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  - Dating as a Divorced Parent
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Joining forces to bring Natl Child-Cente...

Joining forces to bring Natl Child-Centered Divorce Month into national focus!
The third annual recognition of National Child-Centered Divorce Month will take place throughout July across the United States. Everyone who plays a part in the divorce world – including therapists, attorneys, mediators, financial planners, coaches, educators, clergy and others – are encouraged to participate. Divorced parents are also invited to get their message heard about legal and co-parenting issues. The goal is spreading the word about viable alternatives available to divorcing parents to help them make the best decisions on behalf of their children. National Child-Centered Divorce Month was initiated by Rosalind Sedacca, a Certified Corporate Trainer and author of the acclaimed ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children -- with Love! Sedacca is founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents and works closely with a broad group of therapists, attorneys, mediators, divorce coaches, educators and other professionals who

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The 9 Biggest Mistakes in Post-Divorce P...

The 9 Biggest Mistakes in Post-Divorce Parenting!
Some parents think once they are divorced and most of the decisions have been made, the worst is behind them. Unfortunately, parenting after divorce is a week by week experience. Your success depends on the decisions you make, your attitude toward your situation and your compassion for your innocent children. You may have heard it all before, but smart parents quiz themselves regularly to see if they are not falling into some of the traps of destructive post-divorce parenting. If you find yourself making any of these mistakes, it’s never too late to make amends. You may have to alter decisions, adjust some behaviors, give yourself an attitude adjustment and even apologize to your children – or to their Dad (or Mom)! Keep in mind, we all make mistakes that we regret. It’s part of the learning process – especially when we’re parents. It’s far better to set the course

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Dads and Step-Dads: Keeping it all in Pe...

Dads and Step-Dads: Keeping it all in Perspective
Being a divorced Dad can be one of the most frustrating experiences any parent will ever face. For many it seems like a can’t-win situation. You find that you’re constantly trying to prove yourself – to your ex, to the children, and often to a Step-Dad who has moved into the picture. If Mom has custody of the children, it’s more than likely that your children are seeing more of step-Dad than you. That can feel very

A Warning for Divorced Parents with Teen...

A Warning for Divorced Parents with Teens: Keep Dads Actively Parenting
>online casino I have several divorced friends and colleagues with teenagers who are displaying disturbing behavior problems. These teens, especially the boys, are acting out in all the ways parents pray they never have to experience: drugs, hanging with the wrong crowd, school problems, disrespectful and inconsiderate behavior -- you get the idea. While each of these teens have parents who are divorced, there's more to it than just that. Their biological fathers are not playing a strong role in their lives. And their mothers do not have

When Children Parent their Parents — a D

When Children Parent their Parents — a Divorce Disaster
Divorce is tough enough. When children try to protect their parents from its consequences, the parenting is moving backwards and the results are devastating. Always be careful of what you share with your children regarding your own emotional state during and after your divorce. It can create enormous confusion for your children, along with guilt, frustration and despair. Children who experience their parents divorce are helpless to change the circumstances. But they often try. They want to do something to “fix” the situation, but they haven’t a clue how. Sometimes they create solutions that make sense in their young minds, but actually cause greater complications. That’s why it‘s so important for parents to take the emotional burden off of the shoulders of their children. Reassure them that Mom and Dad are still their parents and will continue to be there for them with compassion and love. Tell them they need

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Coping with Co-Parenting Challenges Can ...

Coping with Co-Parenting Challenges Can be Challenging
By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Frequently, I am asked “What is the key to successful co-parenting after divorce?” While there is no simple answer to that, I believe most professionals will agree the smartest strategy is learning how to remove anger, hostility or vindictiveness from your interactions with your former spouse. We all know that’s not always easy to do. However, the benefits you derive will more than make up for the sense of satisfaction or ego gratification you get when you hold on to those damaging emotions. If you’re intent on creating a child-centered divorce that strives for harmony between you and your ex, you need to initiate the conversation and model win-win solutions. If your ex doesn't want to cooperate, that’s when your patience will certainly be tested. Look for opportunities to clarify why working together as co-parents as often as possible will create far better outcomes for your

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New Group Coaching Tele-Program Beginnin...

New Group Coaching Tele-Program Beginning Soon
Just two spots remaining for Rosalind Sedacca's new 2009 Child-Centered Divorce Group Coaching Program Response to my new Child-Centered Divorce Group Coaching Program has been amazing. I'm busily planning the two groups now and have some additional bonuses on tap for each of our participants! However, there are only two spots remaining for Group 1: Getting Off to the Right Start, designed especially for those of you facing, moving through or recently divorced. Group 2: Success Strategies for Maintaining a Child-Centered Divorce, will be slightly larger. At this point there are possibly three spots available for this post-divorce parenting group focused on those divorced for more than six months. Even if you've been divorced for six years you'll find valuable information in this program that will benefit everyone in the family. Here is how it will work: · Each group will meet every other week for three months, via teleconference,

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A Plea to Divorced Parents: Be Honest Wi...

A Plea to Divorced Parents: Be Honest With Yourself!
South African Wellness Counselor, Nadia Thonnard of Inner Minds Counseling, is a strong proponent of child-centered divorce. She brings great sensitivity to this issue because she not only provides counseling services to clients, she has experienced the sting of divorce in her own life. Her advice to others comes from personal experience as well as professional expertise. Recently Nadia entered a personal blog post that I want to share with the child-centered divorce community. Read it below followed by my own response. rent a car bulgariaI get quite a few letters which start by saying that the spouse left one day, without prior warning. Meaning no disrespect, when I read those I can't help

Announcing the First Annual Celebrity Co...

Announcing the First Annual Celebrity Co-Parent Award  During National Child-Centered Divorce Month
Cynthia Tiano, Esq., reformed “killer” divorce attorney turned mediator and creator of the Celebrity Co-Parent Awards, and Rosalind Sedacca, CCT, founder of National Child-Centered Divorce Month in July, have announced the contenders for the first ever Celebrity Co-Parent Awards, which were created to catch celebrity co-parents in the act of doing something right. The criteria for the award are celebrity couples who have survived the breakup of their relationship and have consistently engaged in responsible, loving and respectful co-parenting that puts the children’s emotional needs first when making any parenting decisions or dealing with each other. The celebrities recognized by the Child-Centered Divorce consortium and the Celebrity Co-Parent advisory board as good role models when it comes to separation, divorce and parenting are: • Demi Moore and Bruce Willis who have worked through their problems and consistently maintained a good working relationship for the benefit of their children; • Robin

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Depression and Divorce – Helping Your Ch

Depression and Divorce – Helping Your Children Cope With Both
Divorce has many effects on children. No two children will react in exactly the same way. That’s why parents need to be diligent about watching for signs and indications that your child may be having problems coping with their new reality. Depression is one of the more common reactions we see in children of divorce. Unfortunately, many parents entirely miss or misinterpret the signs of depression. It can take many forms including behavior that is distancing, lethargic and withdrawn. This is often accompanied by a drop in school grades. But depression can also show in other ways, such as agitation, frustration and aggression. When depression takes that form, parents are likely to think of it in terms of discipline problems and respond with punishment. It takes maturity and a broader perspective to stand back and realize that your child’s misbehavior may actually be a way of communicating how they are

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