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8 Must-Do Co-Parenting Strategies for Di...

8 Must-Do Co-Parenting Strategies for Divorced Parents
Divorced Parents: your children are watchintg! By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC While moving through divorce can seem like an insurmountable obstacle, for many parents it is just the beginning of a new and equally intimidating challenge: co-parenting your children. Hats off to all of you who have chosen to remain in your children’s lives as co-parents. It means both of you care deeply about your children and want to continue raising them in the least-disruptive possible manner. Of course not all parents can share the parenting process in this way and for some couples it is not realistic to even attempt it. But those divorced parents who choose to live relatively close to one another so as not to disturb the school, sports and other related schedules of their children, certainly deserve credit and acknowledgement. This is a complex topic that can’t be glossed over with a

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9 Secrets of a Child-Centered Divorce &

9 Secrets of a Child-Centered Divorce & Successful Co-Parenting Ahead!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  Co-parenting during and after divorce is always challenging. But more and more couples are realizing divorce doesn’t have to be a toxic disaster for parents or children. Co-parents have options and choices worth exploring. You can create a peaceful, amicable Child-Centered Divorce and your children will thank you. Keys to a peaceful divorce Here are some vitally important tips for achieving the positive outcome you desire … Acknowledge, and then forgive, yourself for the role you played in the disappointment and dissolution of your marriage. Don’t beat yourself up. Instead identify the lessons you’ve learned and determine not to repeat former mistakes. Let go of the past and pick your battles moving forward. Life is too short to get stuck in old grievances. Forgiving your ex means cutting the cord to the pain. It’s the gift you give yourself so you can create a brighter future.

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In January, International Child-Centered...

In January, International Child-Centered Divorce Month,  Parents Coping with Divorce Get Free Gifts from Experts!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC The 15th Anniversary of International Child-Centered Divorce Month is being recognized by divorce experts around the world. They will be providing free ebooks, coaching services, videos, Tip Sheets and other gifts to divorced parents throughout January. ICCD Month is dedicated to alerting parents about the effects of divorce on children – and how to prevent emotional and psychological damage to children during and after a divorce. Divorce attorneys, mediators, therapists, financial planners, coaches and other professionals on four continents will be participating. Their purpose is to promote peaceful divorce, cooperative co-parenting, and educating parents about how to prevent negative consequences for children affected by separation or divorce. More divorces are initiated in January, following the holiday season, than in any other month. That’s why as a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach, I chose January to commemorate ICCD Month. I want alert parents about the harm to their

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Divorcing In Today’s Economy Mandates Re

Divorcing In Today’s Economy Mandates Responsible Parenting Decisions
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  Is our down-turned economy having an effect on divorce in the U.S. and other nations? Reports from marriage counselors and divorce attorneys around the globe are in agreement. They’re finding many couples who were ready to call it quits are postponing the divorce decision due to financial reasons. In the U.S., with the cost of food, fuel and housing at near-record highs, many couples are just not divorcing. They are afraid they can’t afford it. Does this mean couples are finding new ways to get along and reconsider working on their marriages? In some cases, yes. But for many it just means adapting to continued unhappiness, disappointment and frustration. Children pay the price This, of course, does not bear well for their children. They experience the negative consequences of a distressed marriage. A tough call whether the couple splits or stays together because of economic factors.

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How To Create a Low-conflict Child-Cente...

How To Create a Low-conflict Child-Centered Divorce, Despite Challenges!
Cooperative coparenting supports children By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Anyone going through divorce knows it inevitably stirs up charged emotions -- some anticipated and others unexpected. And when children are involved, the process is exponentially more complex and challenging. One of the biggest battlegrounds revolve around child custody and child support. Fortunately, there are ways to get through it together. Marriages that end amicably are the healthiest for both the parents and the children. That’s why we encourage focusing on creating a Child-Centered Divorce. Dealing with highly charged emotions Betrayal, guilt, anger and shame can rear their ugly heads in a divorce, These feelings come with much pain and should never be ignored or taken lightly. However, your children are always innocent. Even if you’re fighting about the children, it’s never their fault. They should never bear the weight of problems that you and your spouse created

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How You & Your Kids Can Survive the Holi

How You & Your Kids Can Survive the Holidays After Your Divorce
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC One of the toughest transitions for children of divorce is coping with the first holiday season. As parents our challenge is to create new traditions and activities that can replace the memories of family holidays in the past. Here are some suggestions for helping you and your children keep in the best spirits throughout the holiday season. Be Attentive and Compassionate Talk to your children about how the holidays will be the same and different this year. Listen, and don’t lecture. Let them vent about their feelings, regrets and frustrations.  Acknowledge what they are expressing to you and show empathic understanding. Be aware that some children will hold their feelings in as a means to protect you. Reassure them that it’s okay to talk about their sadness as well as apprehension about what they will experience over the holidays. Remind your children that what they are

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Divorced Parents Holiday Coping Tips Whe...

Divorced Parents Holiday Coping Tips When Apart From Your Kids
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC One of the saddest consequences of divorce for parents is the alone-time when your children are visiting their other parent. While short-term periods away from the kids can be a welcome respite for an over-scheduled single parent, that’s not always the case. For many parents the intervals between seeing the children can be long and lonely. This is especially so during the holiday season which can become a particularly challenging time. It’s even more difficult when friends and neighbors are busy with their own family gatherings. Time to be focused on YOU! It’s really important for parents who are alone during the winter holidays to get creative. Absorb yourself in activities you find personally fulfilling. This time of year can also be an opportunity to reflect on meeting your own needs. It helps to reach out to friends. Also participate in activities that bring joy to

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Divorced Parents’ Biggest Mistakes To Av

Divorced Parents’ Biggest Mistakes To Avoid
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  Let’s face it, we all make mistakes we regret. It’s part of the learning process. This is especially true for parents. But when we make mistakes as DIVORCED PARENTS, the impact can be even more lasting – and dramatic! So, here’s the bottom line: It’s far better to set the course straight today than to reap the consequences years from now when your adult children ask: Mom/Dad, what were you thinking?  Of course, coping with the challenges of parenting after divorce or separation can be very frustrating and difficult. It takes enormous awareness and compassion. With that in mind, here are the most emotionally damaging mistakes that negatively impact children of divorce. Don’t be guilty of making these mistakes: Fighting around your children.  Even if it’s on the phone or in another room, if they can hear you, it’s a source of pain, confusion and deep

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Divorce Is Tough – But Even Tougher On T

Divorce Is Tough – But Even Tougher On Teens!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC We all know divorce is tough on families. Everyone is affected, especially the children. In most cases, the older the children, the more complex the reaction and more difficult the adaptation. There are many reasons why. Older children have a longer history in the former family unit, regardless of how healthy or toxic it has been. Perhaps they remember better times spent with one or both parents. Even if there were no good memories to look back upon, older children were accustomed to the existing family dynamic. They knew their place in the structure, and felt a sense of comfort in “what is.” Resisting change is a natural part of being human. For teenagers that resistance is compounded by a tendency to test boundaries and rock the status quo. Divorce or separation naturally makes all children feel powerless over their circumstances. For teens, who are more

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When a Divorced Parent Abandons or Rejec...

When a Divorced Parent Abandons or Rejects the Kids
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Following divorce, most parents are eager to see the children as frequently as possible. Often this desire results in heated battles in or out of court focused around custody issues. In many cases co-parenting is the ideal option. A parenting plan is set into place and the children are moved between two homes giving them continued access to both parents. While many parents may not want to “share” the children, they often realize this is in their child’s best interest. So they come up with an arrangement both parents can live with. In families that don’t co-parent, usually one parent has primary custody of the children. The other parent takes the reins on a scheduled basis. This regular visitation may be over weekends, specific days per month, or periodic visits during the year if distance is a factor. Parental Rejection: the saddest outcome of divorce! In

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