Rosalind Sedacca, Author at Child-Centered Divorce

Navigating High-Conflict Co-Parenting Wh...

Co-parenting can feel impossible when one parent consistently misuses alcohol. It’s essential to create an environment that prioritizes the child’s well-being while reducing stress and miscommunication between parents. When done correctly, co-parenting can provide children with a sense of stability and safety, even in the most challenging circumstances. Establishing Boundaries and Expectations One of the most effective strategies in high-conflict co-parenting situations is establishing clear boundaries and expectations. Set specific rules regarding alcohol use around the child, as well as guidelines for how time with each parent will be managed. Consider drafting a comprehensive parenting plan that details when the parent who struggles with alcohol abuse will have contact with the child, and how both parents will communicate about issues that arise. In high-conflict situations, communication is often strained, and small misunderstandings can lead to significant arguments. Therefore, keeping all communication child-focused and fact-based is vital. Utilizing structured communication methods

Child-Centered Divorce

Why Parents Reject Or Abandon Their Children After Divorce

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Following divorce, most parents are eager to see their children as frequently as possible. Often this desire results in heated battles in or out of court focused on custody issues. In many cases, co-parenting is the ideal option. A parenting plan is set into place and the children are moved between two homes giving them continued access to both parents. In many cases, parents may not want to "share" the children. However, they often realize this is in their child's best interest, and therefore come up with an arrangement they can live with. In families that don't co-parent, usually one parent has primary custody of the children with the other parent taking the reins on a scheduled basis. This regular visitation may be over weekends, specific days per month, or periodic visits during the year if distance is a factor. In some cases, however, one parent

Child-Centered Divorce

Why Men Are Often More Challenged By Divorce!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Most everyone is emotionally impacted by divorce. The psychological toll can be even more dramatic when children are involved. There’s little doubt that a relationship breakup ramps up stress for both partners. However, several factors seem to indicate that divorce may be even more challenging for men than for women. Here are four reasons why divorce stress can take a greater toll on men: He’s more likely to be blindsided by the divorce In general, women are the first to initiate or file for a divorce. This seemingly sudden announcement often comes after she spends years feeling unhappy or frustrated in an unfulfilling marriage. Frequently her husband is not aware of her feelings, or he shrugs off her complaints as needless whining or nagging. Sometimes these unhappy women reach out first to family and friends for support. Others seek out professional counselors or coaches. When, despite

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Divorce Mistakes: It’s Never Too Late To Make Amends – For Your Children!

Cooperative co-parenting supports children By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Whether you got divorced several weeks ago or it's been several years, most of us can acknowledge that we've made some mistakes. Perhaps we lost our tempers at an inappropriate time and watched our children painfully internalize the experience. Maybe we referred to our ex in a rather unflattering way, making our child very upset and storming away in anger. Chances are, in the heat of the divorce drama, we settled for a decision or two that we later regretted and still feel guilty. Or we made a child-related agreement that, in hindsight, was not in our child's best interest - but we don't know quite how to remedy the situation. While some legal matters will involve only legal resolution, there are many post-divorce relationship decisions involving our children that we can remedy. Thankfully, it's never too late

Child-Centered Divorce

Soberlink Advanced Remote Alcohol Monitoring Brings New Hope to Families Impacted by Alcohol Misuse

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Rebuilding trust between co-parents has long been the cornerstone of the Child-Centered Divorce Network’s philosophy. That’s why we’ve been proud to partner with Soberlink, leading experts in remote alcohol monitoring technology. “The weaponization of alcohol use has the unfortunate ability to rip families apart,” said Chris Beck, VP of Business Development at Soberlink. “Our goal at Soberlink is to empower parents to be a part of their children’s lives by offering reliable alcohol monitoring that gives family members, as well as attorneys, peace of mind.” Soberlink's comprehensive system offers an innovative solution for alcohol monitoring in custody cases where a child’s safety may be in jeopardy. It combines technology and convenience to provide court-admissible documentation of sobriety that supports child safety along with a deep sense of security for parents. Reliable alcohol monitoring is proving to have a positive impact in divorce custody cases. Consequently, Soberlink continues

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Soberlink’s Advanced Remote Alcohol Monitoring Brings New Hope to Families Impacted by Alcohol Misuse

Soberlink proves sobriety By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Rebuilding trust between co-parents has long been the cornerstone of the Child-Centered Divorce Network’s philosophy. That’s why we’ve been proud to partner with Soberlink, leading experts in remote alcohol monitoring technology. “The weaponization of alcohol use has the unfortunate ability to rip families apart,” said Chris Beck, VP of Business Development at Soberlink. “Our goal at Soberlink is to empower parents to be a part of their children’s lives by offering reliable alcohol monitoring that gives family members, as well as attorneys and professional caregivers or treatment providers, peace of mind.” Soberlink's comprehensive system offers an innovative solution for alcohol monitoring in custody cases. It combines technology and convenience to provide court-admissible documentation of sobriety that supports child safety along with a deep sense of security for parents. Reliable alcohol monitoring is proving to have a positive impact in

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Dating After Divorce: 3 Tips When Telling Your Teens!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC We all know divorce creates havoc in any family’s life, especially when children are involved – even adult children. Moving on after divorce can also be challenging. It’s a time to be very gentle, both with yourself as well as with your children. Chances are, you made a considerable emotional investment in your marriage. Having seen that relationship fail can make you insecure about facing new relationships ahead. So take the time to go within. Learn from your mistakes -- we've all made them. Understand the lessons from your marriage. Determine new ways to approach future relationships. At some point you will feel ready to step back out into the dating world again. Then you face the challenge of breaking the news to your children. Tweens, teens and grown children usually present special challenges. So prepare with that in mind. Be Sensitive and Empathic! Of course

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5 Ways To Help Your Kids Genuinely Thrive After Your Divorce!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC How do you know your kids are managing well after your divorce? As a divorced parent you owe it to your children to diligently watch their behavior. And listen to their conversations. In addition, to be aware of any changes that may be due to challenges related to the divorce. Children can adapt well to life after divorce. But it’s up to you to catch signs they may be confused, anxious, insecure or in other ways having problems coping with their new reality. Here are 5 vitally important ways to know your children are doing well, and thriving, despite your divorce: They continue to thrive at school When school grades fall or aggressive behavior develops, parents need to be proactive and not wait on the sidelines. Conversations with teachers and school counselors can give you a better perspective on your child’s needs. Don’t hesitate to talk

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How Parental Anger Affects Your Children – During & Long After Divorce!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Children have a difficult time understanding what your anger means. They may experience shock, disbelief, fear, guilt, grief, confusion, shame and outrage by your aggressive tendencies. Observe how your behavior is affecting the children in your home and realize that you are a major role model for them. It is very likely that your children will grow to imitate your behavior and reactions – even if they disapprove of it at this time. Adults are responsible for helping children learn appropriate behaviors and coping skills. Without positive guidance children may experience the following behavior patterns resulting from your anger issues: Physical aggression towards others such as hitting, harming, screaming, kicking, etc. Sleep problems Feelings of inadequacy Increased fears, especially about losing a parent through divorce Depression/sadness School behavior problems Stomach aches, headaches, nausea and other stress-related physical symptoms Feeling their home is no longer a safe

Parenting After Divorce

How Guilt Can Impact You and Your Divorce

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Many caring parents I speak to admit to feeling tremendous guilt during and after their divorce. It's easy to understand why. Parents who are aware of the emotional toll a separation or divorce can take on their children often feel torn about whether they made the right decision. Asking relevant questions can be healthy! Are they being selfish in moving ahead with the divorce? Will this experience psychologically scar their children for life? Will the kids ever forgive them - or their other parent - for initiating the divorce? Are they making the right decisions regarding co-parenting and visitation? Are they overwhelmed by the challenges of parent to parent communication? Are they failing in discussing relevant decisions with the kids? These are valid questions to ask yourself. The answers should be seriously considered before moving into divorce. However, divorce is never a black and white issue.

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