By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC It’s no surprise that jumping into dating after a divorce can be difficult. But dating after a divorce when you have children can be even harder. That’s because your entire perspective on relationships changes after having children. Now you aren't only looking for someone to spend your time with. You are looking for someone to be an adult role model for your children, as well, complicating many of your decisions. Here are 9 important tips to grasp before you start socializing after divorce when you’re a parent. Be open and honest with first dates. Let them know you have children, their general age range and whether they are living with you. This isn’t information you should hide. Being single with children is an important factor that impacts any dating relationship. You also want to find out how your date feels about children and whether they, too,
Guest Post by Terry Gaspard As a newly divorced woman with two school age children, I plunged into a rebound relationship with someone who provided solace, companionship, and emotional and sexual intimacy. Since neither one of us had healed sufficiently from our recent divorces, the relationship ended after six months. While we weren’t ready for a commitment, my ex-boyfriend helped me overcome my challenging divorce and gave me self-confidence. This relationship helped me to get over my anger at my ex-spouse and move on with my life. It was a good opportunity for me to test out dating someone very different from my ex and allowed me to have fun and feel passion. Truth be told, most experts believe that if you are newly divorced, you probably aren’t ready to leap headlong into a romantic relationship. The chance of a rebound relationship having long-term potential is slim because it will take
By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT The aftermath of divorce can be a sense of self-discovery or internment in a self-made prison of depression and resentment. It’s all about our acceptance of what is and determination to use the divorce as a pathway to a new and better life. The good news: it’s all up to us. We can create an attitude of positive expectation or we can subjugate ourselves to months and years of self-pity and despair down the road. The bad news: it’s not always easy to change our attitude or perspective on life. But if you do, you’ll be rewarded with a happier future for yourself as well as your children. Here are some vital steps to embracing your divorce as a catalyst to a brighter future. Boost your self-esteem. One of the most damaging effects of divorce can be a toll on your self-esteem, especially if you were
New Divorce View Talk Show Offers Divorce, Co-parenting and Moving on Advice from Experts on Live Internet TV and Radio (via PRWeb) The Divorce View, co-hosted by the Divorce Mentor Team, Joanie Winberg and Rosalind Sedacca, tackles challenging issues while providing support and resources for those going through or transitioning after divorce. Rosalind Sedacca, Divorce & Parenting…
Before dating after divorce, take the time to go within, learn from your mistakes, understand the lessons from your marriage and determine new ways to approach future relationships. At some point you will feel ready to step back out into the dating world again. Then you face the challenge of breaking the news to your children.