The best approach to breaking the divorce news to your children! By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC I’ve faced many difficult moments in my life. But preparing to tell my son that I will be divorcing his father was absolutely one of the worst. He was innocent -- a sweet eleven year-old boy who loved both his parents dearly. He didn’t deserve this. I struggled with anxiety for weeks. When should we tell him? What should we say? How do you tell a child that the life he has known is about to be disrupted – forever? How do you tell him that it’s not his fault? And how do you prepare him for all the unknowns looming ahead when you’re not sure yourself how it will turn out? Was I making the right decision? Will my son hate me for initiating a divorce that embattled me with
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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC The best approach to breaking the divorce news to your children! One of the most difficult conversations any parent will ever have is telling their children about their pending divorce. I know first-hand because many years ago I went through the experience. I fought and faced the overwhelming emotions. The deep gut-wrenching fear. The continuous anxiety. The incredible guilt. And the oppressive weight of shame. My son, after all, was innocent. A sweet, gentle soul who loved his father and mother dearly. He certainly did not deserve this. I struggled with the anxiety for weeks in advance. When should I tell him? How should I tell him? Should we tell him together? And most frightening of all, WHAT SHOULD WE SAY? How do you explain to a child that the life he has known, the comfort he has felt in his family
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Family Changes: Explaining Divorce to Children is a new book written by Azmaira Maker, PhD. As Founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network, I am often sent new books for children about divorce. I always look forward to reading them, hoping they will have the tone, voice, message and visuals that convey what parents want their children to know and understand about their divorce. Sadly, I have been disappointed in most of the books I’ve received. That’s why I’m so excited to share with you this new book from psychologist Azmaira Maker. It helps young children understand what divorce means and how it will impact their lives. It’s hard for us, as grown-ups, to explain it to them in terms they can fully comprehend. Nonetheless, when a child is involved in a family divorce or separation, it is crucial that he or she understands and embraces the changes… and this book will
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Divorce Experts Around the World Praise How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? Rosalind Sedacca has written an outstanding resource for divorcing parents, " How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children -- with Love!" It allows parents to customize a reassuring and real story about what will happen to the children when their parents divorce. Nothing like it has existed previously, and with it Rosalind has made an enormous contribution to the field of child-centered divorce. Pauline Tesler, Collaborative Divorce Lawyer, co-founder of International Academy of Collaborative Professionals "How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? is a unique, user-friendly guide for parents who want to broach the subject of divorce with their children in the most caring and thoughtful way. I commend Rosalind for her ingenuity and creativity in helping to reduce the trauma of
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Here's What Parents Who Purchased How Do I Tell the Kids Abut the Divorce? The best way to break the divorce news to your children are Saying ... Thank you, Rosalind. My wife and I have decided to end our 9-year marriage and we needed a way to tell our beautiful 8 year old daughter. Your storybook and your suggestions were exactly what we needed. Things actually went better than we expected and Beth is showing great strength and courage through these difficult times. We're grateful for your information. Tom S, Passadena, CA I want to thank you for this book. The most terrifying and upsetting aspect of separation for me are how to tell my children and how to help them understand and cope
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By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Children are affected by divorce differently at different ages and in reaction to differing circumstances in their lives. But one thing’s for certain, they need to be part of ongoing dialogue about your divorce before, during and long after so they feel connected to you, safe, secure and loved. What should you discuss with your child – and how? Here are some important concepts and strategies to keep in mind as you share parent/child conversations about life in a family affected by divorce or separation. • Be sure to answer questions honestly but age-appropriately. Don’t discuss adult material with your children, even teens, as temping as it may be. Use friends as confidants, not your children. • Be compassionate and keep an optimistic perspective. "Things may be difficult now, but they will get better. We’ll take things one day at a time. Change may seem frightening
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Getting divorced or separated? Not sure how to tell your kids? Learn the most common mistakes parents make and how to avoid them when having the “divorce talk” so you can spare your children from unnecessary emotional trauma, anxiety and pain..
If you’re a parent facing separation or divorce … Don’t make your children pay the price for your divorce! Learn the mistakes to avoid – before you make them – for the sake of your kids! You’re facing the most difficult conversation you may ever have. And you want to get it “right.” You don’t want to hurt your children. And there’s so much at stake. My name is Rosalind Sedacca. I’ve been where you are now – and I understand how you feel. Anxious, worried … maybe even terrified at the prospect of talking to your kids about the changes ahead. That’s why I wrote my internationally acclaimed ebook, HOW DO I TELL THE KIDS ABOUT THE DIVORCE? … a Create-a-Storybook GuideTo Preparing Your Children – with Love! Endorsed by therapists, attorneys, mediators, coaches, educators and other divorce professionals world-wide. At a time when it’s hard to feel
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Author of internationally acclaimed ebook discusses how to tell children about your divorce, one of the toughest conversations any parent will have, in a compassionate and effective way to safeguard your children. Six key messages essential to the conversation are included.
Ever go on a vacation without making plans in advance? The consequences are usually disastrous. If you fail to plan ahead regarding newspaper and mail delivery, feeding your pets or watering the plants, knowing where your destination is and reserving your accommodations, your vacation is likely to be filled with disappointment, frustration and even heartache. What about preparing your children for your pending divorce? Do you have a plan – or are you going to wing it without any prior thought? For children, divorce is a monumental life experience for which they have no preparation. The very foundation of their security – their love for Mom and Dad – is being thrown into turmoil. Everything they knew and accepted as part of routine daily life is going to be affected in one way or another. They don’t know what to expect and have little source of comfort other than their
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