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Divorce Survey: Insights About Divorce a...

Divorce Survey: Insights About Divorce and Family
Life is full of transitions. We all remember moving out of our childhood home. For many of us, it was both a thrilling and absolutely terrifying experience. But possibly, one of the most fulfilling feelings is turning a house into a home—and a family home becomes the hot spot where so many memories are made. So how do you cope when your once happy home is filled with heartbreak? Over 90 percent of people in Western cultures will get married by the time they turn 50, according to the American Psychological Association (APA), but almost half of these marriages will end in divorce. We asked 501 people in the U.S., from ages 22 to 77, how they dealt with their divorce, who kept the marital home, and how they transitioned into a new chapter of life. Keep reading to see how divorced respondents are attempting to pick up the pieces and create happy, healthy homes.

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Don’t Make Your Pet Another Casualty Of

Don’t Make Your Pet Another Casualty Of Divorce!
Pets help children cope with divorce By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Abandoned pets are one of the many sad outcomes of divorce. Marital problems, conflict and ultimately divorce is behind a significant number of pet turn-ins for animal shelters every year. Often one spouse doesn’t want to take the dog or cat while the other can’t keep them due to downsizing or reduced income. Many rental apartments won’t take pets over twenty pounds or allow more than one animal per unit. Sometimes couples will fight over dogs and cats as well as other pets. Often, they bring the conflict into mediation or attorney negotiations with as much emotion as their battles over child custody. However, in most regions of the world, pets are still considered property, much like a car or furniture. The emotional connection to the family is not a factor in determining pet custody or

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Children Of Divorce Are Affected By Conf...

Children Of Divorce Are Affected By Conflicting Parental Lifestyles
Child Caught Between Divorced Parents By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC As a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach I often are sent questions from concerned parents. One recent question focused on an issue that many divorced parents face with mounting frustration. It had to do with one parent treating the children to lavish gifts and trips while the other parent is struggling financially. Mom was aware that she shouldn’t say anything negative to her children about their Dad. But she was finding it difficult in the face of her circumstances. The question, of course, was what can she do about this? Consider all the possibilities! It’s impossible to provide a specific answer when the so many of the circumstances are unknown to me. How often is Dad seeing the children? What kind of relationship does he have with them when he is not there? Is he angry about not

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How Separated Parents Can Use Scheduling...

How Separated Parents Can Use Scheduling Tools To  Better Protect Their Kids
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC When parents divorce or separate there are a multitude of daily details that need to be addressed and shared. Organization and communication become top priorities. That’s why I highly recommend both parents use a co-parenting app designed especially for that purpose. Some of the most important features should include: 24/7 shared calendar. A good online shared scheduling calendar offers many editing, adding, and sync features. Consequently, organization and simplicity are not mutually exclusive, they just mix together. Never miss a change in child-care schedules, appointments or other activities relevant to your family. Simple and easy expense management. For so many divorced parents, the financial topic can most often be a conflict topic. An advanced online co-parenting tool can manage all expenses from each parent, while keeping you informed on the situation, day after day, on all additions and subtractions. Quick and available journal information sharing. Separated

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Why Staying In A Bad Relationship Is Wor...

Why Staying In A Bad Relationship Is Worse For Your Children
Parents Fighting Around Kids After Divorce By Ellie Hayes Relationships are not easy. Having to balance our own needs with that of another person can be incredibly tough. And when kids are added to the mix, that challenge becomes all the more difficult.  Often, after years of resentment and overfamiliarity, couples feel trapped in their marriage or long-term relationship. While they might be unhappy, several factors prevent them from breaking the toxic cycle and moving on with their lives.  The fear of the unknown, social groups which rely on your union and close financial ties are common reasons couples stay together longer than they should. But it’s arguably when kids are involved where the greatest sacrifices are made.  As Direct Line found out in a recent study, 7.6 million parents in the UK stay together because of their children. Amazingly, as many as 41% of these say

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6 Tips For Dating After Divorce As A Sin...

6 Tips For Dating After Divorce As A Single Parent
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Dating as a single parent comes with its own set of challenges. Because you’re a parent you must never forget the child in your life, much as you may want to when out in the dating world. Parenting is a life-long responsibility. It doesn’t matter whether your child is with you full-time or you have a shared visitation schedule. Either way, it’s crucial that you approach being single with the awareness that you are also parent. And that should influence all of your social and relationship decisions. Because your kids always count! Here are 6 tips for smarter, healthier and more rewarding dating and relationships when you are a single parent: Be up front with new partners about your role as a parent. You don’t want to date people who don’t like or respect kids. Nor do you want to hide the fact that you’re a

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10 Questions Divorcing Parents Must Answ...

10 Questions Divorcing Parents Must Answer Before Fighting Over the Kids!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  Larry Sarezky is a Family Law attorney with a strong, child-centered focus. He is also the author of an excellent book, Divorce Simply Stated, that I highly recommend. Larry created a list of ten questions for clients who are considering custody battles. He tells them, if your co-parent wants to fight over the kids, ask them to answer the following questions – and think about the consequences of each one. It’s a good exercise for every parent coping with the challenges of divorce: 1.   Do you want your children to endure months of anxiety and uncertainty as to where they will be living and whether they will have the relationship they want with their parents and siblings? When you prolong the child-care battle, your children pay the price in stress. Seek out mediation to find a path toward co-parenting solutions that honor your children. 2.

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5 Tips For A Healthy Divorce Mindset Dur...

5 Tips For A Healthy Divorce Mindset During These Challenging Times
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce can stop us in our tracks and overwhelm anyone with anxiety, sadness and   depression. This is especially true for parents who have the added responsibility of caring for innocent children. Now we are confronted by an additional challenge: coping with divorce during a pandemic health crisis. And it’s up to us to create a positive mindset not only for ourselves, but for our children as well. Here are 5 important keys to keeping a positive perspective during these tough times. 1.  Monitor your thoughts and beliefs. What we tell ourselves influences how we feel and how we treat others. Catch yourself if you’re falling into a blame game about how belligerent your former spouse is behaving or how difficult the kids are. Let’s face it, no one is happy about our present circumstances and limitations. Instead, find things to focus on that are working well:

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After Divorce: Help Your Kids Adjust To ...

After Divorce: Help Your Kids Adjust To Both Parents’ Homes!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC All people are innately resistant to change. But it’s especially difficult for children. One of the greatest disruptions in a child’s life is the upheaval caused by divorce. For this reason, it’s especially important for you, as a parent, to do everything you can to help your children adjust. That includes adapting to their new routines and accepting the changes in their lives in the most positive possible ways. That usually means putting your children’s physical, emotional and psychological needs foremost in your mind and heart. In that way, you will make decisions that are child-centered rather than based on your needs for getting back, proving your points or hurting their other parent. No doubt it’s not always easy to co-parent after divorce from this perspective. However, it’s the only option that will allow your children to have a safe and sane childhood. It’s the path

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Talk “To” – Not “At” – Your Child … Thro

Talk “To” – Not “At” – Your Child … Through Divorce And Beyond!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Mental health experts always remind parents about the importance of talking to their children. Unfortunately, many parents need just such a reminder -- especially in today’s mega-paced culture. When life moves past Coronavirus fears and we’re not forced into quarantine we’ll be getting back into more familiar structure. Here are some thoughts to keep in mind about communicating effectively with your kids. Just sitting down to a family dinner together can become a major accomplishment. Too often busy parents find themselves talking “at” their children, but not “to” them. And most especially, not “with” them. This, of course, is problematic in any family trying to raise socially, emotionally and spiritually healthy children. However, it is especially dangerous if that family is facing the challenges of divorce or separation.  If your parent-child communication skills and rapport is not optimal before discussions about divorce or family lifestyle changes

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