Torn apartBy Rosalind Sedacca, CDC

Getting psyched up to tell your children about your pending divorce
— or separation? Not sure what to say? When to say it? How to
say it? What to expect after the conversation? What to do next?
How to deal with your special circumstances? What therapists,
mediators, attorneys and other professionals suggest you do
and don’t do to make things better all around? Well, you’re not
alone.

Having the “divorce talk” with a child you love is one of the
toughest conversations you’ll ever have. Shouldn’t you be prepared?

Professionals all agree on some of the most common mistakes parents
make when bringing up divorce or separation. These include:
 

  • asking children to bear the weight of making decisions or choosing sides 
  • failing to remind children that none of this is in any way their fault 
  • forgetting to emphasize that Mom and Dad will still always be their Mom and Dad — even after divorce! 
  • confiding adult details to children in order to attract their allegiance or sympathy 
  • neglecting to repeatedly remind children that they are safe, innocent and very much loved 
  • failing to explain clearly that everything is going to be okay – because you will make it okay
  • blaming the other parent for the divorce 
  • fighting around the kids – even when on the phone

These are just some of the most common messages that parents fail
to convey because they’re just not prepared — and most probably
quite scared!

If you’re about to tackle this tough conversation — or you know
someone who is – check out my internationally-acclaimed easy to
read ebook titled, How Do I Tell the Kids About the Divorce? A
Create-a-Storybook Guide For  Preparing Your Children — With Love!

It provides an innovative new concept I created, based on my own life experience. And, most importantly, it works!What makes my book unique is that I don’t just tell parents what to say. I say it for them! I use fill-in-the-blank age-appropriate templates to show parents how to create a storybook sharing family photos and history as a successful way to have the tough break-the-news conversation.

Therapists, attorneys, mediators and other professionals around the world have endorsed the book, attesting to the value of my innovative storybook approach. My purpose is to help parents co-parent effectively to minimize emotional hurts and pain related to the divorce. It will get parents on the same page before having that first crucial conversation with their children.

To learn more, visit: http://www.childcentereddivorce.com/kids.

Rosalind Sedacca, CDC is the founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network, a Divorce & Co-Parenting Coach and author of several acclaimed e-books and courses for divorcing and divorced parents. To get her advice, coaching services, expert interviews, programs, and other valuable resources on divorce and co-parenting, visit: http://www.childcentereddivorce.com
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