By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT We all get angry when we believe we are being wronged, misunderstood or unjustly accused. It’s a natural reaction to circumstances that put us on the defensive. For many, divorce is the perfect storm that triggers all our anger issues. When we’re parents and cannot manage our anger, it can take over our lives and affect the well-being of our children. Focusing our anger on our divorcing spouse can fuel the fire to dangerous levels for everyone involved. Anger is a feeling that alerts us that something is wrong. What we fail to understand is that we, as human beings, always have choices regarding how we act regarding those feelings. Acting before thinking can lead to mismanaged anger. Once we have reacted to anger, we have allowed our feelings to control us. This can lead to actions and behaviors we never would have taken if we
If managing anger has been a challenge during or after divorce or separation, it is valuable to recognize signs to watch out for in our behavior. Learn to identify “red flag” warnings in advance before we let our anger or rage explode out of control. With intention and practice, we can discover healthier ways of expressing anger especially when faced with divorce, separation and co-parenting issues.