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Child Centered Divorce
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Consistent Co-parenting Makes Life Easie...

Consistent Co-parenting Makes Life Easier for Children after Divorce
Parenting after divorce takes patience, cooperation and collaboration. It’s not uncommon for one parent to notice behavior differences in their children when they return from a stay with their other parent. This can be extremely frustrating or irritating, especially if your values and parenting style doesn’t match that of your former spouse. What can you do to remedy the situation? Try having a conversation about how inconsistencies affect your children after divorce – and see if you can come to a better understanding. Consistency in parenting creates the smoothest transition after divorce – and in the years that follow. If the rules previously established in your home are still followed by both parents after the divorce, the children are likely to more easily adjust to the new transitions in their life. In families where Mom and Dad dramatically disagree about significant parenting decisions, the consequences can be disturbing and sometimes

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Divorcing Parents: Don’t Bring Your Batt

Divorcing Parents: Don’t Bring Your Battles to Court
You’re getting divorced and you’re angry, resentful, hurt, vindictive or any combination of other painful emotions. You want to lash out, to get back at your spouse or boost your own sense of esteem. Hiring the most aggressive litigious divorce lawyer you can find seems like your smartest choice. Your ex is in for a fight! If you’re a parent who is thinking along those lines, you’re making a choice you may long regret. If you choose a lawyer who directs you straight into a vicious court battle, the costs to you will be insurmountable – not only in financial outlay, but in emotional turmoil as well. Think long and hard before you move your divorce battle into the legal system. It is likely to take its toll on every member of your family – including your children – in the most destructive and gut-wrenching ways. It happens all the

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National Child-Centered Divorce Month Pr...

National Child-Centered Divorce Month Provided Resources to Families in Need
It was a valuable month of insights and education for the parents who participated in the activities presented during National Child-Centered Divorce Month in July. Parents were invited to receive a host of useful free gifts from divorce experts throughout North America. The gifts included complimentary coaching sessions, ebooks on topics related to divorce and families, audio seminars and more. In addition, divorce attorneys, mediators, financial analysts, coaches, authors and other professionals shared their expertise through a series of free teleseminars offered weekly during July. Missed any of these outstanding calls? I am making the links to the audio recordings of the teleseminars available to any divorced parents and professionals who didn’t hear them the first time around. The teleseminar titles are listed below: July 8: Finding the “gift” in Your Divorce July 14: Creating a win/win Child-Centered Divorce July 21: Healthy Transitioning Beyond Divorce July 28: Keys to Making

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Joining forces to bring Natl Child-Cente...

Joining forces to bring Natl Child-Centered Divorce Month into national focus!
The third annual recognition of National Child-Centered Divorce Month will take place throughout July across the United States. Everyone who plays a part in the divorce world – including therapists, attorneys, mediators, financial planners, coaches, educators, clergy and others – are encouraged to participate. Divorced parents are also invited to get their message heard about legal and co-parenting issues. The goal is spreading the word about viable alternatives available to divorcing parents to help them make the best decisions on behalf of their children. National Child-Centered Divorce Month was initiated by Rosalind Sedacca, a Certified Corporate Trainer and author of the acclaimed ebook, How Do I Tell the Kids about the Divorce? A Create-a-Storybook Guide to Preparing Your Children -- with Love! Sedacca is founder of the Child-Centered Divorce Network for parents and works closely with a broad group of therapists, attorneys, mediators, divorce coaches, educators and other professionals who

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The 9 Biggest Mistakes in Post-Divorce P...

The 9 Biggest Mistakes in Post-Divorce Parenting!
Some parents think once they are divorced and most of the decisions have been made, the worst is behind them. Unfortunately, parenting after divorce is a week by week experience. Your success depends on the decisions you make, your attitude toward your situation and your compassion for your innocent children. You may have heard it all before, but smart parents quiz themselves regularly to see if they are not falling into some of the traps of destructive post-divorce parenting. If you find yourself making any of these mistakes, it’s never too late to make amends. You may have to alter decisions, adjust some behaviors, give yourself an attitude adjustment and even apologize to your children – or to their Dad (or Mom)! Keep in mind, we all make mistakes that we regret. It’s part of the learning process – especially when we’re parents. It’s far better to set the course

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Dads and Step-Dads: Keeping it all in Pe...

Dads and Step-Dads: Keeping it all in Perspective
Being a divorced Dad can be one of the most frustrating experiences any parent will ever face. For many it seems like a can’t-win situation. You find that you’re constantly trying to prove yourself – to your ex, to the children, and often to a Step-Dad who has moved into the picture. If Mom has custody of the children, it’s more than likely that your children are seeing more of step-Dad than you. That can feel very

A Warning for Divorced Parents with Teen...

A Warning for Divorced Parents with Teens: Keep Dads Actively Parenting
>online casino I have several divorced friends and colleagues with teenagers who are displaying disturbing behavior problems. These teens, especially the boys, are acting out in all the ways parents pray they never have to experience: drugs, hanging with the wrong crowd, school problems, disrespectful and inconsiderate behavior -- you get the idea. While each of these teens have parents who are divorced, there's more to it than just that. Their biological fathers are not playing a strong role in their lives. And their mothers do not have

When Children Parent their Parents — a D

When Children Parent their Parents — a Divorce Disaster
Divorce is tough enough. When children try to protect their parents from its consequences, the parenting is moving backwards and the results are devastating. Always be careful of what you share with your children regarding your own emotional state during and after your divorce. It can create enormous confusion for your children, along with guilt, frustration and despair. Children who experience their parents divorce are helpless to change the circumstances. But they often try. They want to do something to “fix” the situation, but they haven’t a clue how. Sometimes they create solutions that make sense in their young minds, but actually cause greater complications. That’s why it‘s so important for parents to take the emotional burden off of the shoulders of their children. Reassure them that Mom and Dad are still their parents and will continue to be there for them with compassion and love. Tell them they need

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Coping with Co-Parenting Challenges Can ...

Coping with Co-Parenting Challenges Can be Challenging
By Rosalind Sedacca, CCT Frequently, I am asked “What is the key to successful co-parenting after divorce?” While there is no simple answer to that, I believe most professionals will agree the smartest strategy is learning how to remove anger, hostility or vindictiveness from your interactions with your former spouse. We all know that’s not always easy to do. However, the benefits you derive will more than make up for the sense of satisfaction or ego gratification you get when you hold on to those damaging emotions. If you’re intent on creating a child-centered divorce that strives for harmony between you and your ex, you need to initiate the conversation and model win-win solutions. If your ex doesn't want to cooperate, that’s when your patience will certainly be tested. Look for opportunities to clarify why working together as co-parents as often as possible will create far better outcomes for your

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