Rosalind Sedacca, Author at Child-Centered Divorce

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By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Facing divorce and stymied about how to tell your kids? Worried about how it will affect them? Hurting them with the news? What to say and not say? What they will do? How much to confide? Well, you’re not alone. There’s no doubt this might be one of the most difficult conversations you’ll ever have. Despite that, you must be prepared. Here are the five mistakes most commonly made by parents. Be sure you don’t add stress to your children’s lives by making these errors. Exposing your children to parental conflict or fighting. Studies show that this does more damage to children than any other factor in their lives – whether in a divorced or still married family. Keep your battles away from your child’s eyes and ears to ensure they still get to have the childhood they deserve. Bad-mouthing their other parent. Any display of

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Your Co-Parenting Success Depends On Making Smart Choices

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce doesn't end your co-parenting relationship with your former spouse. It only changes some of the structure. It is still essential to create a working relationship focused on the optimum care and concern for your children. Every co-parenting relationship will be unique, affected by your post-divorce family dynamics. However, there are guidelines that will enhance the results for children in any family. Here are some crucial points to keep in mind to maximize your co-parenting success. Respect your co-parent's boundaries: Chances are your former spouse has a different parenting style than you, with some conflicting rules. Rather than stress yourself about these differences, learn to accept that life is never consistent and it may actually be beneficial for your kids to experience other ways of doing things. Step back from micro-managing your co-parent's life. If the kids aren't in harm's way, let go and focus on

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Soberlink and The Child-Centered Divorce Network Honor National Child-Abuse Prevention Month by Addressing Alcohol Misuse and Promoting Healthy Shared-Parenting Time

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Sadly, in our nation and beyond, children are still being mistreated, neglected, and abused. In April, we recognize National Child-Abuse Prevention Month by raising awareness of how parents, professionals, and concerned parties can protect children from the lasting effects of adverse childhood experiences—especially those caused by a parent’s alcohol misuse. For many families, divorce doesn’t end the challenges—it often marks the beginning of new ones, especially when one parent struggles with alcohol abuse. The consequences of this dynamic can lead to emotional harm, instability, and in some cases, overlooked forms of child abuse. That’s why the Child-Centered Divorce Network has partnered with Soberlink this April. Together, we are committed to highlighting ways to make shared parenting safer, more secure, and less stressful for both parents and, most importantly, for the children caught in the middle. Soberlink’s portable alcohol monitoring devices have become a vital resource for

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Using Your Children As Spies Post-Divorce: Don’t Do It!

Probing and pressuring can be abusive when you cross the line By Rosalind Sedacca Following divorce it's tempting to turn your children into "spies." Don't go there! When children are told to report on the activities of the other parent, it places the children in a no-win situation. Even worse, using your children as spies has other negative consequences. It promotes lying and deceit. Not surprisingly, encouraging spying also leads to picking sides. And it often creates loyalty conflicts for your children. As a result, your kids may clam up, become untruthful, or untrustworthy. Not surprisingly, it's not easy to break the habit of inappropriately questioning your children after they return from time spent with their other parent. However, it must be done. It helps to think about it from your child's perspective. How do your kids feel when transitioning from one home to the other?

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Beware Children Parenting Their Divorcing Parents!

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce is tough enough. When children try to protect their parents from its consequences, the parenting is moving backwards and the results are devastating. Always be careful of what you share with your children regarding your own emotional state during and after your divorce. It can create enormous confusion for your children, along with guilt, frustration and despair. Children who experience their parents divorce are helpless to change the circumstances. But they often try. They want to do something to "fix" the situation, but they haven't a clue how. Sometimes they create solutions that make sense in their young minds, but actually cause greater complications. That's why it's so important for parents to take the emotional burden off of the shoulders of their children. Reassure them that Mom and Dad are still their parents and will continue to be there for them with compassion and love.

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5 Ways to Ease Post-Divorce Between-Home Transitions for Your Kids

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC During divorce proceedings, parenting plans or contact schedules are usually established to create a semblance of routine in this new chapter of family life. Easing the post-divorce between-home transitions is a crucial factor. I strongly believe in co-parenting whenever possible to serve the best interest of your children, It’s the reality of daily life experiences that puts everyone to the test. Here are 5 helpful ways to improve the process for everyone involved. Be patient with one another. Starting any new schedule in life is never easy. Chances are the between-homes transition will present a number of challenges for you as you adapt to the many responsibilities involved. At the same time, think about the challenges for your children who never signed on for this. Be especially empathic with them if they express frustration, anger and resentment at first. Also allow your children time to adjust

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Money Matters When Divorcing with Children: How to Navigate Finances For a Secure Future

Donna Cates, CDFA Divorcing when you have children adds a layer of complexity to an already challenging process. Beyond emotional considerations, financial decisions made during and after divorce can have long-lasting impacts on your children’s well-being and your financial future. At Money Matters Wealth Solutions, Donna Cates focuses on helping parents like you make informed, strategic decisions that support your goals and protect your family. Key Financial Considerations for Divorcing Parents 1. Child Support and Expenses Understanding how child support is calculated and what it covers is critical. But don’t stop there—consider extracurricular activities, medical expenses, and future education costs. These often-overlooked items can significantly impact your post-divorce budget. 2. Housing Decisions Deciding whether to keep the marital home can be an emotional choice, but it must also be a financially sound one. I help parents evaluate whether staying in the home aligns with their long-term financial

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The Advantage of Personalized Divorce Coaching Services

By Rosalind Sedacca, CDC Divorce is one of life’s most overwhelming transitions. For high-achieving individuals, the emotional toll and financial uncertainty can feel particularly heavy. Mardi Winder-Adams, a seasoned divorce coach with over 30 years of experience, specializes in guiding individuals through this challenging process with clarity, confidence, and empowerment. Her mission is simple: to help her clients reduce the emotional and financial costs of divorce and emerge stronger on their own terms. A Unique Approach to Divorce Coaching. Mardi understands that navigating divorce requires more than legal advice. Her personalized, one-on-one, confidential coaching focuses on the whole person—addressing emotional overwhelm, communication struggles, and decision- making challenges. If you’re feeling paralyzed by the endless “what-ifs” or intimidated by difficult conversations, Mardi’s coaching will prepare you to:  Speak your needs clearly and confidently without fear of confrontation.  Prepare for and participate in negotiations, mediation, and court proceedings with a

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