I'm buzzing with excitement to share with you that I recently returned from my son's wedding. Every detail was so wonderful and beautiful and I am filled with a knowing that happy endings are indeed possible for children of divorce. My message today is to remind you that the challenges we face as we parent after divorce can reap long-term rewards. At the wedding I experienced that on a very deep personal level. It made every frustration, every disappointment, every time I compromised, forgave or settled on a parenting issue with my ex all worth the effort. At the wedding both my ex and I were there with our spouses and considerable extended family on both sides. Some of these people I've seen over the years at celebrations and graduations, always on good terms. Others I haven't seen for close to fifteen years. The genuine warmth we shared was inspiring

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The second annual recognition of National Child-Centered Divorce Month will take place throughout July across the United States. Professionals who deal with divorce issues -- therapists, attorneys, mediators, coaches, educators, clergy and others – will be joining forces to share valuable parenting messages. One of the most significant is: Don’t Make Your Child a Pawn in Your Conflict. Instead, put your children's needs first when making decisions related to divorce or separation. National Child-Centered Divorce Month was initiated by Rosalind Sedacca, a Certified Corporate Trainer and author of the new book, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children -- with Love! Sedacca has created a Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents and works closely with a broad group of therapists, attorneys, mediators, divorce coaches, educators and other professionals who focus on creating the most positive and harmonious outcomes for families transitioning through

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Divorce is a serious life-altering experience – with consequences that make headlines every day. That’s why the 14th Annual South Florida Singles’ Lifestyle Expo is expanding to include Florida’s first Successful Divorce Showcase. The Expo will take place on Sunday, June 8th at the Embassy Suites Hotel in Boca Raton, FL. “Separating, divorcing or post-divorce couples are looking for sound advice and resources they can depend on to help them through this difficult transition in the best possible way,” says Rosalind Sedacca, CCT, one of the co-creators of this new event. “Times are changing and today couples can choose to avoid

Frequently, I am asked "What is the key to successful co-parenting after divorce?" While there is no simple answer to that, I believe most professionals will agree the smartest strategy is learning how to remove anger, hostility or vindictiveness from your interactions with your former spouse. We all know that's not always easy to do. However, the benefits you derive will more than make up for the sense of satisfaction or ego gratification you get when you hold on to those damaging emotions. If you're intent on creating a child-centered divorce that strives for harmony between you and your ex, you need to initiate the conversation and model win-win solutions. If your ex doesn't want to cooperate, that's when your patience will certainly be tested. Look for opportunities to clarify why working together as co-parents as often as possible will create far better outcomes for your children. Over time hopefully

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Prizes, surprises, mingling and more for those moving on! Ft. Lauderdale, FL …After suffering through a nasty divorce battle, Christina Rowe was emotionally drained. When the divorce papers were finally signed, Christina felt like celebrating. She had heard about divorce parties, but never got the chance to throw herself one. When she met Rosalind Sedacca, a divorced woman who also never had a divorce party, they decided to throw the largest divorce party in the nation! And they’re inviting everyone else who is considering divorce, facing divorce or already divorced to come celebrate with them! South Florida’s first-ever Divorce Party will be held at Christopher's Nightclub in Fort Lauderdale on Friday, March 7th. Featuring free and discounted drink specials, games, prizes, gifts and more, the party will be celebrating new beginnings for women and men who are ready to move past divorce. Guests are encouraged to invite their friends, bring

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Congratulations to Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe for taking the high road when so many in Hollywood choose another path. These two are rising above resentment and vindictiveness for the sake of their children – and in the process they’re setting an example that’s worth public mention. Three months after their split this couple was seen together attending a school function with their young children. The significance of spending time together with Mom and Dad when kids are experiencing the drama of their parent’s divorce can’t be overstated. It provides support, security and stability at a time when the children’s world is falling apart. It takes mature parents to move in this direction. Many therapists call it Child-Centered Divorce. These parents are consciously aware of the emotional, psychological and spiritual needs of their children at this challenging time. They are willing to transcend the personal drama in their own relationship

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Divorce, like life, is rarely neat and packaged. This is especially true for divorcing parents. The reality of divorce comes with unexpected twists, constant frustrations and times of utter helplessness when children act up or pull away. Here are three tips for coping with times when your children are venting, lashing out or expressing their own frustrations about being caught up in a family adjusting to separation or divorce. Diffusing blame. Some children, especially pre-teens and teens, may blame one parent or the other for the divorce. Sometimes they may be correct in this interpretation given circumstances they have been aware of for years (alcoholism, absent parent, domestic violence, etc.). Other times they side with one parent as a result of their prior relationship ... dynamics with that parent. Regardless of why you or your spouse is being blamed, keep your cool. In many cases blaming is a defense against

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Rosalind Sedacca's new ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce?, is a "create-a-storybook" guide that helps parents prepare their children for a pending divorce or separation -- with compassion and love. The fill-in-the-blanks templates and family album format simplifies one of the toughest conversations any parent will have. Divorce may be tough on parents, but it's often much tougher on their children. One of the most difficult conversations any parent will ever have is telling their kids about an upcoming divorce. Rosalind Sedacca, CCT, had that conversation more than a decade ago and used it as the basis for her new ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook™ Guide to Preparing Your Children – with Love! While many books address the topic of children and divorce, none provide a customizable template that doesn't just … tell parents what they should say --

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