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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC With a new year looming before us, there’s no better time to reflect on ways we can let go of hurt, guilt, anxiety, anger and other emotions that destroy our inner peace and harmony. One of the most effective ways to heal from within is through the power of FORGIVENESS! Forgiveness is a decision to let go of resentment, pain, hurt as well as thoughts of revenge. Forgiving doesn't mean you are forgetting or denying the pain and hurt. It means you are releasing the grip it has over your life. It means you choose to focus on more positive facets of life for your own well-being. Forgiving does not mean you deny the other person's responsibility in hurting you, nor does it minimize that pain. We don't forgive for the other person. We forgive because of the value it brings to us! Through forgiveness you can better

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Answers To Divorced Parents Questions About Holiday Season Challenges

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC What makes the holiday season so challenging for parents considering divorce, moving through the process or transitioning after divorce? Memories of the past. So many difficult emotions come up. It’s frightening to think of what lies ahead when a marriage breaks apart. It’s hard to face the differences in our life, especially all the unknowns looming ahead. For many, there’s a the challenge of facing lonliness versus being alone and content. Be aware of what you are telling yourself. Expectations set us up for disappointment. When we focus on the past and make comparisons, that’s when we feel the pain and sadness more acutely. Feeling powerless adds to the pain and frustration. How does your mindset, beliefs and expectations impact your holiday experience? Our attitude influences how we handle any challenge. We need to understand that change is natural in life. Accepting change is essential for

Parenting After Divorce

Divorce or Stay – a Tough Challenge For Parents Either Way!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Get divorced? Or stay in an unhappy marriage? This is a complex and controversial subject. There are no right or wrong answers, nor are there any simplistic black and white solutions. I am sharing my own perspective, based on my own life experiences. I welcome you to contribute your own thoughts. That's as long as you are respectful of the rights of others to see the world in a different light. I am a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach. I'm also the Founder of the internationally-acclaimed Child-Centered Divorce Network. In addition, I grew up in a family that stayed together for the sake of the kids, so I have a good perspective on both sides of this topic. Obviously neither option is one any family would choose - they both create pain and hurt. However, I am opting in on the side of divorce when home life

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Domestic Abuse Includes Using the Kids to Punish Your Ex

Domestic Violence & Abuse impacts Children & Co-Parents Daily By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC October is Domestic Violence & Domestic Abuse Awareness Month. It is a time for all divorced parents to reflect on their relationship with their former spouse. Is that relationship subtly or overtly affecting the emotional and psychological wellbeing of your children? One of the most hurtful aspects of divorce and domestic Abuse -- which is often overlooked – is Parental Alienation. That’s when one parent tries to keep the other from contact with the children – usually as punishment. Threatening To Keep Your Ex From the Kids Divorced parents can quickly learn ways to abuse their power over the other parent by using the children as a lever. Among the most harmful of these types of manipulations is making demands and threatening to eliminate or restrict contact with the kids if your ex

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Divorce Is Tough – And Even Tougher On Teens!

Learn how to Support Teens Through Divorce & Co-Parenting Challenges By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC We all know divorce is tough on families. Everyone is affected, especially the children. In most cases, the older the children, the more complex the reaction and more difficult the adaptation. There are many reasons why. Older children have a longer history in the former family unit, regardless of how healthy or toxic it has been. Perhaps they remember better times when both parents interacted with them and each other with more joy and harmony. Even if there were no good times to look back upon, teenagers were accustomed to the existing family dynamic, knew their place in the structure, and felt a sense of comfort in “what is.” Resisting change is a natural part of being human. For teenagers that resistance is compounded by a tendency to test boundaries and rock the status quo. Divorce or

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC We all know co-parenting can be challenging. And when communication breaks down, it can lead to conflict which negatively impacts the entire family. That’s why, as founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network, I was so impressed when I learned about the new Co-Parent Hub. It’s a solution designed to eliminate many of the interactions that cause strain in co-parenting relationships. The creator of Co-Parent Hub, Alex Pelli, sums it up by saying, “We stop the fighting before it even starts.” How? By making communication MUCH easier! When you sign up, you get a Co-Phone and a Co-Email that you put on file with the school, pediatrician, dentist, sport coaches -- even parents of your kids’ friends. When they need to get in touch, they use that info and Co-Parent Hub will route the call/text/email to BOTH co-parents at the same time! This means no missed messages and no

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Does Divorce Scar Children — Or Is It Their Selfish Parents?

Divorce conflict hurts kids! By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce is a highly emotional topic. When children are involved the consequences are far more dramatic - and, not surprisingly, so are our opinions. I know there are many people who sincerely believe that no divorce is a good divorce. That children are always and inevitably harmed by the physical and emotional separation of their parents. And that parents should - for the sake of the kids - just stick it out and not rock the boat with divorce or separation until the children are grown. This is a particularly prevalent view for many grown children of divorce who have felt wounded. They've experienced the dramatic life changes that come with divorce and feel permanently scarred as a result. Simply staying together can scar children too! Their response is certainly understandable. But it's not the final word

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When Alcohol Abuse Impacts Co-Parenting, Soberlink is a Trusted Solution

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Alcohol addiction can dramatically affect any co-parenting relationship, jeopardizing children’s safety and impacting the parent-child relationship. That’s when Soberlink comes into play. It’s been a trusted solution for co-parents for over a decade, providing two crucial benefits: it helps parents prove their sobriety in custody and alcohol cases and helps improve the safety and well-being of their children. Proving Sobriety and Rebuilding Trust Soberlink is a remote alcohol monitoring technology. It’s specifically designed to assist parents who have struggled with alcohol abuse or have been falsely accused of alcohol abuse. By using this device, parents can provide concrete, court-admissible evidence of their sobriety. Consequently, Soberlink helps to rebuild trust between co-parents while protecting innocent children. Soberlink’s high-tech breathalyzer device offers advanced features such as facial recognition and tamper detection, ensuring the integrity of each test. The innovative system also provides real-time updates, promoting swift intervention to

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How To Cope With Parental Guilt After Divorce

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Many caring parents I speak to admit to feeling tremendous guilt during and after their divorce. It's easy to understand why. Parents who are aware of the emotional toll a separation or divorce can take on their children feel torn about whether they made the right decision. Are they being selfish in moving ahead with the divorce? Will this experience psychologically scar their children for life? Will the kids ever forgive them - or their other parent - for initiating the divorce? Are they making the right decisions regarding co-parenting, visitation, communication and discussing all related issues with the kids? These are valid questions to ask yourself. The answers should be seriously considered before making any move in the direction of divorce. However, divorce is never a black and white issue. Changing the form of a family unit doesn't necessarily mean destroying the family. Or the

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When Children of Divorce Act Out – Caring Parents Step Up!

By Rosalind Sedacca CDC Divorce, like life, is rarely neat and packaged. This is especially true for divorcing parents. The reality of divorce comes with challenges. Unexpected twists, constant frustrations and times of utter helplessness when children act out or pull away. Here are three important tips for coping and responding when your children are venting or lashing out. Or perhaps, expressing their own frustrations about being caught up in a family adjusting to separation or divorce. 1. Diffuse blame Some children, especially pre-teens and teens, may blame one parent or the other for the divorce. Sometimes they may be correct in this interpretation. Especially under situations they have been aware of for years (alcoholism, absent parent, domestic violence, etc.). Other times they side with one parent as a result of their prior relationship dynamics with that parent. Regardless of why you or your spouse are blamed, keep your cool.

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