Soberlink and The Child-Centered Divorce...

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Sadly, in our nation and beyond, children are still being mistreated, neglected, and abused. In April, we recognize National Child-Abuse Prevention Month by raising awareness of how parents, professionals, and concerned parties can protect children from the lasting effects of adverse childhood experiences—especially those caused by a parent’s alcohol misuse. For many families, divorce doesn’t end the challenges—it often marks the beginning of new ones, especially when one parent struggles with alcohol abuse. The consequences of this dynamic can lead to emotional harm, instability, and in some cases, overlooked forms of child abuse. That’s why the Child-Centered Divorce Network has partnered with Soberlink this April. Together, we are committed to highlighting ways to make shared parenting safer, more secure, and less stressful for both parents and, most importantly, for the children caught in the middle. Soberlink’s portable alcohol monitoring devices have become a vital resource for

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Using Your Children As Spies Post-Divorce: Don’t Do It!

Probing and pressuring can be abusive when you cross the line By Rosalind Sedacca Following divorce it's tempting to turn your children into "spies." Don't go there! When children are told to report on the activities of the other parent, it places the children in a no-win situation. Even worse, using your children as spies has other negative consequences. It promotes lying and deceit. Not surprisingly, encouraging spying also leads to picking sides. And it often creates loyalty conflicts for your children. As a result, your kids may clam up, become untruthful, or untrustworthy. Not surprisingly, it's not easy to break the habit of inappropriately questioning your children after they return from time spent with their other parent. However, it must be done. It helps to think about it from your child's perspective. How do your kids feel when transitioning from one home to the other?

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Beware Children Parenting Their Divorcing Parents!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce is tough enough. When children try to protect their parents from its consequences, the parenting is moving backwards and the results are devastating. Always be careful of what you share with your children regarding your own emotional state during and after your divorce. It can create enormous confusion for your children, along with guilt, frustration and despair. Children who experience their parents divorce are helpless to change the circumstances. But they often try. They want to do something to "fix" the situation, but they haven't a clue how. Sometimes they create solutions that make sense in their young minds, but actually cause greater complications. That's why it's so important for parents to take the emotional burden off of the shoulders of their children. Reassure them that Mom and Dad are still their parents and will continue to be there for them with compassion and love.

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5 Ways to Ease Post-Divorce Between-Home Transitions for Your Kids

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC During divorce proceedings, parenting plans or contact schedules are usually established to create a semblance of routine in this new chapter of family life. Easing the post-divorce between-home transitions is a crucial factor. I strongly believe in co-parenting whenever possible to serve the best interest of your children, It’s the reality of daily life experiences that puts everyone to the test. Here are 5 helpful ways to improve the process for everyone involved. Be patient with one another. Starting any new schedule in life is never easy. Chances are the between-homes transition will present a number of challenges for you as you adapt to the many responsibilities involved. At the same time, think about the challenges for your children who never signed on for this. Be especially empathic with them if they express frustration, anger and resentment at first. Also allow your children time to adjust

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Money Matters When Divorcing with Children: How to Navigate Finances For a Secure Future

Donna Cates, CDFA Divorcing when you have children adds a layer of complexity to an already challenging process. Beyond emotional considerations, financial decisions made during and after divorce can have long-lasting impacts on your children’s well-being and your financial future. At Money Matters Wealth Solutions, Donna Cates focuses on helping parents like you make informed, strategic decisions that support your goals and protect your family. Key Financial Considerations for Divorcing Parents 1. Child Support and Expenses Understanding how child support is calculated and what it covers is critical. But don’t stop there—consider extracurricular activities, medical expenses, and future education costs. These often-overlooked items can significantly impact your post-divorce budget. 2. Housing Decisions Deciding whether to keep the marital home can be an emotional choice, but it must also be a financially sound one. I help parents evaluate whether staying in the home aligns with their long-term financial

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The Advantage of Personalized Divorce Coaching Services

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce is one of life’s most overwhelming transitions. For high-achieving individuals, the emotional toll and financial uncertainty can feel particularly heavy. Mardi Winder-Adams, a seasoned divorce coach with over 30 years of experience, specializes in guiding individuals through this challenging process with clarity, confidence, and empowerment. Her mission is simple: to help her clients reduce the emotional and financial costs of divorce and emerge stronger on their own terms. A Unique Approach to Divorce Coaching. Mardi understands that navigating divorce requires more than legal advice. Her personalized, one-on-one, confidential coaching focuses on the whole person—addressing emotional overwhelm, communication struggles, and decision- making challenges. If you’re feeling paralyzed by the endless “what-ifs” or intimidated by difficult conversations, Mardi’s coaching will prepare you to:  Speak your needs clearly and confidently without fear of confrontation.  Prepare for and participate in negotiations, mediation, and court proceedings with a

Child-Centered Divorce

ROSALIND SEDACCA & DIVORCE EXPERTS AROUND THE WORLD HAVE FREE GIFTS FOR YOU DURING INTERNATIONAL CHILD-CENTERED DIVORCE MONTH IN JANUARY January is International Child-Centered Divorce Month – a time when Divorce filings are highest: after the holidays at the start of the New Year. In recognition of ICCD Month, Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach, author and podcast host, Rosalind Sedacca, CDC, has gathered family-focused divorce professionals throughout the world. They are all giving away free ebooks, courses, videos, coaching services and other valuable resources to help parents: Make the best decisions regarding their children before, during and long after divorce. Avoid serious mistakes that negatively impact their children. Learn how divorce affects children at different ages and stages. Understand divorce options to choose the best course of action for both parents and children. Transition after divorce in a healthy, fulfilling way. Attract a rewarding and lasting love relationship in the

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6 Crucial Messages to Prepare Kids for Your Divorce

Communication with your child is essential. By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC One of the most difficult conversations any parent will ever have is telling their children about their pending divorce. I know first-hand because many years ago I went through the experience. I fought and faced the overwhelming emotions. The deep gut-wrenching fear. The continuous anxiety. The incredible guilt. And the oppressive weight of shame. My son, after all, was innocent. A sweet, gentle soul who loved his father and mother dearly. He certainly did not deserve this. I struggled with the anxiety for weeks in advance. When should I tell him? How should I tell him? Should we tell him together? And most frightening of all, WHAT SHOULD WE SAY? How do you explain to a child that the life he has known, the comfort he has felt in his family setting, is about to be

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Holiday Coping Tips For Divorced Parents When Apart From Your Kids!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC One of the saddest consequences of divorce for parents is the alone time when your children are visiting their other parent. While short-term periods can be a welcome respite for an overscheduled single parent, that’s not always the case. For many co-parents, the intervals between seeing the children can be long and lonely. This is especially so during the holiday season. And even more challenging when friends and neighbors are busy with their own family gatherings. It’s really important for parents who are alone during the winter holidays to get creative and absorbed in activities you find personally fulfilling. This time of year can also be an opportunity to reflect on meeting your own needs. That includes finding friends and activities that bring joy into your life on a personal level rather than a parental level. Avoid comments and behavior you’ll later regret! Among the greatest

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