10 Questions Divorcing Parents Must Answ...

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Larry Sarezky is a Family Law attorney with a strong, child-centered focus. He is also the author of an excellent book, Divorce Simply Stated, that I highly recommend. Larry created a list of ten questions for clients who are considering custody battles. He tells them, if your co-parent wants to fight over the kids, ask them to answer the following questions – and think about the consequences of each one. It’s a good exercise for every parent coping with the challenges of divorce: 1. Do you want your children to endure months of anxiety and uncertainty as to where they will be living and whether they will have the relationship they want with their parents and siblings? When you prolong the child-care battle, your children pay the price in stress. Seek out mediation to find a path toward co-parenting solutions that honor your children. 2.

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5 Tips For A Healthy Divorce Mindset During These Challenging Times

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce can stop us in our tracks and overwhelm anyone with anxiety, sadness and depression. This is especially true for parents who have the added responsibility of caring for innocent children. Now we are confronted by an additional challenge: coping with divorce during a pandemic health crisis. And it’s up to us to create a positive mindset not only for ourselves, but for our children as well. Here are 5 important keys to keeping a positive perspective during these tough times. 1. Monitor your thoughts and beliefs. What we tell ourselves influences how we feel and how we treat others. Catch yourself if you’re falling into a blame game about how belligerent your former spouse is behaving or how difficult the kids are. Let’s face it, no one is happy about our present circumstances and limitations. Instead, find things to focus on that are working well:

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After Divorce: Help Your Kids Adjust To Both Parents’ Homes!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC All people are innately resistant to change. But it’s especially difficult for children. One of the greatest disruptions in a child’s life is the upheaval caused by divorce. For this reason, it’s especially important for you, as a parent, to do everything you can to help your children adjust. That includes adapting to their new routines and accepting the changes in their lives in the most positive possible ways. That usually means putting your children’s physical, emotional and psychological needs foremost in your mind and heart. In that way, you will make decisions that are child-centered rather than based on your needs for getting back, proving your points or hurting their other parent. No doubt it’s not always easy to co-parent after divorce from this perspective. However, it’s the only option that will allow your children to have a safe and sane childhood. It’s the path

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Talk “To” – Not “At” – Your Child … Through Divorce And Beyond!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Mental health experts always remind parents about the importance of talking to their children. Unfortunately, many parents need just such a reminder -- especially in today’s mega-paced culture. When life moves past Coronavirus fears and we’re not forced into quarantine we’ll be getting back into more familiar structure. Here are some thoughts to keep in mind about communicating effectively with your kids. Just sitting down to a family dinner together can become a major accomplishment. Too often busy parents find themselves talking “at” their children, but not “to” them. And most especially, not “with” them. This, of course, is problematic in any family trying to raise socially, emotionally and spiritually healthy children. However, it is especially dangerous if that family is facing the challenges of divorce or separation. If your parent-child communication skills and rapport is not optimal before discussions about divorce or family lifestyle changes

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4 Key Points For Transforming Your Life After Divorce & Despite Covid-19

Divorce catches kids in the middle By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC During these difficult times life is even more challenging for parents dealing with divorce or co-parenting after divorce. Circumstances beyond our control are impacting decisions we make to protect ourselves and our children. New governmental restrictions are impacting and complicating routines and structure. Parents are faced with a new normal that changes from week to week. Be patient with yourself and your former partner. Try to be there for one another. This is new territory for every one of us. Despite divorce, think like a team on behalf of your family and make decisions that support your physical, mental and emotional needs. Be more tolerant, forgiving and flexible. Your sanity and the wellbeing of your children is at stake! How Best to Survive And Thrive! Divorce is always a life-altering experience. But it doesn’t have to

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC When divorce or separation impacts a family, everyone in that family is affected. The consequences can be overwhelming on a physical, emotional and psychological level never experienced before. In the aftermath of divorce, the parents and children are facing a new reality that requires adjustments, acceptance, cooperation and support. Having experienced his own divorce with children, Gill Ruidant understood these challenges on a deeply personal basis. Using his background in mobile technology, Gill created a unique app designed to help separated families communicate and become organized for the wellbeing of their children. In 2012 2houses.com was launched. Today more than 170,000 families in 170 countries use 2houses to reduce conflict and create a more neutral environment between co-parents. It’s a tool with a simple, intuitive interface making it very easy to access and use. Thoughtful features for smoother post-divorce parenting As a divorced parent myself, what

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8 Steps To Lasting Co-Parenting Success After Divorce

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Effective co-parenting after divorce takes awareness, commitment and skills. Here are 8 Steps to getting it right for the children you love. Parenting before and after divorce can be complex, frustrating and confusing. However, every day parents around the world are coping with the challenges of raising happy, well-adjusted children. There are many factors that influence your effectiveness as a parent. In this article we’ll review some of the major components of the pre- and post-divorce parenting success formula. Step 1: ATTITUDE Attitude plays a big part in the success of any divorce with children. If you approach your divorce with a commitment to making it as positive an experience as possible for the children you love, you are on your way to succeeding. What attitude are you conveying about your divorce? Are you filled with negativity? Are your days consumed with a “poor me” state

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Damaging Things Parents Do That Harm Children During Divorce and Why!

By Sean Smallwood, Esq. Over the last decade in my practice as a family law and divorce attorney I have seen and litigated just about every type of custody issue that you can imagine. I have seen allegations of domestic violence, substance abuse, sexual molestation, and even attempted murder, however, the thing that that appalls me the most is the utter disregard that so many divorcing parents have for the permanent emotional damage that they cause to their children by their behavior during divorce. Many have said that when two people are going through a life altering event such as divorce that their personalities change and their brain starts working in a way that is uncharacteristic of their normal function. In my experience, I believe this to be very true. I prefer to call it temporary insanity. With all of the emotional angles of a divorce such as betrayal, jealousy,

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Co-Parenting Is Not A Competition. Don’t Play To Win!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Co-parenting your children after divorce should never be a competition between parents. It’s not a game and there should be no winners, except for the kids! Nor should there be any losers, because that’s a loss for the kids, as well. Co-parenting is all about mind-set. How you approach it. What your goals are … and how you play day by day. Competition creates toxic parenting Competing co-parents put their children in an awkward situation. Kids are cajoled, manipulated or even bullied into feeling they have to choose sides. It’s hurtful, damaging and insensitive to subject them to that emotional turmoil, even when subtle. Steer clear of the “good parent/bad parent” mentality. You’re both in this together – for your lifetime! Think CO-PARENTS in the most positive possible way. Co-parent to fit your unique family Co-parenting can be enormously challenging. There are no rules for how

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Secrets Of Co-Parenting Effectively Despite Post-Divorce Challenges

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC As a Divorce & Parenting Coach I’m often asked “What are the secrets to successful co-parenting after divorce?” That’s the million-dollar question. And while there is no simple answer, I believe most professionals will agree the smartest strategy is learning how to co-parent respectfully. That means remove anger, hostility or vindictiveness from your interactions with your former spouse and learn how to share co-parenting as loving parents to your kids. Of course, that’s not always easy to do. But it is doable. Learning to master effective communication skills, showing empathy and finding areas of agreement whenever possible go a long way towards diffusing tensions and cooperating as parents. The benefits you derive can be substantial. They will more than make up for the ego gratification you get when holding on to those damaging emotions. Remember, your goal is not to re-establish your adult relationship. It’s to

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