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Talk “To” – Not “At” – Your Child … Thro

Talk “To” – Not “At” – Your Child … Through Divorce And Beyond!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Mental health experts always remind parents about the importance of talking to their children. Unfortunately, many parents need just such a reminder -- especially in today’s mega-paced culture. When life moves past Coronavirus fears and we’re not forced into quarantine we’ll be getting back into more familiar structure. Here are some thoughts to keep in mind about communicating effectively with your kids. Just sitting down to a family dinner together can become a major accomplishment. Too often busy parents find themselves talking “at” their children, but not “to” them. And most especially, not “with” them. This, of course, is problematic in any family trying to raise socially, emotionally and spiritually healthy children. However, it is especially dangerous if that family is facing the challenges of divorce or separation.  If your parent-child communication skills and rapport is not optimal before discussions about divorce or family lifestyle changes

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4 Key Points For Transforming Your Life ...

4 Key Points For Transforming Your Life After Divorce & Despite Covid-19
Divorce catches kids in the middle By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC During these difficult times life is even more challenging for parents dealing with divorce or co-parenting after divorce. Circumstances beyond our control are impacting decisions we make to protect ourselves and our children. New governmental restrictions are impacting and complicating routines and structure. Parents are faced with a new normal that changes from week to week. Be patient with yourself and your former partner. Try to be there for one another. This is new territory for every one of us. Despite divorce, think like a team on behalf of your family and make decisions that support your physical, mental and emotional needs. Be more tolerant, forgiving and flexible. Your sanity and the wellbeing of your children is at stake! How Best to Survive And Thrive! Divorce is always a life-altering experience. But it doesn’t have to

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Why We Love 2houses.com For Divorced or ...

Why We Love 2houses.com For Divorced or Separated Families
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC When divorce or separation impacts a family, everyone in that family is affected. The consequences can be overwhelming on a physical, emotional and psychological level never experienced before. In the aftermath of divorce, the parents and children are facing a new reality that requires adjustments, acceptance, cooperation and support. Having experienced his own divorce with children, Gill Ruidant understood these challenges on a deeply personal basis. Using his background in mobile technology, Gill created a unique app designed to help separated families communicate and become organized for the wellbeing of their children. In 2012 2houses.com was launched. Today more than 170,000 families in 170 countries use 2houses to reduce conflict and create a more neutral environment between co-parents. It’s a tool with a simple, intuitive interface making it very easy to access and use. Thoughtful features for smoother post-divorce parenting As a divorced parent myself, what

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8 Steps To Lasting Co-Parenting Success ...

8 Steps To Lasting Co-Parenting Success After Divorce
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Effective co-parenting after divorce takes awareness, commitment and skills. Here are 8 Steps to getting it right for the children you love. Parenting before and after divorce can be complex, frustrating and confusing. However, every day parents around the world are coping with the challenges of raising happy, well-adjusted children. There are many factors that influence your effectiveness as a parent. In this article we’ll review some of the major components of the pre- and post-divorce parenting success formula. Step 1: ATTITUDE Attitude plays a big part in the success of any divorce with children. If you approach your divorce with a commitment to making it as positive an experience as possible for the children you love, you are on your way to succeeding. What attitude are you conveying about your divorce? Are you filled with negativity? Are your days consumed with a “poor me” state

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Damaging Things Parents Do That Harm Chi...

Damaging Things Parents Do That Harm Children During Divorce and Why!
By Sean Smallwood, Esq. Over the last decade in my practice as a family law and divorce attorney I have seen and litigated just about every type of custody issue that you can imagine. I have seen allegations of domestic violence, substance abuse, sexual molestation, and even attempted murder, however, the thing that that appalls me the most is the utter disregard that so many divorcing parents have for the permanent emotional damage that they cause to their children by their behavior during divorce. Many have said that when two people are going through a life altering event such as divorce that their personalities change and their brain starts working in a way that is uncharacteristic of their normal function. In my experience, I believe this to be very true. I prefer to call it temporary insanity. With all of the emotional angles of a divorce such as betrayal, jealousy,

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Co-Parenting Is Not A Competition. Don’t

Co-Parenting Is Not A Competition. Don’t Play To Win!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Co-parenting your children after divorce should never be a competition between parents. It’s not a game and there should be no winners, except for the kids! Nor should there be any losers, because that’s a loss for the kids, as well. Co-parenting is all about mind-set. How you approach it. What your goals are … and how you play day by day. Competition creates toxic parenting Competing co-parents put their children in an awkward situation. Kids are cajoled, manipulated or even bullied into feeling they have to choose sides. It’s hurtful, damaging and insensitive to subject them to that emotional turmoil, even when subtle. Steer clear of the “good parent/bad parent” mentality. You’re both in this together – for your lifetime! Think CO-PARENTS in the most positive possible way. Co-parent to fit your unique family Co-parenting can be enormously challenging. There are no rules for how

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Secrets Of Co-Parenting Effectively Desp...

Secrets Of Co-Parenting Effectively Despite Post-Divorce Challenges
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC As a Divorce & Parenting Coach I’m often asked “What are the secrets to successful co-parenting after divorce?” That’s the million-dollar question. And while there is no simple answer, I believe most professionals will agree the smartest strategy is learning how to co-parent respectfully. That means remove anger, hostility or vindictiveness from your interactions with your former spouse and learn how to share co-parenting as loving parents to your kids. Of course, that’s not always easy to do. But it is doable. Learning to master effective  communication skills, showing empathy and finding areas of agreement whenever possible go a long way towards diffusing tensions and cooperating as parents. The benefits you derive can be substantial. They will more than make up for the ego gratification you get when holding on to those damaging emotions. Remember, your goal is not to re-establish your adult relationship. It’s to

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3 Lessons From MARRIAGE STORY Movie Of V...

3 Lessons From MARRIAGE STORY Movie Of Value  For Every Divorcing Parent!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Because divorce is such a complex life experience it’s rare to find it realistically portrayed in film, TV or theater. Too often we see over the top drama, unrealistic circumstances or vindictive escalations more motivated by viewer ratings than thoughtful, meaningful dialogue. Surprisingly, the Netflix original movie, Marriage Story, is an excellently portrayed divorce story. It stands apart for addressing parental divorce with jarring authenticity. The beautifully written, emotionally compelling script focuses on a believable family. Both parents are facing universal challenges that escalate in understandable, organic ways. The stellar celebrity cast play their characters with nuanced sensitivity. We recognize their confusion. We relate to their pain. We resonate with their decisions and all the known and unseen consequences that emerge every step of the way. The film begins with both partners putting together a list of what they liked and appreciated most about their spouse.

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How Child-Centered Divorce Month Can Tra...

How Child-Centered Divorce Month Can Transform Your Life!
An interview with Rosalind Sedacca, CDC www.DivorcedParentSupport.com January is International Child-Centered Divorce Month What is International Child-Centered Divorce Month? This January is the 13th Anniversary of Child-Centered Divorce Month. Its purpose is to support divorcing and divorced parents in coping with the effects of divorce on children. Equally important, it helps parents prevent emotional and psychological damage to children during and after a divorce. In recognition of International Child-Centered Divorce Month 2020 divorce experts around the world will be providing free ebooks, video webinars, coaching services, e-courses and other gifts to divorcing and divorced or separated parents throughout January.   Why commemorate ICCD Month every January? More divorces get initiated in January, following the holiday season, than in any other month. That’s why as a Divorce & Parenting Coach and founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network, I chose January to commemorate International Child-Centered Divorce Month every year.

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4 Sane Steps To Overcoming Guilt During ...

4 Sane Steps To Overcoming Guilt During and After Divorce!
Divorce catches kids in the middle By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce brings up a broad array of painful emotions including anger, fear, resentment and hurt. And when you’re a parent, guilt can surface among your most dominant feelings. For loving parents, guilt can be an incredibly powerful emotion. That’s because divorce triggers our basic beliefs on parenting rules and conduct. Usually when you experience guilt you are feeling bad about a previous action, thought or feeling that you perceive to be wrong. When you cannot let that go you can experience tremendous guilt. While everyone feels guilty at some time in their life, divorce pushes the guilt button in dramatic ways. And some people are more susceptible. Often those with low self-esteem, tendencies towards perfectionism, the need to be in control or who have  difficulty letting go of anger are more riddled by guilt. Because divorce is such an

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