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  - Divorce and Co-Parenting
  - Parenting Children of Divorce
  - Dating as a Divorced Parent

Created by Rosalind Sedacca, CDC

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Divorce Experts Support Parents With Gif...

Divorce Experts Support Parents With Gift Resources In January For Child-Centered Divorce Month
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC  For the past 14 years January has been recognized as International Child-Centered Divorce Month. Divorce professionals on four continents around the world have come together on a special website with free gifts and resources for parents. These include ebooks, coaching services, video webinars and more for parents facing, moving through or transitioning after divorce. You are invited to visit https://www.divorcedparentsupport.com for immediate access to many of these valuable gifts. January, following the winter holiday season, is the month when most divorces are filed. This year, due to the pandemic, divorces are increasing around the world. And co-parenting challenges for already divorced parents are increasing. That’s why it’s so important for parents, therapists, attorneys, educators and other professionals to put children's needs first when divorce or separation is pending. Poor parental decisions lead to bad divorce outcomes for kids! Most of the negative consequences of divorce result

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INTERNATIONAL CHILD-CENTERED DIVORCE MON...

INTERNATIONAL CHILD-CENTERED DIVORCE MONTH 2021
Free Advice, Support & Resources for Parents Coping With Divorce Issues Available in January By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC It’s no surprise that more divorces are filed in January, after the holiday season, than any other month. That’s why I selected January to be recognized as International Child-Centered Divorce Month each year. As founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network, our goal is clear. We want to educate parents about how to prevent negative consequences for children during and after separation or divorce. We also want to alert parents about the effects of divorce on children. That includes how to safeguard their wellbeing, co-parent more effectively and avoid serious mistakes during and long after a divorce. I’ve asked divorce attorneys, mediators, therapists, financial planners, coaches, parenting experts and other professionals around the world to participate. Each one is providing complimentary educational material for parents. This now includes ebooks, coaching services, video webinars

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Choosing The Right Divorce Team Is A Gif...

Choosing The Right Divorce Team Is A Gift To Your Family!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Over the past dozen plus years, through the Child-Centered Divorce Network, I have met a remarkable community of divorce and parenting experts. Each of them has focused their careers on supporting and assisting people moving through and beyond divorce. It is essential for you to put together a team of professionals before you move ahead with major life-altering divorce decisions. It’s far easier to make changes during the negotiation period than it is to undo a divorce settlement after the fact. Consider All The Options -- Then Choose Your Trusted Team Carefully! One group to consider seriously are Collaborative, Amicable or Child-Centered divorce attorneys. This special breed really cares about helping families avoid unnecessary litigation. This saves couples both money and sanity, especially when children are concerned. Others I highly recommend are Mediators devoted to assisting couples moving through the maze of decisions regarding divorce. They

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Want A Peaceful Child-Centered Divorce: ...

Want A Peaceful Child-Centered Divorce:  Parents, It’s Up To You!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Picture this: you’re getting divorced and you’re angry, resentful, hurt, or any combination of other painful emotions. You want to lash out at, or maybe get back at your soon to be former spouse. Hiring the most aggressive divorce lawyer you can find seems like your smartest choice. You are gearing up for a fight! But stop.  Think. If you are a parent, you may be making a choice you regret for a long time. If you choose a lawyer who directs you into a vicious court battle, the costs may be insurmountable. Not only the financial expenses, but the emotional costs as well. Keep Out Of The Courts Think long and hard before you move your divorce battle into the legal system. If you do, it's likely to take its toll on every member of your family – especially your children. And sadly, in the

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Overcome Holiday Depression During and A...

Overcome Holiday Depression During and After Divorce
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Separated or  divorced? Thanksgiving, Christmas – most any holiday -- can be depressing. Or bring up painful memories of happier times, especially if you have children. So, what can you do? Keep in mind that with the pain comes a choice. You can choose to acknowledge the past for what it was. You can value the good times you might have had together. Then you can choose to move on and let go. Yes, that’s never easy. But it is worth the effort. Because otherwise you’re likely to get stuck tormenting yourself with all the "shoulds."  We should still be a family today. He should be ashamed of what he's doing to us. She shouldn’t be able to have the kids on Christmas Day. I should be over this by now. It should be easier for me to move on – why isn’t it? You get

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Disciplining Children Through Divorce By...

Disciplining Children Through Divorce By Limiting Behavior — Not Their Thoughts!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Discipline is always a challenge for parents. Regardless of the age your child may be, they inevitably find ways to act out, challenge your authority and test the limits of their boundaries. Often these behaviors create tension and disagreements between both parents which children are good at exploiting to their advantage. This, of course, is the time for parents to forge a solid bond of agreement regarding their approach to discipline. If they do, the child is less likely to test the waters and more likely to alter their behavior into more appropriate channels. When separation or divorce takes place, disciplining children can become even more difficult. This is especially so if both parents are not on good terms regarding the parenting equation. Parental discord can open the door for children to move into behavioral extremes, pitting you and your former spouse against each other. We've

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Divorced Parents: Made Mistakes You Regr...

Divorced Parents: Made Mistakes You Regret? It’s Not Too Late To Make It Right!
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce drives some people crazy. Because of that, divorced co-parents often make many poor decisions. Their judgment, integrity and behavior are easy to question. Their decisions regarding taking responsibility for their children come under scrutiny. There is much we can all learn from these mistakes as co-parents. And wisdom we can take away that is important for all of us to remember: It’s never too late to get it right – when your children are at stake! We all have regrets … In the heat of the divorce drama, we may have settled for a decision or two that we later regretted and still feel resentful. Or we made a child-related agreement that, in hindsight, was not in our child’s best interest – but we don’t know quite how to remedy the situation. Perhaps we lost our tempers at an inappropriate time and watched our children

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Divorced Parents: Don’t Let Your Childre

Divorced Parents: Don’t Let Your Children Start Parenting You!
Divorce catches kids in the middle By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce is tough enough. When children try to protect their parents by parenting their parents, the parenting is moving backwards and the results are devastating. Always be careful of what you share with your children regarding your own emotional state during and after your divorce. It can create enormous confusion for your children, along with guilt, frustration and despair. Children can be very resourceful in how they behave when they sense either one of their parents is vulnerable or hurting. Often they will side with one parent over the other as a means of support. They may fear that expressing happiness about time spent with one parent can seem like a betrayal of the other. They worry about hurting the feelings of the emotionally weaker parent – or experiencing the disapproval of the emotionally stronger parent.

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5 Divorce Co-Parenting Questions Your Ki...

5 Divorce Co-Parenting Questions Your Kids Want You To Explore
By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Co-parenting brings enormous challenges to both parents. For those not caught in high conflict divorces, it’s easier to move into the co-parenting equation. And much easier to adapt to new schedules, boundaries, agreements and conversations. That’s why the Child-Centered Divorce Network so strongly endorses mediation, Collaborative Divorce, the new Amicable Divorce Network and similar low-conflict options. They keep both parents focused on what really matters long-term: the emotional, physical and psychological well-being of your children! When one gets entangled in the complications of litigation, you are opening the door to court involvement in your family dynamics. This is rarely a healthy situation for parents or children. No judge, regardless of how well-meaning they may be, knows your family the way you do. Their decisions are binding. That may lead you to countless  appearances over many years trying to untangle a decision that didn’t need to be

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Co-Parenting with Someone Who is Narciss...

Co-Parenting with Someone Who is Narcissistic or Challenging
Guest Post from Terry Gaspard At its best, co-parenting is a wonderful opportunity for children of divorce to have close to equal access to both parents – to feel it is okay to love both of their parents. Experts agree that the outcomes for children of divorce improve when they have positive bonds with both parents. These include better psychological and behavioral adjustment, and enhanced academic performance. However, few experts discuss the drawbacks of co-parenting when one parent is hands-off, has a high conflict personality; or a personality disorder such as Narcissistic Personality Disorder. What is the solution for parents who want to co-parent with an ex who is narcissistic or challenging? According to Dr. Edward Kruk, Ph.D., “Parallel Parenting is an arrangement in which divorced parents are able to co-parent by means of disengaging from each other, and having limited contact, in situations where they have demonstrated that they

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