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New Divorce View Talk Show Offers Div...

New Divorce View Talk Show Offers Divorce, Co-parenting and Moving on Advice from Experts on Live Internet TV and Radio
New Divorce View Talk Show Offers Divorce, Co-parenting and Moving on Advice from Experts on Live Internet TV and Radio (via PRWeb) The Divorce View, co-hosted by the Divorce Mentor Team, Joanie Winberg and Rosalind Sedacca, tackles challenging issues while providing support and resources for those going through or transitioning after divorce. Rosalind Sedacca, Divorce & Parenting…

How to Talk to Your Kids When They ar...

How to Talk to Your Kids When They are Upset About Your Divorce
A Guest Post by Ben Stich The last thing divorced or separated parents want is for their kids to be hurt by their break-up any more than necessary. There is nothing worse for a parent than to see their child in pain. Yet, it is almost inevitable that the kids will experience some level of pain, disappointment and confusion. Human nature being what it is, it is normal for divorced parents to have difficulty tolerating their children’s distress. As a result, some conversations between an anxious soon-to-be divorced mother and her upset son go something like this: Parent: What’s wrong, honey? Son: Why do you have to get divorced? I hate it! Parent: It’s going to be, OK. Son: (Sniffling). But, but… Parent: Don’t worry, everything will be OK. Son: OK, Mommy. At first blush, it seems like this mother did a nice job of reassuring her child, right? No!

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Being a Step Parent is a Privilege, N...

Being a Step Parent is a Privilege, Not a Right!
A Guest Post by Anne Sleeman, President, Kids on Time, Inc. It's a funny thing, becoming a step parent. Not sure if I have ever heard of anyone who said, "When I grow up, I really want to be a step parent". For whatever the reason, being a step mom is that one step further away from anything anyone ever dreamed of. I mean the negative depictions of the evil step mom are enough to frighten off even the boldest and the bravest of soles. What's even more "funny" is that moment when you come to the realization that you are in fact in love with a person who has kids. Whoa. Okay. Breathe. Time to assess what this means for me, for them, and most importantly for the kids who are involved. Every family and every situation is different. I cannot speak of every situation, but I will speak

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Divorced Parents: Your Children Are P...

Divorced Parents: Your Children Are Paying for Your Unforgiveness
Countless studies have shown that anger and resentment are toxic to children of divorce as well as their parents. Uncontrollable anger or suppressed rage hurts the person both physically and mentally. Anger and hostility create stress in your mind and body and can create a host of physical ailments. Remaining angry at your ex can make you irritable and less patient with your children.

Facing Fears Through Divorce: Fear, m...

Facing Fears Through Divorce: Fear, much like a circus mirror, distorts our view of reality!
Откъде да купя иконаBy Guest Blogger Karen McMahon We each have fears as we go through the divorce process.  Our fears are often based in the unknown.  Everything is so uncertain, it is impossible to see around the bend to know what your life is going to look like when you emerge on the other side.  So our minds begin to ‘figure it out’.  The way we do this is to go to the ‘what if’s’.  What if I don’t have enough money?  What if I cannot hold down a job and take care of my kids?  What if I don’t get to see my kids?  What if the kids like my ex’s new partner more than me?  What if I am unable to afford decent housing?  What if….  The fear can be overwhelming! When I went through my divorce, I was in sales and had lost three quarters of my

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How Divorce is Portrayed in the Media...

How Divorce is Portrayed in the Media — & Its Effects on Your Kids!
What part does media play in how divorce affects children? Children do not have the cognitive skills to observe media in a critical manner and evaluate; they simply take what they see at face value and process it as fact. It is important to teach children from a young age that television and movies are fictional, skewed depictions of reality. Children imitate what they see, so if they see children react poorly to a divorce they will respond in the same manner. It then becomes the parent's responsibility to intervene and give their children the tools and venue to appropriately understand and discuss what they've seen on television.

Parental Discord – Not Divorce – Most...

Parental Discord – Not Divorce – Most Damages Children!
Is it divorce or parental discord that most damages children? Answers are finally coming in! A recent article by marriage and family therapist Ruth Bettelheim has much to say on this topic that is both relevant and, quite surprising for many. That’s because she refutes common misconceptions about divorce and addresses the real issues of concern. According to Bettelheim, “Studies conducted in the past 20 years have shown that on all meaningful measures of success -- social, economic, intellectual and psychological -- most adult children from divorced families are no worse off than their peers whose parents remained married.” Researchers have found two explanations for this, notes Bettelheim. “Children who have to cope with their parents’ separation and post-divorce lives often grow resilient, self-reliant, adaptable and independent. And children benefit from escaping the high-conflict environment of a rocky marriage. After their parents’ separation, as conflicts fade, children recover.” There is

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The Opportunity of Valentines Day ...

The Opportunity of Valentines Day — even for the divorced!
The Opportunity of Valentine’s Day With Valentine’s Day a big part of this month, I’m sharing with you commentary written by my friend Lisheyna S. Hurvitz M.A. Ed., a licensed mental health counselor in private practice in Boca Raton, FL. Every February we get reminded that Valentine’s Day is close by which means love is “in the air” -- or is it? People start going through their mental lists of who they love, who loves them and will they or won’t they have a special Valentine this year. This day can especially wreck havoc with those that have recently separated, divorced, widowed or split up from their significant other. Many get depressed and feel left out of the loving holiday spirit if they are single. The truth is that love is in the air. You do have someone you love in your heart. It could be a mother, brother, child,

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Raising Healthy, Well-Adjusted Childr...

Raising Healthy, Well-Adjusted Children — Despite Divorce
Amy Sherman, LMHC is one of the contributors to Rosalind Sedacca's new book, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children -- with Love! Here she shares some of her wisdom based on her private practice and years of working with pre-teen and teen populations. Parenting is a continual learning process, which is compounded when you are going through a divorce. Not only does it require an understanding of the child’s needs and the skills to meet those needs, but it requires additional special attention. Talking to your children about the divorce could be one of the most difficult experiences of parenting, because you want, of course, your wisdom to be heard and then your child to apply it. From my work with divorced parents and their children, I have gained much insight into what we, as adults, need to do to

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Magical Thinking: When Children of Di...

Magical Thinking: When Children of Divorce Blame Themselves
By Paul Wanio, PhD, LMFT For children, there is a fine line between fantasy and reality. Their imaginations are very powerful and they may see unreal monsters that live in closets or under beds which inspire real fears. They will also believe that their thoughts can cause real events to happen "magically." For example, if a child is angry at one of his/her parents and that parent is hurt or has an accident, the child may feel secretly guilty and responsible for "causing" the accident (or divorce) because of having "bad" thoughts, "ill feelings" or "nasty wishes" about Mommy or Daddy. In believing that a person can cause things to happen just by thinking or wishing it, "magical thinking" serves a special purpose for the child. It helps the child to feel a sense of power and control over life. ("If I can make bad things happen, I can also

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