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Child Centered Divorce
The caring support you need if you're a parent who's facing ... going through ... or moving on after divorce!
  - Divorce and Co-Parenting
  - Parenting Children of Divorce
  - Dating as a Divorced Parent
Created by Rosalind Sedacca, CDC
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How to Rebuild Your Self Esteem After Di...

How to Rebuild Your Self Esteem After Divorce
Divorce can be devastating on many levels. In addition to the financial and stress toll on both partners, it can easily wreak havoc on one’s self-esteem. Even those who initiate the divorce process can experience tremendous emotional turmoil resulting in guilt, anxiety and insecurity. Those who were not expecting or in any way desiring the break-up can come away feeling psychologically battered, confused and questioning their own worth. It’s hard to tackle these burdens alone. A support group, private coach, professional counselor or other similar resources will be very valuable in reminding you that 1) you are not alone in your experiences or feelings and 2) there is a brighter future ahead for you – if you take proactive steps in that direction. While family and friends are usually very well-intentioned, their support may not always be valuable for you. They have their own agendas, perspectives and values about marriage,

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Public Divorce: Jon & Kate – Stop Before

Public Divorce: Jon & Kate – Stop Before It’s Too Late!
So much is being written about the Jon and Kate divorce, it may be overkill by now. But the lessons learned from airing dirty laundry in public, especially when that laundry is related to a divorce between two parents, can’t be overstated! The media is not the place for two caring parents to discuss any aspect of their marital challenges and subsequent divorce. The temptations to justify – and amplify – your own “take” on the issues are just too strong. When divorce becomes all about YOU, you’ve lost your objectivity – and with it, the opportunity to create a Child-Centered Divorce – which should be the goal for all divorcing parents. Had Jon and Kate had a third child, rather than six more, would any of this be happening in their lives? Would they have a public forum for acting out or discussing their marital problems? Of course, not.

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A Smart Parenting Plan Your Best Asset w...

A Smart Parenting Plan Your Best Asset when Parenting After Divorce
By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Parenting plans are becoming more and more recognized as the way for both parents to coordinate their parenting, their lives and their relationship with their children after divorce. In its simplest form a parenting plan puts in writing the agreed upon schedule both parents have created regarding most all parenting arrangements. It outlines the days, times and other details of when, where and how each parent will be with the children along with other agreements both parents will follow in the months and years to come. The purpose of the plans is to determine strategies that are in the children’s best interest to create smooth, easy and positive transitions. These plans encourage cooperative co-parenting so that the children feel secure, loved, wanted and nurtured by both of their parents. Plans can vary in depth and scope. Often they include guidelines for routine residential arrangements as well

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How to Boost Parent/Child Communication ...

How to Boost Parent/Child Communication After Your Divorce
It’s no secret that one of the biggest challenges a parent faces after divorce is staying in good communication with your children. Obviously all parents struggle with communication issues as their children grow, but children who have had their lives dramatically altered by separation or divorce need even more attention – and diligent observation by their parents. Children tend not to tell you when they are angry, resentful, confused, hurt or depressed. Instead they reflect their problems through their behavior – acting out or perhaps turning inward in ways that you have not experienced prior to the divorce. Here are some tips that most all professionals agree about as ways to encourage positive and productive communication between you and your children. Many of these are obvious or innate behaviors. Some can easily be forgotten amid the challenges you are juggling in your own life on a daily basis. Take time

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Consistent Co-parenting Makes Life Easie...

Consistent Co-parenting Makes Life Easier for Children after Divorce
Parenting after divorce takes patience, cooperation and collaboration. It’s not uncommon for one parent to notice behavior differences in their children when they return from a stay with their other parent. This can be extremely frustrating or irritating, especially if your values and parenting style doesn’t match that of your former spouse. What can you do to remedy the situation? Try having a conversation about how inconsistencies affect your children after divorce – and see if you can come to a better understanding. Consistency in parenting creates the smoothest transition after divorce – and in the years that follow. If the rules previously established in your home are still followed by both parents after the divorce, the children are likely to more easily adjust to the new transitions in their life. In families where Mom and Dad dramatically disagree about significant parenting decisions, the consequences can be disturbing and sometimes

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Divorcing Parents: Don’t Bring Your Batt

Divorcing Parents: Don’t Bring Your Battles to Court
You’re getting divorced and you’re angry, resentful, hurt, vindictive or any combination of other painful emotions. You want to lash out, to get back at your spouse or boost your own sense of esteem. Hiring the most aggressive litigious divorce lawyer you can find seems like your smartest choice. Your ex is in for a fight! If you’re a parent who is thinking along those lines, you’re making a choice you may long regret. If you choose a lawyer who directs you straight into a vicious court battle, the costs to you will be insurmountable – not only in financial outlay, but in emotional turmoil as well. Think long and hard before you move your divorce battle into the legal system. It is likely to take its toll on every member of your family – including your children – in the most destructive and gut-wrenching ways. It happens all the

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National Child-Centered Divorce Month Pr...

National Child-Centered Divorce Month Provided Resources to Families in Need
It was a valuable month of insights and education for the parents who participated in the activities presented during National Child-Centered Divorce Month in July. Parents were invited to receive a host of useful free gifts from divorce experts throughout North America. The gifts included complimentary coaching sessions, ebooks on topics related to divorce and families, audio seminars and more. In addition, divorce attorneys, mediators, financial analysts, coaches, authors and other professionals shared their expertise through a series of free teleseminars offered weekly during July. Missed any of these outstanding calls? I am making the links to the audio recordings of the teleseminars available to any divorced parents and professionals who didn’t hear them the first time around. The teleseminar titles are listed below: July 8: Finding the “gift” in Your Divorce July 14: Creating a win/win Child-Centered Divorce July 21: Healthy Transitioning Beyond Divorce July 28: Keys to Making

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