you informed on the situation, day after day, on all additions and subtractions. Quick and available journal information sharing. Separated

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6 Tips For Dating After Divorce As A Sin...

6 Tips For Dating After Divorce As A Single Parent
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Dating as a single parent comes with its own set of challenges. Because you’re a parent you must never forget the child in your life, much as you may want to when out in the dating world. Parenting is a life-long responsibility. It doesn’t matter whether your child is with you full-time or you have a shared visitation schedule. Either way, it’s crucial that you approach being single with the awareness that you are also parent. And that should influence all of your social and relationship decisions. Because your kids always count! Here are 6 tips for smarter, healthier and more rewarding dating and relationships when you are a single parent: Be up front with new partners about your role as a parent. You don’t want to date people who don’t like or respect kids. Nor do you want to hide the fact that you’re a

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10 Questions Divorcing Parents Must Answ...

10 Questions Divorcing Parents Must Answer Before Fighting Over the Kids!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  Larry Sarezky is a Family Law attorney with a strong, child-centered focus. He is also the author of an excellent book, Divorce Simply Stated, that I highly recommend. Larry created a list of ten questions for clients who are considering custody battles. He tells them, if your co-parent wants to fight over the kids, ask them to answer the following questions – and think about the consequences of each one. It’s a good exercise for every parent coping with the challenges of divorce: 1.   Do you want your children to endure months of anxiety and uncertainty as to where they will be living and whether they will have the relationship they want with their parents and siblings? When you prolong the child-care battle, your children pay the price in stress. Seek out mediation to find a path toward co-parenting solutions that honor your children. 2.

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After Divorce: Help Your Kids Adjust To ...

After Divorce: Help Your Kids Adjust To Both Parents’ Homes!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC All people are innately resistant to change. But it’s especially difficult for children. One of the greatest disruptions in a child’s life is the upheaval caused by divorce. For this reason, it’s especially important for you, as a parent, to do everything you can to help your children adjust. That includes adapting to their new routines and accepting the changes in their lives in the most positive possible ways. That usually means putting your children’s physical, emotional and psychological needs foremost in your mind and heart. In that way, you will make decisions that are child-centered rather than based on your needs for getting back, proving your points or hurting their other parent. No doubt it’s not always easy to co-parent after divorce from this perspective. However, it’s the only option that will allow your children to have a safe and sane childhood. It’s the path

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4 Key Points For Transforming Your Life ...

4 Key Points For Transforming Your Life After Divorce & Despite Covid-19
Divorce catches kids in the middle By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC During these difficult times life is even more challenging for parents dealing with divorce or co-parenting after divorce. Circumstances beyond our control are impacting decisions we make to protect ourselves and our children. New governmental restrictions are impacting and complicating routines and structure. Parents are faced with a new normal that changes from week to week. Be patient with yourself and your former partner. Try to be there for one another. This is new territory for every one of us. Despite divorce, think like a team on behalf of your family and make decisions that support your physical, mental and emotional needs. Be more tolerant, forgiving and flexible. Your sanity and the wellbeing of your children is at stake! How Best to Survive And Thrive! Divorce is always a life-altering experience. But it doesn’t have to

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