Keep Unconscious Unparenting From Scarri...
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Too many divorces are being scarred by "Unconscious Unparenting!" -- leaving the children to pay the price! Why is the concept of Child-Centered, Amicable or Collaborative Divorce so threatening for some? Perhaps because it suggests having to own the part we played in the dissolution of our marriage. Perhaps because it means we can't play the victim -- venting about the horrible person we married while craving sympathy from anyone who will listen. Maybe it's threatening because it means we have to take our children into account and step up to co-parenting maturely with the other parent that our kids also love. Avoiding the Win/Lose Battle No doubt, cooperative, conscious, mindful divorce isn't an easy path and unconscious un-parenting can have its appeal. The goal in our misguided legal system too often is simply "winning" -- which comes at the expense of the other parent "losing."
