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Communication with your child is essential. By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Dating after divorce as a single parent comes with its own set of challenges. When you’re a parent you can’t forget the child in your life, much as you may want to when out in the dating world. Parenting is a life-long responsibility. It doesn’t matter whether your child is with you full-time or you have a shared visitation schedule. Either way, it’s crucial that you approach being single with the awareness that you are also parent. And that should influence all of your social and relationship decisions. Because your kids' emotional and psychological wellbeing is at stake -- and that is something you must never forget. Here are some realistic guidelines that will keep you on track when the allure of dating and new relationships can be distracting! 1. Be up front with new partners

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The Power of Forgiveness in Divorce: The Gift You Give Yourself!

The Divorce/Separation Path By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Most all mental health practitioners consider forgiveness to be a major step forward in coping with life's harshest experiences. Divorce certainly fits into that category. It's important to explore the value of forgiving yourself for anything related to your past relationships and the divorce. In that way you can benefit from learning lessons that life gives us for personal growth Self-Forgiveness is a Healthy Personal Choice! Forgiveness starts by making a decision to forgive. That decision frees you to let go of the old hurts. You give yourself permission to release the negative emotions associated with past and present relationship partners. You then choose to not let their decisions, comments and actions hurt you anymore. The healing choice is yours to make! Unless you forgive others, your feelings of resentment, hurt and humiliation will continue being an active part

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Using Forgiveness To Boost Healing, Health & Harmony in Life

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC With a new year looming before us, there’s no better time to reflect on ways we can let go of hurt, guilt, anxiety, anger and other emotions that destroy our inner peace and harmony. One of the most effective ways to heal from within is through the power of FORGIVENESS! Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment, pain, hurt as well as thoughts of revenge. Forgiving doesn't mean you are forgetting or denying the pain and hurt. It means you are releasing the grip it has over your life. It means you choose to focus on more positive facets of life for your own well-being. Forgiving does not mean you deny the other person's responsibility in hurting you, nor does it minimize that pain. We don't forgive for the other person. We forgive because of the value it brings to us! Through forgiveness you can better

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Dating After Divorce: Straight Answers To 7 Challenging Questions!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC I applaud parents who are striving to create a Child-Centered Divorce. It's not always the easiest path, but it certainly is the most rewarding in the long-term for your children. It involves understanding and respecting your children's needs whenever you are making decisions about your own life. This includes all facets of co-parenting. It also moves into decisions about starting over and dating after divorce. As parents move beyond divorce and start thinking about the prospect of finding new relationships, there is much to take into account. When it comes to issues related to dating after divorce, here are some common questions I am asked and the advice I suggest. Is it ok to date when you're separated, or should you wait until you are legally divorced? It's always better to take some time to prepare yourself before starting to date - legally divorced or not.

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How To Keep Kids From Sabotaging Your Dating After Divorce!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Dating after divorce can be challenging for many parents who have been out of the market for some time. But it’s even more challenging for your children. It’s only natural for them to be resistant to any new partner you bring into their lives. And sometimes they can be downright belligerent to keep you from dating post-divorce. No matter how much you love your kids, they can represent obstacles to your future love life. This is a reality whether your divorce was relatively painless or high conflict. As a parent you don’t want to create more emotional drama or trauma for your children. You want to protect them from unnecessary conflict and competition for your attention. When you introduce a new partner, especially one who may be a parental figure in the future, be prepared. It’s not surprising that kids will want to express their feelings,

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Divorce Warning Signs – Did You See Yours In Advance?

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC From time to time when talking to clients they tell me they were caught off guard by their divorce. Some even proclaim their spouses left them “one day, without any warning!” I usually respond by asking: is that actually true? Was there really no warning?Upon deeper reflection, in most every case some "warning" signs were there already. Often they were evident looking quite a way back. Consequently, the day their partner left actually took place after an accumulation of many previous warning signs. Sadly they were overlooked or dismissed. While that doesn’t soften the blow of the experience, it puts another perspective on the importance of being aware of what’s going on in your relationship. That means keeping your eyes wide open even when you’d prefer not to “see.” Think back on all the times you felt something was not quite right, but you just couldn’t

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Divorced? 4 Valuable Life Lessons You Can Master!

Cooperative coparenting supports children By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce affects everyone differently. Its impact also lingers with us for different periods of time. But there’s one thing that never changes: the aftermath of divorce can be a sense of self-discovery. Or it can become an internment in a self-made prison of depression and resentment. What influences us the most is how well we accept what is and our determination to use the divorce as a pathway to a new and better life. The good news: it’s all up to us. We can create an attitude of positive expectation. Or we can subjugate ourselves to months and years of self-pity and despair down the road. The bad news: it’s not always easy to change our attitude or perspective on life. But if you do, you’ll be rewarded with a happier future for yourself as well as your

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9 Tips For Parents When You’re Dating After Divorce!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC It’s no surprise that jumping into dating after a divorce can be difficult. But dating after a divorce when you have children can be even harder. That’s because your entire perspective on relationships changes after having children. Now you aren't only looking for someone to spend your time with. You are looking for someone to be an adult role model for your children, as well, complicating many of your decisions. Here are 9 important tips to grasp before you start socializing after divorce when you’re a parent. Be open and honest with first dates. Let them know you have children, their general age range and whether they are living with you. This isn’t information you should hide. Being single with children is an important factor that impacts any dating relationship. You also want to find out how your date feels about children and whether they, too,

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Do You Have Anger Issues Triggered By Your Divorce or Relationship?

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC We all get angry when we believe we are being wronged, misunderstood or unjustly accused. It’s a natural reaction to circumstances that put us on the defensive. For many, divorce is the perfect storm that triggers all our anger issues. When we’re parents and cannot manage our anger, it can take over our lives and affect the wellbeing of our children. Focusing our anger on our divorcing spouse can fuel the fire to dangerous levels for everyone involved. Anger is a feeling that alerts us that something is wrong. What we fail to understand is that we, as human beings, always have choicesregarding how we act regarding those feelings. Acting before thinking can lead to mismanaged anger.Once we have reacted to anger, we have allowed our feelings to control us. This can lead to actions and behaviors we never would have taken if we were making

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4 Crucial Steps To Transforming Your Life After Divorce!

parenting after divorce By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce is always a life-altering experience. But it doesn’t have to be all negative. For many it’s a time of personal self-discovery. For others, a self-made prison of depression and resentment. What makes the difference is our acceptance of what is and our ability to use the divorce as a stepping stone to a new and better life. The bottom line: it’s all up to us. We can generate an attitude of positive expectation or we can choose instead a life filled with the pain of self-pity and despair. The real challenge: changing our attitude or perspective on life is not a simple task. But if you take consistent steps in that direction, you’ll create the foundation for a happier future -- both for yourself and the children you love. Start by focusing your attention on these 4 Steps

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