Rosalind Sedacca’s NEW … DIVORCING WITH CHILDREN CO-PARENTING TOOLKIT The Parenting Guidance, Insights & Advice You Need -- To Protect the Children You Love! Let’s face it. Divorce is never pretty. And never easy. Especially when kids are involved. Any parent worthy of the name is riddled with guilt. Then there's confusion, anxiety, fear and an array of other emotions. It’s only natural to feel that way. And to want to protect your innocent children from hurt, anger and long-term emotional scars. My own divorce took place many years ago. What I’ve learned became the foundation of my Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents. It’s also the reason I became a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach, author, podcast host and ultimatrey, how I became recognized around the world as The Voice of Child-Centered Divorce! My personal story has a happy ending. My son grew up, became a successful professional and married (blessing
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When faced with parental alienation behaviors after divorce, here are some important strategies to consider, suggested by divorce therapists, to open the door to healing and maintaining your relationship with your children:
July is National Child-Centered Divorce Month, dedicated to alerting parents about the harm to their children when divorce isn’t handled effectively. Repeated studies show that it isn’t divorce per se that damages children. It’s the mistakes that unaware parents make before, during and after divorce that does the harm. Throughout July divorce professionals concerned about the effects of divorce on children will be sharing their advice and insights on the topic. Their goal is to educate parents about the choices they do have before moving into divorce to prevent negative consequences for children of all ages.
?????By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Imagine going through your divorce with billions of people around the world following your every move. That’s the reality Maria Shriver and Arnold Schwarzenegger faced as they explored the options for their family after divorce. For the Child-Centered Divorce community, this very public marital crisis reminds us of a crucial point. Fame, money and power in no way shield a family from the hurt, fears and insecurities that come with a pending separation or divorce. Our focus moves to the children and how they can best be helped to survive and ultimately thrive after a marriage is dissolved. In the Schwarzenegger family, those children were teens. Often divorcing parents put all their attention on helping their younger children cope while assuming their teenager will understand and adapt. Unfortunately studies have shown that in many cases teens will deal with divorce in more self-destructive and dangerous ways
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Author of internationally acclaimed ebook discusses how to tell children about your divorce, one of the toughest conversations any parent will have, in a compassionate and effective way to safeguard your children. Six key messages essential to the conversation are included.
?????April 25th is the annual recognition of Parental Alienation Day. It is a time for all divorced parents to reflect on their relationship with their former spouse and how it may be subtly or overtly affecting the emotional and psychological well-being of their children. One behavior commonly overlooked as a very hurtful aspect of Parental Alienation involves one parent keeping the other from contact with the children – as punishment. Threatening To Keep Your Ex From the Kids Divorced parents can quickly learn ways to abuse their power over the other parent by using the children as a lever. Among the most harmful of these types of manipulations is making demands and threatening to eliminate or restrict contact with the kids if your ex doesn’t agree. Most all divorced parents have incidents and expectations that cause great frustration or anger toward their ex. But you’re stepping over the line when
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Following divorce, by practicing active rather than reactive parenting you are giving your children the best hope for a happier and more positive future. Here are key questions to ask yourself before you make parenting decisions.
There are two major concepts that create the most emotional pain for children before, during and after divorce. Here are suggestions on how to handle divorce and parenting challenges.
Divorce can be a major stumbling block to our happiness and personal growth. When you can’t let go of hurt and anger, it builds into a resentment or grudge. That feeling can take hold of you growing to envelope your whole life and all of your thoughts. Learn some of the signs that you are still holding grudges.
By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Frequently, I am asked “What is the key to successful co-parenting after divorce?” While there is no simple answer to that, I believe most professionals will agree the smartest strategy is learning how to remove anger, hostility or vindictiveness from your interactions with your former spouse. We all know that’s not always easy to do. However, the benefits you derive will more than make up for the sense of satisfaction or ego gratification you get when you hold on to those damaging emotions. If you’re intent on creating a child-centered divorce that strives for harmony between you and your ex, you need to initiate the conversation and model win-win solutions. If your ex doesn't want to cooperate, that’s when your patience will certainly be tested. Look for opportunities to clarify why working together as co-parents as often as possible will create far better outcomes for your
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