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5 Ways To Minimize How Divorce Impacts Y...

5 Ways To Minimize How Divorce Impacts Your Children
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Communication with your children is always important But never as essential as when they are impacted by separation or divorce. Children are vulnerable and easily frightened by changes in their routines. The more you talk to and comfort them, the less stress and anxiety they’ll experience. This is the time to reassure your children that you are taking care of matters. To remind them that everyone in the family will be okay. Then, of course, take responsibility for doing what needs to be done to assure their well-being. Here are five important ways you can minimize the impact of divorce on your children to help them thrive during and after your divorce. 1.  Strive for normalcy and routine: It's important to keep as much normalcy in your children’s lives as is feasible. Maintaining relationships with friends and neighbors provides a sense of stability and continuity. Keeping

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9 Ways Divorcing Parents Can Support The...

9 Ways Divorcing Parents Can Support Their Kids With Love
Cooperative coparenting supports children By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC As a divorcing parent are you worried about your kids? Most parents share a deep love for their children – along with the desire to protect them from emotional or physical harm. However, when the sanctity of the marriage is disrupted by divorce, things can dramatically change. Divorcing parents don’t always know how to give kids the support they need. Caught up in their own anger and hurt, it’s tempting to lash out, get back at their former partner, and take revenge. Too often, the children are caught in a parental power struggle. Collateral damage when parents vent their frustration or rage. The outcome is painful for everyone in the family! Children crave and need their parent’s support So how can you support your children and parent them effectively throughout this challenging time? And how can you co-parent

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5 Steps To A Healthy Divorce Mindset Dur...

5 Steps To A Healthy Divorce Mindset During A Pandemic!
co-parenting can be challenging during a pandemic By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce can stop us in our tracks and overwhelm anyone with anxiety, sadness and   depression. This is especially true for parents who have the added responsibility of caring for innocent children. Now we are confronted by an additional challenge: coping with divorce during a pandemic health crisis. And it’s up to us to create a positive mindset not only for ourselves, but for our children as well. Here are 5 important keys to keeping a positive perspective during these tough times. Monitor your thoughts and beliefs. Yes, we’re all beyond tired of this pandemic. But coping skills are all we have to keep us safe and sane! What we tell ourselves influences how we feel and how we treat others. Catch yourself if you’re falling into a blame game about how belligerent your former spouse

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4 “Other Woman” Mistakes Divorcing Moms

4 “Other Woman” Mistakes Divorcing Moms Must Never Make!
Never fight around your kids regardless of the topic By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC When the “other woman” is in the picture, divorce can be vastly more complicated for divorcing parents. (Of course, it’s the same with the “other man.”) However, the challenges that can come with the "other woman” and infidelity don't change the parenting rules. Of course, you’re coping with tremendous emotional turmoil. And you deserve to be heard, validated and treated with great compassion at this time. But your kids deserve great compassion as well! When you’re a parent it is essential that you don’t make the big “never do” mistakes when talking to your children and dealing with the OW – as tempting as it may be to do otherwise. Here are 4 “never do mistakes” you must avoid to show you love your kids more than you hate the “Other Woman”! Sharing

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What To Tell Your Spouse Before Talking ...

What To Tell Your Spouse Before Talking Divorce With Your Kids!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  Ever go on a vacation without making plans in advance? The consequences are usually disastrous. If you fail to plan ahead regarding reservations, canceling mail delivery, caring for your pets and knowing your destination, your vacation is likely to be filled with disappointment, frustration and even heartache. What about preparing your children for your pending divorce? Do you have a plan – or are you going to wing it without any prior thought? For children, divorce is a monumental life experience for which they have no preparation. The very foundation of their security – their love for both parents – is being thrown into turmoil. Everything they knew and accepted as part of routine daily life is going to be affected in one way or another. They don’t know what to expect. They also have little source of comfort other than their parents who are announcing

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7 Divorce Questions Your Kids Will Ask A...

7 Divorce Questions Your Kids Will Ask And Want Answered!
Children are affected by divorce By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  All divorcing parents dread having the tough “break the news” talk with their kids. It’s a complex, deeply emotional conversation that can break your heart while testing your parenting stability. Before tackling this challenge, I encourage both parents to read my ebook: How Do I Tell The Kids About The Divorce: A Create-a-Storybook Guide For Preparing Your Children – With Love! It prepares you physically, emotionally and psychologically for what to expect and how to respond. Be aware that the questions don’t end there. During and long after the initial conversation your children will be addressing you with questions. It’s best to talk with your co-parent in advance so you’re both on the same page and prepared with age-appropriate answers. Your responses don’t have to be long or detailed. Your children are looking for comfort, security and

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5 Crucial Steps Helping Divorced Parents...

5 Crucial Steps Helping Divorced Parents Move On
  By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  1.  DECIDE TO LET GO If you truly want to move on from your divorce you must learn to let go of negative emotions that hold you hostage. That includes anger, resentment, blame, jealousy, hatred and anxiety. Of course, there is a time and place for experiencing those emotions. Allow yourself to feel them – to mourn the dream that turned sour. Then make a decision to let them go. Do this for your benefit – not on behalf of your former spouse. Negative emotions can hold you in limbo and suck the life out of you. You get stuck in a place that’s painful to experience and it makes you unpleasant to be around. For the sake of your children – if not for yourself – decide to let it all go. Determine to move on. Yes, it’s not always easy to do, but

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Grandparents Can Help Grandchildren Bett...

Grandparents Can Help Grandchildren Better Adjust To Divorce Challenges!
Grandparents - grandchildren - affected by divorce By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Grandparents are often caught in the tensions between parents during and long after a   divorce. While they’re eager to help, many grandparents are confused about overstepping boundaries. They want to play a part in easing the pain, confusion and other emotional issues that may be affecting their innocent grandkids. Since every divorce is unique, there are no cookie-cutter solutions that do the trick. But here are some guidelines to keep in mind, especially in regards to being there for your grandchildren. If you haven’t been close to the kids beforehand, post-divorce is a difficult time to develop a relationship. But if you already have that bond established, it’s important to keep the on-going connection at this time when the children are facing so many unknowns. Be a supportive, compassionate ear for the grandkids! When communication

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Divorce Survey: Insights About Divorce a...

Divorce Survey: Insights About Divorce and Family
Life is full of transitions. We all remember moving out of our childhood home. For many of us, it was both a thrilling and absolutely terrifying experience. But possibly, one of the most fulfilling feelings is turning a house into a home—and a family home becomes the hot spot where so many memories are made. So how do you cope when your once happy home is filled with heartbreak? Over 90 percent of people in Western cultures will get married by the time they turn 50, according to the American Psychological Association (APA), but almost half of these marriages will end in divorce. We asked 501 people in the U.S., from ages 22 to 77, how they dealt with their divorce, who kept the marital home, and how they transitioned into a new chapter of life. Keep reading to see how divorced respondents are attempting to pick up the pieces and create happy, healthy homes.

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Don’t Make Your Pet Another Casualty Of

Don’t Make Your Pet Another Casualty Of Divorce!
Pets help children cope with divorce By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Abandoned pets are one of the many sad outcomes of divorce. Marital problems, conflict and ultimately divorce is behind a significant number of pet turn-ins for animal shelters every year. Often one spouse doesn’t want to take the dog or cat while the other can’t keep them due to downsizing or reduced income. Many rental apartments won’t take pets over twenty pounds or allow more than one animal per unit. Sometimes couples will fight over dogs and cats as well as other pets. Often, they bring the conflict into mediation or attorney negotiations with as much emotion as their battles over child custody. However, in most regions of the world, pets are still considered property, much like a car or furniture. The emotional connection to the family is not a factor in determining pet custody or

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