Divorce can be devastating when you’re a parent. You can’t just crawl into a hole and grieve, rant or rage. You must still care for the well-being of your children. And sometimes this is a challenge that overwhelms, resulting in parents who can’t cope with the responsibilities of parenting. When this happens, your children pay a high price. And too often, the parents aren’t totally aware of how their kids are affected. It’s not always easy to remember that your children may be grieving as deeply as you are during and after divorce. It’s even more frightening for them because they were not responsible for the divorce nor the complex dynamics that led up to the split. Their fears are compounded by apprehension about whether Mom or Dad will ever divorce them -- and what will happen to them and their family in the future. As dramatically as your life
Countless studies have shown that anger and resentment are toxic to children of divorce as well as their parents. Uncontrollable anger or suppressed rage hurts the person both physically and mentally. Anger and hostility create stress in your mind and body and can create a host of physical ailments. Remaining angry at your ex can make you irritable and less patient with your children.
Divorce can be a major stumbling block to our happiness and personal growth. When you can’t let go of hurt and anger, it builds into a resentment or grudge. That feeling can take hold of you growing to envelope your whole life and all of your thoughts. Learn some of the signs that you are still holding grudges.